I feel sometimes that I shouldn't even be in a relationship. And I should learn to be independent. I've always had a bf and I haven't been really single in a long time. I'm also very controlling.
2007-03-10 16:15:06 · 9 answers · asked by Sharon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
But he is a great guy...the best boyfriend I ever had. There's really nothing to be jealous about...its more like I'm selfish. I want to have him all to myself. I guess...that sounds bad, but its true. I do love him...but I don't know whats the best thing for me. Should I break up with someone I love to find myself or what?
2007-03-10 16:23:13 · update #1
It sounds like you need to make yourself happy and not depend on anyone to do that for you. What is the reason that you are jealous? Has HE done something to make you feel uneasy? or is it all in your head? If he really gave you no reason then you need to look deep within yourself and see why you are so insecure.
There's nothing wrong with men having their own lives, friendships, and hobbies, as a matter of fact you , that is what makes them interesting, not someone who is just around to tend to you hand & foot.
You said it yourself, you need to learn to be independant, as well as confident, and realize that when you feel you need to keep control, it never really works that way. You know that song, "If you love somebody, set them free"? it's really true, it is better to have someone to come to you from his own will.
Learn to grow for yourself and discover things about you that make you valuable.
2007-03-10 16:28:00 · answer #1 · answered by grldragon101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like you want to get away from relationships for alwhile than do it take a break and become more independant soo go and tell him you need a break and goo have fun
2007-03-10 16:18:56 · answer #2 · answered by MoneyMike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should break up. Fix the things about yourself that you are not happy with and then start a new relationship. If you think the relationship is unhealthy then it is. sorry, good luck to you -k-
2007-03-10 16:19:42 · answer #3 · answered by kbama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is a well known relationship killer.
If you feel you should learn to be independent then you probably should. Sometimes our biggest mistakes result from not trusting ourselves.
2007-03-10 16:17:53 · answer #4 · answered by nostromobb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sound like you need to let him go and find out why you are
so controlling and jealous. that a not a good sign of any
realationship lasting. you need to love your self before you
can love someone else.
2007-03-10 16:36:42 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It relies upon on how long the area is. in case you nonetheless have the potential to confirm the guy each couple of weeks, then it could artwork yet once you by no skill see them in any respect, i do no longer think of it could.
2016-10-01 22:23:04 · answer #6 · answered by berks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should find your own independence....your a woman and are capable of wonderful things....take a leap of faith..You just might surprise yourself
2007-03-10 16:18:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up would not be a first option.. try to seee for your self if they're should be a personal change for.. take a each stepat a time. dont rush it up
2007-03-10 16:30:42 · answer #8 · answered by ytse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you should go with your gut and learn how to survive and live and be happy on your own...
2007-03-10 16:18:13 · answer #9 · answered by christina rose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋