WHY is the Roman Catholic religion so against a divorce...i mean?

Question

stuff happens...you think you will be married for life...but most are not...and who are we to judge??? But i have heard and gone to two catholic weddings where the guy was divorced and he was Catholic...and married another in the same church...(But he paid some money to get the married annuled)...his first wife fell out of love with him!!! that's all!!

Answer 1

Because the Catholic Church's interpretation of the wedding vow is it is made in front of God, not just the law of the community. Divorce means breaking a promise made to God. Get it. The vow is for good and for worse.

Answer 2

First of all, you are mistaken- the Catholic Church does understand that sometimes marriages do not work out. There is NO SIN IN BEING DIVORCED.

Divorce is an awful tragedy in our society- a society that teaches that marriages are disposable.

Now, the problem enters because the Church teaches that marriage is forever- so if you DO divorce in the courts, you are STILL MARRIED in the eyes of God. That is scriptural- look at what Jesus saya about divorce. " If a man divorces his wife and marries another, he commits adultery against the first"

An annulment is not just a matter of '[paying money'...it is a difficult process by which it is determined whether or not the marriage was sacramental in nature- because a marriage that is not sacramental is not a marriage at all- IT NEVER EXISTED. That is what an annulment is- a determination that something was lacking in the marriage from the very beginning that kept it from having the grace necessary to be a valid, sacramental and enduring bond.

Grounds for an annulment include- lying, not intending the marriage to be permanent, mental defect, immaturity, not desiring to be faithful, not intending to have children. NOte that the grounds for the annulment must be present at the time of the exchange of vows....that is why the Catholic church requires pre marital counseling- to try and weed out problems.

The annulment process is meant to protect the sanctity of marriage by 1. determining whether a person is actually free to marry, or is still married to another and 2. help the divorced person understand why the first marriage failed so if they do marry again, they can avoid the same mistakes.

Annulments are painful because they bring up a lot of issues. The money that is paid is only a FRACTION of the cost for processing an annulmen, and no one is required to pay if they cannot afford it.

Answer 3

The sacrament of marriage is a covenant with God. When two people approach the altar in marriage, they are making a vow that is bound and sealed in heaven, not earth. It's similar to a priest making vows to enter the religious life. This is why the Church does not allow divorce, since human laws cannot undo what God has joined.

The annulment process is an investigative procedure that determines whether the marriage sacrament was valid or not at the time the marriage began. If it was not valid, then it means no sacrament was in place (there was never a marriage to start with) and the two are free to go their separate ways. However, if it is determined that the sacrament was valid, then there is nothing the Church can do. The marriage is valid and binding.

Answer 4

The Catholic Church believes that God does not recognize civil divorces.

Jesus said, "Therefore what God has joined together, no human being must separate." (Mark 10:9)

However there may be hope of a declaration of nullity.

The term "annulment" is a misnomer because the Church does not undo or erase a marriage bond.

Rather the Church issues a declaration of nullity when it discovers that the parties were not truly joined by God and hence a full spiritual sacramental marriage as understood by the Church was not present.

Then the parties are free to marry for the first time.

With love in Christ.

Answer 5

You don't just pay some money to get a Catholic Marriage annuled. I'm not catholic but was married to a man who was (No not in the church) and I know that in order to get a Catholic marriage annuled it takes more than just paying some money . The Cahtholics believe that by being married in the Church the marriage is blessed by God and that civil law does not supercede God, therefore in order to "revoke" God's blessing a person who wants to get married a second time within the Catholic Church must have their first marriage (if in the Catholic Church) annuled. I suggest you do some religious reseach before you make statements about something you know nothing about.

Answer 6

What's against the RCC? Well it seems many other Christians who are not Catholic according to all these questions and answers I've come across lately. WHO KNEW! I certainly didn't. As a Catholic I choose not to talk smack about other Christian denominations because I'm CHRISTIAN for one and secondly, I know more about the other two Major Monotheistic faiths than I do about my own Christian brothers and sisters in Christ, denomination-wise. A Christian is a Christian is a Christian! It must be said: All these Christians talking down Catholicism is either due to their own misunderstands (in which case there's hope they'll some day gain the proper knowlege about their fellow Christians) or what we have here is out and out jealousy! And this too must also be said: The enemies of Christians (and you know who they are) must be just loving it! and whooping it up good and hard! at all the "in-fighting". Check yourselves Christians!

Answer 7

You're not a cannon lawyer (sp?) so you don't know the situation regarding the annulment.

WHY is the church against divorce? Because marriage is a covenant where two people agree "Until Death Parts Us". Coincidentally - the church is also for pre-marriage councelling.

Religion is not a cafeteria line where you can pick and chose in what to believe. Today people are without direction, without spirit, and it makes for a horrible society (need proof...turn on television. Look at MTV, the news, etc.)

Answer 8

As a Catholic who is quickly losing my religion, I don't think of the rules of the church made by men, popes etc. I think of what would Jesus think about this, if I got divorced. People would stare, gossip, come up with their own self-righteous, judgemental thoughts...but who gives a phuck. Jesus spent his time on earth hanging with those who were marginalized by the majority, lepors, whores, probably homos too. So if the son of god can be in the presence of someone who didn't fit in to the beliefs of the day, and hang with them, I don't feel divorcing a person would be the travesty it is portrayed to be.

Answer 9

this sucks i had my first marriage blessed in the catholic church as we were married by a judge, the priest that blessed the marriage was convicted of molesting boys. my husband was always cheating and we got divorced. he remarried in a different religion Lutheran church i believe cheated on his second wife with a married woman, the married woman's husband found out and shot himself so my ex husbands new wife divorced him also. now i want the marriage we had blessed in the church annulled it is a long process takes a year or more and is expensive like more than 500.00 it sucks it is no simple deal for the **** i went thru

Answer 10

"what God put together, let no man put asunder." as catholics we were brought up to be faithful to the faith. we said our marriage vows before God and in the presence of all our families and friends. it's not easy to stay married for better or for worse..... but we are committed to our vows that we made before God as the witness of our love for each other also at the same time asking Gods blessings to stay true to each other. that's why we were advised by our parents before getting married that marriage is not a joke. it's a lifetime commitment. it will take years and years of waiting period before marriage is annulled. we're not here to judge anyone but since divorce is not permitted in our religion, we think a hundred times before getting married because we don't want to make a big mistake that we will endure for a lifetime.