How can I mend this broken friendship?

Question

About a year ago. I quit talking to my three best friends. We were so close... I was closest to one of them, Kelly.

I was going through a terrible time in my life. My parents were on the brink of divorce, I was diagnosed with a chronic disease, and due to that disease, I had to quit public school (I am now a senior). I felt like I couldn't turn to my friends and I got romantically involved with a man ten years older than I.

Now looking back, it was the worst mistake of my life. I confided in Kelly about my relationship and she proceeded to tell Anna and Sarah (my other best friends) about my relationship. After six months, Sarah and Anna told me that they knew. I was furious that Kelly told them without my knowing. They just wanted to help me and I ignored them. A year has passed and we are now communicating again. I went to eat with Sarah and Anna and I apologized and we cried. I miss them so much. How can I still make things better between us? I am a different person now. Help me.

I have forgiven them, I just hope they can forgive me. Thanks guys, for good answers so far. I appreciate it.

Answer 1

Well, to tell you the truth, I had almost the same situation with you.

Well, I think it's better to tell your friends why you did that -- which maybe because you were just too sad and mad at the same time to think of what you are doing.

You could also tell them that truth -- which is that you have regret what you have done before.

Well, you could ask them anyway if they could give you one more chance to prove that your worthy to be their friend, and you promise to do your best to be a good friend -- and of course you have to do your promises.

Answer 2

It sounds like your still suffering from some sort of guilt by not keeping up the relationships during your difficult period. As time goes on and you grow older...relationships will ebb and flow. A true and mature friendship will remain strong with test of time. It's okay to let distance occur between friends...you will do this your entire life. It's how the parties handle the reunion that is the "tell" of a true friendship. Don't be so hard on yourself, you're just being human.

Answer 3

First off all, congrats to you for getting your life back on track! It's difficult to admit your mistakes and get your **** together, esp. at such a young age, as you are.

You are taking all the right steps so far. It sounds like they have forgiven you, but it might take a little time for things to get completely back to normal. That's okay. Just keep trying, suggest things you guys can do together (that don't involve guys) w out being too clingy. Most likely, they will come around--and if they don't, they weren't your real friends to begin with.

Answer 4

being a friend is not being a sister or a brother a friend is somebody that you hang on when you like to enjoy things, you can rely on friends only in pleasure most of the time but in time of being desperate the only person that you can trust is your self. you have to control your self concentrate on evrything that you gonna do sometimes mistakes happen its because we're only human telling secret to somebody sometime hurt the most sometimes ask your self like " do i have to do this, that or should i be quite, and the last part is do i have to pray . for my life for my love be carefull and love your self.. only you can help your self

Answer 5

i think u should learn 2 forgive and forget...and accept that u made a huge mistake....u should learn from ur mistakes and promise that u wont do that again...

Answer 6

If your friends are really going to be your friends, time will heal, otherwise, move on. You will find other friends.

Answer 7

just be who you really are...