Could it be that marriage is just boooriiing?

Question

Why do people do it. Stay with somebody for so long. And don't say its because of some sacred marriage vows bunk. Or that god wanted it that way.

Pretend somebody told you that you could never eat anything other than curry for the rest of your life. As much as I love curry, thats a pretty dull prospect.

Doesn't your favorite song get played out if you hear it constantly on the radio, at home, at work?

As much as your body needs water, drink too much and you die.

So my point is, too much of anything sucks. No variety sucks.

So marriage = no variety and plenty of the same.

Tell me again why people get married?

Answer 1

I heard dat brutha. Just like I tell my kids, sure I'll take you to Mcdonalds everyday, and by the 3rd day you will hate it. Too much of anything will bring on the law of diminishing returns. Everything in moderation.

Answer 2

Simply because they don't want to be alone, they don't understand that being in a relationship with out living together could also be full feeling, you go out have a nice time then each one to there own home. You don't have to be financially bounded to that person, or wash there clothes, cook. And when you see them again you appreciate them more because you didn't have to hear there snoring.

So marriage makes habit, habit makes boring and boring makes cheating and cheating makes divorce, so if you decide to take the vows then make the marriage exciting and different so some bored spouse will not compare you to curry and if you don't want to eat curry for the rest of your life don't marry it.

Answer 3

All sorts of different reasons...
Some because of the sacred vows bunk, or the fact that God wants it that way. (Sorry, couldn't resist) Others because they've decided they found the person they want to spend the rest of their lives with.
Yes, you're limited to one "food", but there's so many different recipes to try!!!
And you're not listening to the same song over and over again - you still have other stations to choose from (work, friends, family).
Yes, too much water is bad for you, but so is too little - without it, you'd dehydrate and die. You don't drink water 24/7, and you don't spend 24/7 with your spouse (at least not if you want to stay married).
Marriage is far from boring if it's done right. ;-)

Why did your wife marry you... and why are you still married to her?? And don't say the she'll take all I own bunk, either!!!

Answer 4

If someone allows their relationship to get "boring," that's their own fault - married or not.

That said, some people crave variety more than others. What of it? You've certainly heard about "different strokes for different folks?"

Our sex life has about as much variety as any I've seen or heard about. We kick it up with things like role playing/dress-up, interesting outdoor locations, different forms of erotica, toys, and more.

But, even though we enjoy variety in sex (as well as in other things like food, wine, etc.), we also have favorite preferences. That's absolutely normal.

I don't suppose that you've ever eaten the same thing twice in your life, or gotten yourself off the same way twice, eh?

You were right about one thing - "too much of anything sucks." I love prime rib, but that doesn't mean I want it 7 days a week. But that doesn't translate into an excuse for hating or avoiding committment in a relationship.

Answer 5

Constantly switching partners in an attempt to "keep it fresh" would after a time be just the same thing over and over also wouldn't it? Think of a great marriage as two people with similar takes on life working together on common goals. They support and help each other in the bad times and celebrate the good times together. Over time they become almost like one. Many times when an older married person dies the spouse dies shortly after. Perhaps it is because it is inconceivable for them to consider a life without their partner. In your description of why for you marriage would be boring, you compared your imagined spouse as food, music and water, but never as a partner. Your question sounds as if relationships to you are conquests and whomever you are with is a commodity for you to enjoy. If that is the way you see it, then you are correct that marriage is not for you. You may be incapable of a true partnership where the needs and wants of another become important to you, not just the empty satisfying of your own selfish needs.

Answer 6

If you really believe that marriage is boring, you have never been truly in love. And in a good marriage, there is plenty of variety. Don't believe it? I've been with my husband 11 years, and things have never been better, in and out of the bedroom. As much fun as he had having multiple girlfriends when he was a teen and early 20's, he likes what he has now much better. Says he's having more fun now than he ever did then.

Answer 7

Marriage is like a rollercoaster ride. It is far from boring. There is always something going on.
Think of Marriage as you are starting a team and that team is all working toward some of the same things.
But if your not ready, DON't DO IT! It would be a life sentence if you are not mature enough or ready to constantly compromise and battle things with a partner.

Answer 8

For the people willing to work at it, marraige is one of the most rewarding, fulfilling experiences of life. Few people seem to have the courage and wisdom to make it work that way.
You may be right that too much of anything sucks, but I still haven't reached the point of having too much happiness or too much money or too much fun or too much energy or too much knowledge etc.
People get married because they believe that will bring happiness into their life. The happiness and fullfillment one acquires from marriage is determined after the marriage ,by the continued effort one puts in, not by the fact that one is married.

Answer 9

I don't see marriage as a food that is the only thing you could ever eat again, or water that can sustain you or kill you.

To me, marriage is like land. Say that someone gave you an acre of land. You have a choice what to do with that land. You could junk it up until it is unappealling. You could disregard it and let it become overgrown and choking with weeds. You could get rid of it forever.

Or, you could plant a tree that over the years would grow and provide you with shelter. You could plant flowers and make it very beautiful and pleasant. You could have a garden to sustain you. You could build a house and always have a home.

Marriage is what you make of it, not what it makes of you.

Answer 10

Marriage is not for everyone people are different in everyway, and that is a good thing. I have been married for 26 years to the same man, the only man that I have made love to, I am very satisfied with him, and this is good for both of us. There are people like my husband and myself that do not want to be with another we are happy growing old together, and there is nothing wrong with that.

Answer 11

Marriage only gets boring if the couple lets it happen, it's up to both partners to keep things new. We've been together 18 years and I can assure there is nothing boring in this house. Every day is different, as well as every night. So if people say their marriage is boring it's because they put no effort in it.