If you were separated from your spouse, and after a couple weeks yall decide to get back together- probably saw some other people- who probably gave you gifts...would you throw away that stuff if your partner asked you to? Does keeping them hinder the rebuilding of the marriage?
Ladies, would you be willing to throw away your stuff if he asked you? Guys, would you ask her to throw it away?
2007-03-10 15:57:12 · 11 answers · asked by Venus 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How would they know you didn't buy it?
Depends - but most likely the relationship is more important than some stuff. But you could givr it to a friend rather than throw it away if it is nice.
2007-03-10 16:02:09 · answer #1 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I personally think that was a bit "whore-ish" to be with some other guy and expect your husband to allow all of the crap he brought you back into his house. I would have divorced you on the spot. Throwing it away goes without saying. Should he throw all of the numbers he got while you were gone in the trash? Hell yeah, no reason to keep them. It does not matter how pretty the girl was, the numbers have to go if he is serious about working on the marriage. Its the same thing. Asking him to keep the stuff is like him asking to keep the numbers he got or panties that a woman left at the house. Does not matter how much the gift was worth. It had to go when you two decided to get back together. You disgust me. I hope your husband wakes up. To even ask you are a piece of work. Seriously.
2007-03-11 04:13:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the gifts remind him of a sour feeling, then he might ask you to throw them away so that you two can build a refreshed relationship. If I was you and if he asked me to throw away the gifts, I would talk to him about it first. I would let him know why the gift was important to me - whether its from a friend or if its of some good use or if it makes me stronger and more independant. If he can understand how you relate with the gift and if he is thoughtful enough to feel that you may need it as a motivation to rebuild the relationship, then he might let you keep it or he may want to replace it with a similar thing and then ask you to let it go off.
You can think it this way. Is the gift more important to you or your rebuilding relationship with your spouse more imporant? You may be able to answer your own question!
2007-03-11 00:04:34 · answer #3 · answered by Verronika Andrews 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A couple weeks? Wow, nothing like jumping from the frying pan into the fire.
Anyone interested in rebuilding their marriage shouldn't be "seeing other people" let alone receiving "gifts" from them. I'd seriously question their "love" for their spouse.
Do you really need to ask this question? You honestly don't know the answer?
2007-03-11 10:58:53 · answer #4 · answered by Mugsy's Place 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely I would throw it away ... otherwise my efforts to reconcile would just be hollow. You have to decide whether you want this marriage to work or not and what your level of commitment to it is going to be. It doesn't sound like you're that sure about it. How about if the shoe was on the other foot? What if your husband came back with an armload of gifts from women he'd been seeing during the separation and he wanted to hang on to them?
2007-03-11 00:03:40 · answer #5 · answered by Emily Dew 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how things happened. If you met someone you only knew "allegedly" for a few weeks why would the stuff matter anyway? If I met some chick at a club and she gave me a hat while I was seperated I would not chance my relationship by fighting to keep it. Its just dumb. How long did you know the guy? Were you cheating on your husband with him? That could have something to do with it. How much did the stuff cost? Whats your attachment to it?
2007-03-11 03:59:56 · answer #6 · answered by Magnus01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya I would probably ask you to throw it away if we were serious about working on the relatioship. It would be a constant reminder of how quickly you could go right into another relationship and stress the marriage more.
2007-03-11 00:02:41 · answer #7 · answered by hlind28 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were seeing someone while you were only sepearated not divorced then you were cheating on your marriage. A seperation is NOT a disillusionment of marriage. I would not be in the position to give anything back since I would NOT be getting involved with anyone enough for them to give me gifts BEFORE my final decree of divorce.
2007-03-11 00:08:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what gifts. If a girl gives you something for you to remember her, you are expected to get rid of them, Shouldn't have mentioned these items to begin with if you really want to rebuild anything. That's like bragging. Just get rid of things that wuold get you in trouble privately.
2007-03-11 00:27:36 · answer #9 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If such gifts constantly remind u of the old association u wish to forget, it is better not to keep from such gifts. U cud give them to charity.
2007-03-11 01:27:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋