When pregnant, why do people think they can make comments about you?

Question

Why is it that when a woman is pregnant, she is an open invitation to comments about her body. As with for example, "wow, your boobs are huge, you're having a girl right"? Or, "you have gotten so much wider, you must be having a girl right"? Um, did she just say my hips are huge? I also noticed that with Americans (my hubby is American), they say that if you get prettier during your pregnancy, you are having a boy, so are they calling me ugly if they say they think it's a girl? Hispanics by the way, say girls make you prettier, should I instead feel prettier? I guess depending on who commented right?
As if my emotions weren't already all over the place, all I need is to be told that I have hooters like Pamela Anderson (which may be still get strech marks) and hips like Jlo (also open to stretch marks). I guess the only good thing is that my family (the hispanics) say I look like it's a girl, while my hubby's says I look like it's a boy. Oh, & I don't know my baby's sex yet.

Hahaha!! I already wrote a question about the belly touching situation! I haven't yet decided which is worse, the strangers touching your belly or the rude comments that are meant to be "wise"! lol

I have not yet gained a pound!! I lost 6 in the first trimester, and from those 6, I have only gained 5, so I am still 1 pound under what I weighed pre-pregnancy. I can't possibly look BIG!
By the way, I'm 16 weeks and 4 days.

Answer 1

:) Yeah, a woman seems like an open book. I hate when people make those comments so I would never comment on another womans pregnancy. It's about as bad as "oh your huge! Are you having twins"? Also, I'm not much for old wives tales. I'll know when I see the ultrasound. It's hard not to take these things to heart when your emotions are in full swing. My hubby says "I love you" (which he says all the time) and it made me cry because it meant that he didn't love me before, or "You're sex" and I was ugly before. :) I would not usually think this way. Most of the time it's oh thank you honey your just as sexy, or I love you too. I know he loves me and thinks I'm beautiful. With some of the comments I just let them go in one ear and out the other. Most of the time if it's oh your huge, I would say my doctor says I am fine. I say this without being rude but they have to think about the comments and realize that maybe it was rude for them to say.

19 weeks pregnant.

Answer 2

I haven't gained a lot of weight during my pregnancy. My last dr's visit, my midwife said I had only gained a pound all month. Now i'm 32 weeks pregnant and all the weight is in my belly (my body didn't get bigger just my belly). I'm smaller than other pregnant ladies I know that aren't as far along as me because I haven't gained a lot. My midwife says I am perfectly fine and right on track...so I hate comments like wow you're getting big or my bf's mom says, "that's baby's coming on out there". I think, "where do you expect her to go???" I guess people don't realize we are already sensitive about our bodies...add that with pregnancy hormones and we are like raging bulls!

I don't have too many people rubbing my belly (maybe only 5 or 6 people including family). So I haven't had that problem!

Answer 3

hehe, I feel your pain. This is what I did - just start crying, and then when they ask what's wrong, blubber something about being insecure with your body and "everyone" making comments. They'll either run in the other direction or apologize.

As far as all those comments are concerned, however, they're just old wives tales. My sister even carried my nephew high and I carried my daughter low - and everyone swore we were having a child of the opposite gender because of old wives tales.

Congrats on the baby! :)

Answer 4

haha, I noticed Americians are more vocal too (i'm Canadian). I just say that isn't appropriate and be mildly offended. If pushed, I state that it wouldn't be appropriate if I wasn't pregnant, why would it be appropriate during pregnancy?

I think it's because they sub-consciously are excited and think you are too and in a left-handed way want to share in the happiness yet to come.

Then you get the perfect strangers who who think they have the right to touch your belly...

Answer 5

I was i guess 9 weeks pregnant n bloated this smart lil girl I think about 11 says to her friend OMG that girl is fat... And I hate people touching my belly strangers and friends it gets annoying...