New lead is asking for $50 donations is it right?

Question

To begin a person I know at another work place has stage 4 cancer. He's a single dad with a 14 year old daughter. He is a very nice person and I am more then happy to help out. He is in the hospital and is having a lot of comp lactations . I have four kids and an ok Job at least it pays the bills. We just got a new lead at our company. I know him well. We used to work together until he became the lead. He is trying to be a good leader but still needs some training . One day he came up to me in front of other coworkers and our Head Boss and told me other people are giving $50 and wanted to know when he could get mine. I was a little upset that he asked me in front of the big boss and told me how much I should donate. I am not the only one that was upset over this. But he is using his lead position to make it uncomfortable for us if we do not give the amount he ask. Like I said before this is for someone that does not work for us. shouldn't a donation be what we feel comfortable giving

Answer 1

Yes a donation should be what you are comfortable giving. How about this: why don't you visit the sick guy in the hospital. Then, when this lead guy pressures you, you can say, truthfully, "I was just there in the hospital with him the other day, and I'm helping him out as I can." He won't ask the guy if you gave money, and you're telling the truth because a visit is helpful. You can also ask the guy if his family would like a casserole or something, and deliver one to the house. Gets you off the hook, and you're helping, too. Frankly, though, the big boss shouldn't allow this kind of pressure, it makes for a bad workplace.

Answer 2

Yes it should be what you can give. Where I used to work part time, we had a person at another office that had cancer and we were trying to get some money for him. What we did was put fliers in each person's box and told them the story and asked for ANY contribution. We had a lock box right outside of one of the offices that was checked periodically and had them put there donations in it. That way no one would feel bad if they couldn't give anything or couldn't give very much. What he is doing is wrong and I think the man that is sick would be more sick at his stomach if he knew how this was being handled.