I need a girls opinion.....heres the situation, I have close friend
who I have been friends with for 6 years. We met in 10 grade.
In our senior year of high school (2003) I developed deep
affectionite feelings for her, I told her how I felt, and I even asked her out, but she told me she wanted be friends, which
was ok for me, however my feelings have grown and haven't gone away even though I tried getting rid of it. I feel like our friendship hasn't been the same since I told her, there is nothing bad going on or anything, but somehow I feel that
our friendship isn't what it once was. Fo some reason I have
hope for her to change her mind one day and give it a chance while still respecting her position. Do you think it was a mistake telling her how I feel??? And do you think maybe someday she will change her mind? Wether I feel love or not for her I dont know, but I have a feeling these feelings wont go away, I wouldnt want to lose our friendship, I cherish it a lot.
2007-03-10 18:23:26 · 8 answers · asked by agentemm90 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't think it was a mistake telling her how you feel, and it sounds like you handled it nicely. It is best to have tried and "failed" than to have never known.
I don't know her or you, so I don't know if a change in feelings is possible for her. If you are worried about your friendship, then you may want to try to move on and take interest in other women. However, since it has been about 4 years since the last time you brought it up, it MAY be safe to hint at it. Go with your instincts.
Sorry I'm being a bit vague--since I don't know you two, it's hard for me to give good advice.
2007-03-10 18:42:14 · answer #1 · answered by Esma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well girlfriend, you messed up, you can't fix it and it will never be the same. leave it alone and let it die, you literally have to start all over. don't drag out the friend thing, treat her just like any other girl you are looking to become more than friends with. don't play the pity thing and say to yourself, this is what I get after 6 years of friendship. you may see how she really treats other suitors and you may not like it. but expect it. and don't get frustrated by how you are getting treated. you are playing by a new set of rules now. you get to show her your manly side, you get to let her know you want to have sex with her and not be ashamed for your thoughts, that's what guys do. e-mail me and I will give you some guy tips that I won't post. been there done that as they say. why is your question for the ladies, most of us guys have been there done that a time or two. we can tell you what not to do. womens feelings are fickle,
2007-03-10 18:42:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 02:20:38 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to tell. I have been friends with one guy 20 years and he wanted more but settled for being a friend. I've never felt more than friendship for him and never will.
It wasn't a mistake to tell her. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. But you need to look around for other women with your friend's good traits.
2007-03-10 18:32:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you tell someone you have intimate feelings towards them things always change. its the risk you take when comfronting someone. I had a friend who i was best friends with after we graduated he said he was in love with me. well i of course screwed this up and when i began to have feelings for him he had already left for the air force. my advice is try to move on and if she likes you and you like her then do something about it. until then you risk getting your heart broken. and the question you gotta ask yourself is can you remain friends with her and still know she doesnt feel intimate with you? if you can stay friends with her then do it but move on. if you want to get over her you must depart from her for a while till you feel nothing for her.
2007-03-10 18:46:14 · answer #5 · answered by oneandonlyness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember that you're already on the friend ladder, it's honestly already too late for her to change her mind
2007-03-10 18:28:41 · answer #6 · answered by www.japanvideogames.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i think its not bad to tell to her how u feel about her coz ur just being honest to her
2007-03-10 18:27:12 · answer #7 · answered by aira_love21@yahoo.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FRIENSHIP/LOVE is all about being honest......
Go ahead and tell her about hw u feel.....
GOOD LUCK:)
2007-03-10 18:40:14 · answer #8 · answered by chocolaty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋