I have been married since I was 16 and having babies since I was 17 (Im22)I have 3 children I love my family very much and I dont regret getting married or having children but I do feel as though my life has passed me by. I feel like I am missing out on having a life because Im so tied down.
2007-03-10 20:00:17 · 21 answers · asked by goodgirl5567 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know what u are talking about i have two kids and been in a 10 year relationship. I am 22 too. I don't think of it as i miss out on life i think of it as if i have done and know a lot for the people my age. You could be a big help to people our age. you already know what if feel like to be a family man and what it takes so you can help other male who are about to go down that road. Make sure you have your me time.
2007-03-11 04:05:08 · answer #1 · answered by lil mama 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is tough. Because the easy answer is no you're not missing anything; your family is what life is all about. The hard answer is we all have to learn for ourselves. Part of growing up is learning who we are once we get out from our parents wings. You didn't miss it, you just experienced it differently. You're still learning who you are. 25/26 is when we start to reach that finish line.
Watching your peers without real responsibility and worries sounds very appealing but the fact is you can't be where they are at. I would suggest you and your wife find some friends around the same age and similar family situations. Do things together every other weekend. It would help if you and your wife do more things as a couple and try to enjoy your age. If clothing or music make you feel like your participating then go with it. It's those two things that we use to define our youth.
Try not to place distance between your wife and what you want as an individual. It will only drive you apart. You both should try planning a trip to Vegas where you both can let your hair down.
2007-03-11 05:42:48 · answer #2 · answered by crackerboy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not wrong to have these sort of feelings, one can never help the way they feel. You were obviously so in love at the time when u got married and started to make a family especially at such a young age and its great to see that you still are, just coz u feel down and that ur life has been cut short of things doesnt mean anything at all. I can only suggest to go out meet other young parents like yourself. maybe organise to have a day to yourself once in a while.Pamper yourself and just spend time with friends with out your kids and spuose or get the grandparents to have the kids for a weekend so just you and your spuose can go away for a romantic weekend.
2007-03-11 05:31:18 · answer #3 · answered by littlemisssaigon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you do, pretty much everyone who gets married young has those feelings. Most of the time those feelings are the beginning of the end, but sometimes couples get through them together. You'll always go in and out of having those feelings, but if you and your spouse keep on keepin on, the two of you will someday know a love like you've never experienced or imagined. A seasoned love that will be worth all the doubt and any feeling of missing out on anything. Hang in there. It's worth waiting for.
2007-03-11 05:06:29 · answer #4 · answered by itry007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you have been missing out. It's one thing to raise a family, it's another to have been children yourself when you started.
Find a babysitter and the two of you need to find some fun in your lives. I've been married since I was 30 and even I feel the way you feel.
Both my husband and I go out separately on occassion just to do things on our own. I like to dance and he likes to yap with his guy friends. Big deal, we end up together at the end of both our evenings feeling like we've had our own experiences that we enjoy.
As long as you respect your marriage vows and the relationship you have with each other you don't need to miss out on much.
2007-03-11 05:08:44 · answer #5 · answered by Mangomum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not wrong to feel that way nor is it wrong to take some time to do something for you. Take a day off, call in sick and have some fun, with no responsibly. Grab your buddies and fly,.drive to Las Vegas do an all niter. I am sure your family would support you. You have earned it. I have much respect for you and the choices you made. Being a husband, a father and proving for your family first. HATS OFF TO YOU.
VIA LAS VEGAS OR
WHERE EVER THE WIND BLOWS YOU!!!!
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2007-03-11 08:19:29 · answer #6 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could find a way of having fun whilst still being a good father and a faithful husband. My friends and i have managed it for years. We too have our commitments but still go out as regular as clockwork once or twice a week we still go to occasional allnighter. We are ageing Mods so we listen to northern soul. Life doesn't have to end just because you get married it didn't for me . Look on the bright side you will have some one to make you you're cocoa and bring you you're slippers when you are old and grey.
2007-03-11 05:15:59 · answer #7 · answered by Bertie D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you're not tied down, that's your life now, Its great that you're wife and you are still together, other teenagers who get married early doesnt last that long. Be happy.. enjoy life with your family. its just a phase you're going through, im sure it'll disappear once you get back to the reality that you already have a family.
2007-03-11 05:44:59 · answer #8 · answered by ~rAveLic!oUs~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. When you start out young, as you did, you really DO miss out on a lot of things. Just remember that even though you didn't get to go to college parties, those college kids didn't get to watch their child take their first steps. It's a trade-off.
Personally, I think you're the one to be jealous of...not the kids who get to party every night. You have a purpose, and it's a much more noble one than going out and getting drunk!
2007-03-11 05:04:02 · answer #9 · answered by Meg M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im in the same situation you are...and he did leave because of not being able to do what "kids" do. my fiance left me because of it only a week ago...just make sure that you talk to your wife...tell her how you feel. and go from there dont make any descions that u will regret in the end. I think that is what my ex is doing now. regretting!
2007-03-11 09:09:00 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋