Here is my dilemma! I am a mom of 3, my oldest son is almost 13 and by nature, pretty athletic. He is about 5'9" and 165 pounds and has not yet hit puberty. He is going to be a big guy like my husband. He plays all sports and is in 7th grade this year, he played football last fall for the school team and although he likes playing it, he really likes soccer too! He has played both since he was small. I know he would much rather be playing soccer for the school, because he is very close with the coach who is also his math teacher and really treats all the kids great, also he has lots of fun because all his good friends are on the soccer team! I know he really would prefer the soccer, but does football to please my husband. My husband is constantly putting down soccer and feels my son has a career or future in football! My son is very smart as well, so I think he will get into a good college anyways. My husband makes him feel soccer is wimpy and not a real sport! How can I talk to him?
2007-03-10 19:41:07 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Sports ➔ Football (American)
i would tell your husband that if hes good at soccer let him play because your only going to be a child once. also if he is good at soccer he could also have a career in it and soccer is a way bigger sport around the word. so tell him to get his head out of the gutter and let him play!
also when have u ever heard of a football player make 250 milion dolars for 5 years. thats 95 dollars per hour, if im corect!
beackham if u didnt know signed a contract for 250 million for 5 years, hes not even the worlds best player!
2007-03-10 19:50:21 · answer #1 · answered by chivasrock1818 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well soccer may be ok when your are younger, I believe that football can halp you child alot. It helps teach your kid strenght disipline toughness, as well as team work.
Are you sure your son really like soccer or wants to be on the team becasue thats what all his friends are doing.
If anything I would let him play soccer for a year or two intill he reaches high school. I know alot of soccer players that have switched over to football pretty easily. Soccer can help him become a better football player too.
Or maybe even let him try to balance both
But at the end of the day you cant force him what to choose.
It has to be his choice and thats part of growing up.
2007-03-11 04:39:34 · answer #2 · answered by Tom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I recently learned that the Patriots' new receiver Wes Welker was quite a soccer player as well. I know that Deion Branch was also a college soccer play and now plays at the pro level.
I played college football and always thought that soccer was kind of wimpy, too. I have learned that it is not. Maybe you could get your husband to attend a pro soccer game and see how physical of a game it really is.
2007-03-16 12:10:14 · answer #3 · answered by James G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i played both sports since i was 5 , i am now 30, i have lots of experience in both sports... to play soccer ,you need phenomenal endurance, to play and football you need size smarts and strength ..from the sounds of it your son has the build of a football player ,,honestly i would tell your kid to play soccer for the endurance and conditioning and it will make him happy..also to play football to get a free education when its college time..your more likely to be recruited at a college for football then soccer..i think your hubby sees that your son has the build and since hes a smart kid could be a great football player ...i also think both sports are played pretty much in the same season during high school,,if it could be worked out ,maybe play both but let your son choose which would be his main one.(i.e. if a game is on same day let play whichever he wants or whichever team needs him more that day)...its a tough choice mam,,but football seems an easy way to get where you want to go in life as far as financially.. good luck and i hope i gave you some ideas out of everything i wrote.
2007-03-10 20:51:04 · answer #4 · answered by fjy7771 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to stop, think, and listen. He's not playing, your son is... I'm a former soccer player that has a son that loves football and plays at a high level. Filling your son's mind with nonsense about a sport not being tough enough tells me that maybe he hasn't hit puberty either.
2007-03-10 19:51:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he thinks soccer is wimpy, tell him to go try it some time. I've never played soccer, but I coached it at a boys club. I think it takes more of a man to run up and down a soccer field for extended periods of time than to run a play and rest for 60 seconds and do it again. Anyway, I think your son should do what makes him most happy, not what makes others happy.
2007-03-10 20:12:56 · answer #6 · answered by Brian D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, that is all culturally based. For instance, in Japan, men are more feminine, and girls find that attractive (though of course some Japanese women like masculine- everyone can be different in this). I have a friend who is an American and is attracted to slightly feminine men. It does get very annoying- but stereotypes will always be around. People get on me because I don't like to dress overtly feminine and I refuse to sound like a valley girl, lol. I also don't cook- hate shopping- and handle my liquor better than most men lol.
2016-03-16 08:43:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your husband likes basketball as assume he probably does, explain that soccer is much like basketball with formations and executing plays on the ''fly'' so to speak. soccer isn't as popular as well as it is in every country on the face of the planet but ours and Canada (hockey) that soccer will get him into a great college such as Ohio State or USC or a great one close to home which I'm sure is a main concern of yours being a mother and all, not to say your son wont on his academics but lets face it, sports get much better scholarships than academics do these days because they bring more money to the university and such, but if loves and excels at soccer then he should pursue that which makes him happy.
2007-03-10 20:58:18 · answer #8 · answered by Deemer 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay I am assuming you are asking "How can I talk to him" meaning your husband.....First off just give him a slight smack in the head, just to get his attention......Then just simply remind him that it is your sons life and that is one of lifes simpler choices and either one is a good one. If your son wants to play soccer and thats what he is happy doing, then your sons happiness should be the most important thing....And as soon as he says that your son would rather play football, grab him by his ear and walk him to your son and have him ask him......So you dont put your foot in your mouth you should verify your speculations on your sons true feelings.....With that said, this is coming from a die hard football fan and father of three grown boys....Peace
2007-03-10 20:59:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
honestly. if your son continues to play both tell your husband to leave him alone. it 's no longer about what your husband wants its all about the boy. he can still make money in soccer.your husband should be supportive of the boy . i guess i would tell him since the boy plays both hes a better athlete than most who play only one. eventually your son will pick one or the other and it should be his choice. if he ask dad , dad can tell him his opinon. but its just that an opinon. sounds to me like dad also needs to grow up. he should be proud even if his kid was in the chess club. i know dad wants a strong boy to be a strong man. physically strong dont mean a good man. a good man is always a strong man.
2007-03-16 10:19:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋