I'm a 19 year old guy. I've been with a girl that I really love for about 4 years. We're engaged. I would never intentionally do anything to hurt her. I have a bestfriend who I can tell EVERYTHING to... a guy... I'm in love with him... I have never been with him but I think if I was with him, I would be happy.. What do I need to do? I didn't think that I would fall in love with my bestfriend. I thought I was straight
2007-03-10 16:25:58 · 8 answers · asked by Matt 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Is your friend gay? That is the question that needs answering first. I'm sure that you do love your girlfriend but you need to find out if you are in love with her or just love her. Yes, there is a difference. As for your friend, you owe it to your girlfriend to figure out your situation with her first before you move on to a homosexual relationship. Just be yourself. You can do nothing wrong if you are honest with yourself.
2007-03-10 16:33:01 · answer #1 · answered by Jamie B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your best friend gay? I think you are comfortable and it feels less awkard and you are confussed maybe if you would share with your girlfriend you too can become best friends. Plus is this the first time you have had feelings for another guy if it is then you need to really think about what you are saying and doing. It could be your admiration for this guy and the fact that you lacked male intamacy growing up. Calm down. You are very young and this can be confussing at this point to have any realationship. Learn and love yourself first. You sound insecure and need to find a good role model to put things in prepective there is nothing wrong with loving men in a fatherly peer type way but being so young and needing someone to fulfil that missing void can get you in trouble becasue there is a need that you cant put your finger on. Its the love of God your heart is in search for.
2007-03-11 00:32:09 · answer #2 · answered by tressroy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to follow your man! the only right thing to do is to start off doing right to your self. If you dont follow your heart you will always being looking back thinking to yourself what if.... trust me with love all things are possible. Besides that, eventhough you have been with this other person for 4 years, you are only 19. You will not beleve how much you will start changing in your 20's. Give your self time. If you have to question what to do then you need not do anything untill you know for certain.
2007-03-11 00:32:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
emotional attachments can be pretty confusing and often we mistake very close platonic relationships as love because we feel so secure, emotionally attched and intimate.
with your best guyfriend; what kinda attraction do you have towards him? is the sexual/romantic kind? or just someone you really trust,connect and feel close with?remember, you can ONLY be gay when you're willing to go down/sleep with him sexually otherwise its just a mistaken platonic intimate friendship.
with this girlfriend of yours , how much do you love her and how complete is your relationship? if you're even questioning on whether you're in love with someone else or another person, you might have something you're lacking off in this relationship which you're not dealing with; find out what it is and resolve it before marriage if it does work out. all the best.
2007-03-11 00:41:44 · answer #4 · answered by astella_interrupted 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with your girlfriend, and even though it will probably break her heart, it will be better than her finding out form someone else, or worse still after you were married. Where your best friend is concerned, I don't know, because when he finds out that you are in love with him, he might not be your best friend for too long, unless of course , he is gay also.
2007-03-11 00:34:22 · answer #5 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask your friend if he feels the same way ... just be at the house you 2 by yourselves one day and kinda ... turn the tv down ... scoot over a little closer to him ... look at him until he looks up at you ... and the next thing you know you're going to be in bed with him ... if you like it ... I would tell the girl what happened and get with your friend (she will be so disgusted she wont even care) ... but if you didn't feel the 'spark' then i would stay with the girl. (but keep the other man as a side-order ;)
2007-03-11 01:06:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ask ur bestfriend if he feels the same way andif he dose tell ur girlfriend and get w/ ur bestfriend.
2007-03-11 00:34:24 · answer #7 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can't choose be with both.
2007-03-11 00:29:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋