i m living separate from my husband n not feeling able 2 deciede that should i live with my husband or should i become full time aol teacher bcoz my husband is taking me back on some conditions .first that i have 2 leave aol 100% n my parents 4 one year ,i agreed but inside i want to do sewa n attend satsanng also n still he is confused about me bcoz of this problem i became very week n everyone was blamming only on me that i was wrong so i feel that i m alone in this world but want to be strong plz guruji give me the right path , everything is in ur hands guruji everytime i cry n everymoment i pray to u plz i want to live my life happily n i have surrendered plz guruji give me strength .love u
2007-03-10 18:24:59 · 7 answers · asked by sonia b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
So you said what you have to give up, what is your husband giving up so the two of you can get back together? Is he going to leave his job or parents for one year as well? Your parents will always be there for you will he? he wants you to give your job up so you have no money to leave him and stand on your own two feet and is trying to put a wedge between you and your parents, I would not go back to this man unless he is willing to give things up including his parents for a year and his job. your only asking of him what he is asking of you
2007-03-10 18:36:59 · answer #1 · answered by celesta_palmer2001 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Probably your involvement in satsang and sewa is too much and it's affectign the harmony of the family you are in now. Since your parents donot make you realize this, your husband wants you to be away from them for an year.
Why is it that when a man indulges too much on his work, people, specially wives feel he's neglecting his responsibilites as a husband and when a women does it, people talk about women liberation? When a wife gives importance to her parents, it's her right, but when a guy gives importance to his parents, he's a freak? This world is full of hypocrite...
I suggest you better look into yourself before making any decision. Their problem is definitely not your views, but the level of involvemnet. If you can create a friendly relationship with your in laws and your husband, I'm sure they won't mind your satsangs and sewa.
All the best...
:-)
2007-03-10 20:11:57 · answer #2 · answered by plato's ghost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dear, if u are actually in lovew ith your hubby than nothng rong in going back to him, but he is putting some conditions to take u back in his life, then thats quite weird. But anyways, if u want to do some seva who can stop u dear, not even ur hubby!! no society no culture says u shd not do seva, thats a good thing to do and everyone shd be a part of it at any point of time!! Talk to your hubby and try n sort it out or tell him i want freedom to a certain level as well as my own space, if u can provide me that im happy to come back to your life or else ill have to look out for a change...!! thats the hard line of today.. but in the end u have to take the decision.. if u feel strong abt going back go, else just stay the way u r.. alone and try n b happy!!
wish u luck
take care
Deeps
2007-03-10 19:13:19 · answer #3 · answered by Deeps 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask your husband why he want these two conditions I think he should have some big reason for this and if he refuses to tell the reason donot live with him because it is a big thing he want you to leave your carrer and your parents both may God help you Jai Shani Dev.
2007-03-10 20:53:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are awfully conflicted--why does he want you to leave your parents? Kind of a red flag there. It sounds like you want to meditate your problem away; that won't work. You certainly need to calm yourself so you can figure out what your feelings are.
Don't use meditation as a cure-all. You still have to deal with some hard feelings and work those through.
Jai Guru Dev!
2007-03-10 18:53:42 · answer #5 · answered by theimp_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont go back to that mayajal.you already have a right path follow it spread the message of love and do seva as ur doing it.if you fell to have a partner adopt a child.dont go back if you go back it will mean that your wrong and i know ur not wrong ur on the right path.dont leave it this ur exam your fasing maya dont bowdown to it.ur life will be miserable if u leave this path and go back to that cage.
2007-03-10 22:26:09 · answer #6 · answered by cloudboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur problem is that u r trying to find answer from jai gurdev whi can not solve ur problems.
so come back to real world and face the problem so that u r strong enough and take firm decisions.
2007-03-11 21:45:44 · answer #7 · answered by Kumar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋