well my old bf of 2 years broke up with me in feb.. for nto bad reasons at all. mostly to focus on school and I the same.. anyways i ask ytoday thru email how he has been... he says hes dropped one of his classes.. so he hardly goes to school at all.. hes been going to parties once in a while. got sh it faced a few times and says "its actually fun if you take it slow and dont wake up wiht a throbbing headache in teh mornning" and he says "i dont knwo what i wasnt to do with my life anymore,i hate myself for doing so horrible in school" he used to be so ambitious and so goal oriented... he always knew what he wanted in life and workede hard for it.. now hes saying "getting sh it faced is fun" im 19 and he's 18 and were both sophmores in a community college.. if that matters.. he WAS mature.. but it seems liek hes throwing his life away.. i know i shoudlnt care about what he does.. i dont. i justthink its sad to see the person he has turned into..
2007-03-10 17:08:46 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i think its his loser friends at work.. who also dont go to school that much.. and all drink, smoke and have 5 girlfrinds at one time... hes hanging otu wiht the wrong crowd and most liekley influencing him.. he has always been the "leader type" and not a follower.. i dont know what to do? i told him im sorry that things are not going well for him and was hoping to hear more along the lines of "im doing better in school blah blah blah" not ":its fun to get sh it faced" and he also doesnt know if he wants to be with me or not.. as i sorta found out last night.. saying "its like this for now"
its just really sad to see someone you love so much and who was so driven to be sucessful in life to just be crahing and burning.. i want him to be happy and the best for him. he says he isnt.. what should i say or do? if anything?
2007-03-10 17:09:10 · update #1
we were also were echothers first bg/gf. first love, first everything. our relationship was good.. and he keeps sayign siorry that thigns ended the way they did..
2007-03-10 17:09:28 · update #2
also sorry for my spelling
i just dont know what to do... he wants to be my friend still and all that.. but i told him i didnt want to be... but we decidedd to email eachother here and there everyone in a while. just to keep in touch.. but i have gotten accepted to a college.. when a few months ago i didnt even know what i was going to major in.. he always said i was his gaurdian angle. i always jkept him on track from making wrong choices and he would always thank me.. my mom says i was liek his "conscience" ....we wven talked abotu gettign married a few times.
we had a great relationship and i know he still loves and cares about me.. peopel that know him think its sad that hes turned out this way. it makes me sad =[ he called me last sunday sounding like he was crying and stuff... i just wish i knew what to do.. im not trying to get him back just for him to get his life back on track.. i hate to see him like this. i really do. it hurts..
2007-03-10 17:11:13 · update #3
i am moving on.. i have been enoying myself and all that good stuff.. i dont ant to try to get back with him.. i just want to help him get his life back.. instead of it just partying.. and all that.... but i am moving on from him..
2007-03-10 17:25:32 · update #4
You can't help him or change him, he can only do that himself, sometimes people have to go through transitions before they become who they become, this is one of those learning experiences for him, he has to hit rock bottom, and as long as you're there to be his shoulder to cry on, he won't hit that rock bottom, he will think that if you haven't been scared off and still want to talk to him, things can't be THAT bad. He is not your problem or responsibility, you need to cut the cord, tell him it hurts me too much to see you in this pain, I have to leave, call me when you get better. You can't blame yourself and watching it is hurtin you. I did the same to a friend of mine who was on drugs, she contacted me a year later, clean, and we are back together. Two words, walk away.
2007-03-17 11:58:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many 18 year olds really know what they want out of life. Unfortunately many lessons are learned the hard way. He is old enough to make his own choices, good or bad.He will figure it out sooner or later....Meanwhile what do YOU want from life, and how are you going to make all of those good things happen...
2007-03-18 00:22:57 · answer #2 · answered by JeffreyK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't help someone who isn't ready to help himself and he is not your responsibility. You should just go on with your life and not worry about him. It is a shame but the mode he is in he could take you down with him. Good luck with collage and life....
2007-03-11 01:28:21 · answer #3 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
...buy him his own Condo near the Ocean... deposit $50,000 in an account for him... make sure his health insurance is paid for the next five years years and check on him then....
2007-03-18 11:25:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change him...
The best way to mend a broken heart is with a new love..
Move on...
Find a good decent man...
2007-03-11 01:20:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can't help someone who doesn't want to help themselves. The best thing you can do is walk away.
2007-03-11 01:24:16 · answer #6 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋