my husband left me and my daughter and our unborn child 6 months ago..he started cheating on me while working out of town...he met a lady 10 yrs older than him who he lives with now..he still tries to have sex with me and gets jealous of me ...he says shes fun and theyre always out drinking. i think thats what he likes about her their always drinkin and with me well as soon we had our daughter fun for me was going out to dinner or a to a movie..i didnt want to party anymore i wanted to be a family..and do family things he wanted to drink and have friends over like 6 times i caught him using drugs and almost left him..i just dont understand why he dosent care about his life the biggest reason i was like that was because he is on probation and i love him i didnt want him to end up in jail he says i would ***** alot but i see it as for his own good he now sees my daughter once a month for 20-30 min..because his new gf dosent allow him to come see her.im due in may. shes left him 3
times
2007-03-10 18:48:37 · 16 answers · asked by nahdya21 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sounds like a springer show to me. you became his mom, I think it pretty dirty of him to leave you while pregnant and with small kids, no matter how low he has sunk, that's the bottom. a man leaving two females for some strange azz is something I can't conceive of, but it does happen all the time. he has some growing t do and the way it worked out may have nothing at all to do with you and everything to do with him learning some lessons, you will do fine. I will tell ya that I always had a problem with the idea of marrying a woman with a ready made family and raising some guys kids, but my concept of that has changed over the years and I don't find it as near as repulsive as I use to. someone will come along for you . girlfriends want to be # 1 not # 2 or 3. just like you want a guy with no kids so you can be #1 in his life.
2007-03-10 19:02:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! Sounds like my marriage. I wanted to settle and do the family things too but my ex wanted to party claming she never got to live those years enough. So I started to party with her and while she just wanted to party to meet people to sleep with. Before me she always had guys that were thugs, couldn't hold a job and all around fake people. I invited a old friend from HS over that I hadn't seen in years and that was exactly the type of guy he was. It was the end of our marriage when I caught her asking him out on my B-day at my brothers at my party. Its been 7 months and they are still together but it might have something to do with her being 8 months pregnant. She says the baby is his (I know its not mine) but the time doesn't make a lot of sense. So anyway too your ? by the sounds of it, it won't last. The only problem with that answer is thats what everyone said about my ex and her new man, so there is no real answer who knows? I guess time will tell. I really wish the best for you and its sad that there is men out there that would walk away from no only their child but unborn child and pregnant wife. Stay strong and may you find a man who really wants to settle down and have a family!..
2007-03-11 08:57:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite obviously, your ex does not deserve you and is not interested in a family. It probably will last until the older lady gets tired of drinking or gets cirrhosis of the liver and has to be institutionalized. This woman cannot legally prevent him from coming to see his child if he really wants to.. However, you will need to focus on your own health, independence from this man and care of your children. You are better off without him and do not give him the undeserved reward of having sex with you any more. It doesn't matter how long they last if he is doing drugs because he will be of no use to anyone that way.
2007-03-11 04:00:46 · answer #3 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a responsibility as a father which he seems not to really want. He still wants to party, have sex with other women and do drugs. If his new girlfriend does not allow him to see your daughter, then he allows it. No matter how long he stays with this woman, he really won't be happy for very long. He obviously has very little self-respect and is unfaithful to his wife, his children and his family. There is no benefit of doubt to give him.
If I were you, I would be very concerned about your life. You deserve to be treated with TLC and not like doormat. You need to be with a man who will be home for you so that he can spend time with you, his daughter and gaze into your eyes with joy as May approaches every so quickly.
2007-03-11 04:11:21 · answer #4 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You almost sound like me, He is a loser baby and he will eventually wind back up in jail b/c of drugs. I've been where you have been and have been there for over 10 years. My ex got of of prison for the 3rd time this summer and I was considering taking him back until he cheated and moved in with another woman but he is miserable with her now and I know he wishes he were back with me and our son.
This guy is immature and he does not want to take responsibility for his family and drugs and booze is an easy cop out for him. And that slut he left you for has no business interfering in his affairs with his kids. If he really wanted to see her he would but she is insecure and jealous of you that's why she is acting like that. I hope you file for child support for the kids and move on in life b/c he won't treat you right and you deserve a better happy life with your kids.
2007-03-11 04:23:12 · answer #5 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I see. I don't know how long he will last with his new gf and I don't really care. I don't see why you do. It sounds like you wanted a family and he didn't want to have one. I wonder if your daughter was an accident or perhaps an 'accident'. It doesn't sound like you were very responsible when making your choices to have children, when and who with. Ah well, you made your mistakes. Take care of your kids. Forget the bum. Just go after him for child support when you need it and the kids? Well, they will have to suffer because of your poor choices in life.
2007-03-11 03:53:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...well who knows how long they will last, they both sound no good. Hang in there and try not to worry about what or who he's doing, you are way better than that and now you can have the "family" you wanted, even if its you and your daughter only. He sounds really messed up right now, let him stay far away if thats what he wants, at least until he cleans up his act, if he ever does.
2007-03-11 03:54:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real question here is why are you worried about him file for child support and find someone worthy of you and your children that loser sure isn't.. him and the gf deserve each other any man that would allow a new piece of *** to stop him from seeing his child is a loser and you don't want some floundering druggie around your children even if he is their daddy do you
2007-03-11 04:02:44 · answer #8 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is one cruel man! I suspect that you are financially dependent on him?? Why would you want to sit around and wait until she kicks him out?
He has no respect for you and certainly doesn't care about you and his kids. I am really feeling sorry for you to go through this while you are pregnant!
Only you can change this horrible situation you are in. Do the honourable thing and file for a divorce.
2007-03-11 03:57:47 · answer #9 · answered by bibi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say good riddance to bad rubbish.Why do you care about whom he sees?why would you want him back in your life.he is a drug addict and a cheat.If you bring him back into your life,don't be surprised if 20 years from now your children become dependent and unreliable.Save yourself and your children cut off all contact.
2007-03-11 04:04:50 · answer #10 · answered by miraclehand2020 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋