have you ever lost someone so dear,who and what have you been thru?and is it over by now!?

Question

i lost my mama 3 months ago and i still can't get over it!

Answer 1

I have lost a sister. The best thing you can do is try to remember the times you spent together. The pain will eventually go away. Try not to allow yourself to slip down into an emotional hole. Just try to keep your chin up, and remember the things they taught you. They can hear your prayers if you believe they can.

Answer 2

Trust me when I tell you that I've been there and all you can do is keep the faith and know that she is not longer suffering and that she is in a better place now.

I had always lost people that were in my life when I was growing up but never no one really close to me well that is until my father passed away. It took everything out of me and although it's been 9 years now it still think about him. the thing with me was that I felt that I didn't get a chance to mourn his death because I am the oldest child out of 3 boys and I was still in college while both of my brothers were in high school. I was told by everyone that I had to be the man now and take care of my brothers and my mother. I just feel like when everyone else was crying and remembering him I had to hold back so that I wouldn't upset my brothers and my mother too bad.

Something that I do now is just remember all the good times that you shared with your mother and those memories should get you through on thse tough days. And just as a heads up don't think that nothing is wrong with you when her birthday passes and the holidays come up and you find yourself crying or thinking about her it's a natural feeling that you wil go through and it's perfectly normal.

Remember that you can talk to her anytime by just saying a simple prayer and letting her know that you love her. I talk to my dad all the time. And although she's no longer here in the physical scence she's still watching over you everyday and she would want you to continue to make her proud.

One last thing don;t ever be afraid to talk to those around you when things seem too hard to bear. Someone will be there to listen to you when you just want to talk about your mom. If not you can always contact me. Please take care of yourself and keep your head up and remember all of the things that she taught you as a little girl and most importantly remember that she loves you.

Answer 3

Yoyo, I so feel your pain and your grief. But three months is not long enough for you to process such a loss. When my dad died a couple of years ago, I never thought I would live thru so much grief. The pain will go away, as you feel it now, but it is going to take a lot longer. I wish I could take it for you, because it's not something I would wish on anybody. It's never over, it just gets easier to live with. The only thing I would suggest is to just let it be painful. Don't deny yourself the RIGHT to cry and cry and HURT. It's okay. You can't try to stuff away those feelings and say, "OH WELL, IT'S OVER", because it's NOT. And it will never be over. It's the 'human experience'. Let me know if you need somebody to talk to, ko?

Answer 4

My cousin, Matt, two and a half years ago. He was so young.. 18 years old, had a cute little baby.. he was on some PRESCRIBED medication and it put him 'dead asleep'. He asfixiated in his sleep.. as in.. he was sick.. threw up.. but couldnt do anything about it because he was sleeping. Im still not over it. I hadnt seen him much for maybe 2 years before he died but I loved him so much.. like a brother.. and he practically was... You will never be over it completely, because you will always have something remind you of that person. Youll always miss that person, but it doesnt mean that you will be devastaded for the rest of your life. I dont cry anymore. When I think about him now, All I do is smile...
Give it time, and youll be ok

Answer 5

I lost my daddy when I was 9(I'm 22 now) and I still think about him and cry from time to time. My mother is not dead but has not been in my life since I was about 10 or 11...it hurts but you gotta move on with your life, just let the memories of her live on in your heart and pass those memories on to your children and grandchildren. Make her proud of you everyday, no matter what. Time heals, give it time.

Answer 6

I don't think you ever get over it. I lost my mother too. But you do realize, even after years pass, that the person is still with you. You still have them so close to you.

Answer 7

well,In time the pain will lessen, but the memory will last forever, and then again, your will have saddened moments, and again, it shall leave you. I have lost a son in 1975, I think of him a lot, but the pain has diminished, yet every x-mas, I see him coming in the front door with our presents, this is the hardest time for me, sad, quiet, nothing deliberate, but someone you love, will never be forgotten, you just have to get on with life, and when you think of them, they are thinking of you, so enjoy the time