Does he still love Me serious answers only please?

Question

My husband has been offered a job miles from home which will pay well, he says it will be cheaper if I stay home so he can save money by being in staff accomodation and get us a rented place and then I can join him and relocate to near the job, and also for me to stay at home so we don't lose our current home if the job doesn't go well but I will be joining him in 3 months, when he has found a place, he will still come home 2 days a week. does he still love me or am i being silly

Answer 1

i think you are letting your insecurities get the better of you, which isnt silly but is easy to do.
he's trying to improve your standard of living and at least he does work, as some men wont get off their ***!
try explaining to him that you really appreciate him working so hard for you and even moving to different location, but you're going to miss him like crazy so what can you sort out to ensure daily contact? invest in a laptop for him and 2 web cams so you cans ee each other every day? can yuo swap visits each weekend or is it very far?
is it actually a subconcious fear of moving away from a familiar environment?
as long as you have a set date for moving there and he doesnt keep putting you off with invalid reasons, then you'll be fine. syat cool and calm.
and be thankful you have a man who loves you and wants to provide for you
good luck!

Answer 2

It's hard to say whether or not your husband loves you. Only you can actually answer that. I guess it would depend. Has he ever cheated on you or have you ever had any real reason to think he has cheated on you? I honestly don't know if I could cope with that either. I met a woman that had two small kids (2 years old and 8 months old). Her situation was slightly different, but her husband was a truck driver that was always gone. Sometimes he would come home once or twice a week and sometimes once or twice every two weeks. While he was out "supposedly" working, he was sleeping with different woman in different states.

I am not saying that your husband is going to cheat on you, but I am saying don't be blind and always follow your FIRST instinct. Maybe you and your husband should sit down first and go over the pros and the cons of the relocation. Sometimes money is not always a good reason to relocate. Good Luck!

Answer 3

He loves you without a doubt, It sounds to me he is unsure of his new job and how it will work out. If it doesn't you still have your home and your keeping that safe for the two of you, and he is trying to be money smart as well staying at staff accomodations and that is also a safety net for him incase he does not like the job. Coming home two days a week does say I love you and I am sure their will be plenty of phone calls between the two of you between those two days a week, It sounds like it has nothing to do with you but about how well the job will work out and if he will like it. My Husband worked in a different city for three months and came home on his days off that was 17 years ago and we are still together, and yes I did move close to where he worked but that was only when he was sure he had the job and off the probation period

Answer 4

It all depends on your family circumstances at present.
Surely, you know all better than we do here on this site. How long have you been married? What is the normal atmosphere like when you and your husband are together?

I suppose you can sense if there's something suspicious around his deeds or words.

If you feel there is a room of suspicion, you can still have some ways of making it sure, by calling him every night and paying attention to how he behaves when he comes home every 2 days a week. I hope you have a sense of smelling men's dirty works.

Otherwise, you'd better try to stay calm for a while and let it develop as he suggests.

Judging from what you say here, I think it is still within the safe zone.

Answer 5

Yes you are You have never relocate I can tell that is the way it works.We wives are alone in the beginning because it takes time to find a place and don't forget your husband only has a couple of hours to look for somewhere to live.I have relocated 2 times now and it isn't easy.My husband came home on the weekends for 3 months before we found a house to move into.This is hard on your husband so don't make it any harder for him everything will work out you just need to give it time.

Answer 6

There is two ways to look at this -

1) he is a genuine guy and wants the best for you and what he says is true.

OR

2) the suspicious side of me thinks he could be thinking out of sight out of mind and he's really trying to get away from you. But that if it doesn't work out for him he'll just come back to where you are waiting for him.

You have to think what is he like. Is he faithful etc?

My thoughts are that a wife should be with her husband, you should go with him.

Answer 7

I think your being silly. Speak to him about your fears. Hes moving because hes been offered a job. If he wanted to be away from you he could have left before the job offer. Couples do this type of thing all the time.

Answer 8

Your husband's decision makes a great sense. Actually its a very good decision. He has told like that for the betterment of both of you. So dont get disheartned thinking that he doesnt love you. Anyway, be happy that he is comming every week to be with you. In some cases for years wives and husbands dont see each other due to career prospects and monetary gains.

So be happy, everything is going to be fine.

Answer 9

of course he still loves you.
He is also trying to be practical by staying in staff accomodation to save some hard earned cash to get a proper place for you both in the future.3 months is not that long.Good luck for the future

Answer 10

How did you come to the conclusion that this means he doesn’t love you?

Actually, this all sounds pretty logical to me.

I’m sure you don’t want to be separated, but often times in life we have to do things we don’t want to do because it’s the best choice. It’s only 3 months, and you’re still going to see him 2 days every week. Surely you can survive that.

Now, since I’m sure there will be people who will say that he’s going to cheat…not all men cheat! You should know him well enough to know if you can trust him.