My ex hasn't seen his kid's for over 2 1/2 years. He decides (finally) to take then for the weekend, I agreed. When the kids came home all they did was fight with each other. He and I had an on-line fight and the result was him wanting my husband to adopt them. I feel bad now and feel like I should tell him sorry. The problem is I am the only one who has ever been sorry for anything. The guy is emotionless and I feel bad. How can I get over these feeling's of anger and sorrow? It's been over 13 years!
2007-03-10 15:43:52 · 9 answers · asked by Amy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your ex, is a slickster, looking for ways to get out of support payments.
Maybe, maybe, you still have some emotional attachment. Don't allow the past to destroy your future. Love your present husband with all your heart and talk everything over with him.
I believe in prayer...not psychiatry(all they want is to get you hooked on drugs) so cry out to God Almighty, and leave it in God's Hands...I am the step dad of 11...been through all kinds of situations...some times holding on by a thread, prayer helps a lot...find peace in your spirit, hear the voice of God speak...IT WORKS!
2007-03-10 16:17:41 · answer #1 · answered by xman77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the only way your current husband CAN adopt your children is if your ex signs away all parental rights...that will also mean that he is no longer responsible for your children's financial support that it will all fall upon you and your current husband. So the kids fought with each other when they got home, kids fight. I don't know why this would prompt you to fight with your ex online but it sounds pretty childish to me. I would have just told the kids to take their fight outside since I didn't want any blood on the carpet, I'd make sure they knew where the bandages were and that I should only be called if bone protruded skin and arteries were severed. I certainly wouldn't have picked a fight with my ex over it.
2007-03-10 23:50:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a sister that is going through the same thing “what is wrong with these men” her ex came from out of town to see his two daughters last weekend he had not seen them in over a year, and rarely calls, and all he did was insult his daughters, and made them feel bad about themselves. The youngest that is 20 years old walked out on him at this restaurant and got a ride home from a friend she never wants to see or speak to him again. The eldest whom is 24 cried all night I told my sister that this man is toxic, and is not good for the girls he never has been. He gave very little child support when they were growing up, and when they started collage he never gave them a dime to help them out. Therefore, who is he to judge the girls and there careers. Nothing will ever be good enough for these types of men I think it is best for women like you and my sister to keep them out of the children’s lives they are better off without them.
2007-03-11 00:11:37 · answer #3 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you get over it. Stop and read what you have written. Let your new husband adopt the kids if the kids agree. Stop feeling sorry for this man that cares nothing of anyone but himself. You feel bad. lol Come on Your kids deserve better.
2007-03-10 23:54:07 · answer #4 · answered by ascendent2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look around you and count your blessings. You have kids. You have a husband. You have a home. You're not married to the emotionless jerk. Anything else you can add? Lots I'm sure! Go kiss your husband and forget it.
2007-03-10 23:49:12 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to remember that forgiving him is the only way to get over the pain. Look at it this way. between the two of you are the only one hurting. All that hurt inside of your heart. He does not deserves this. It is his lost he does not want to be in his kids lives and he only wants your new husband to adopt them so he will not be responsible for them anymore. If your kids are old enough talk to them. See how they feels. Drop that pain. forgive him for he's black heart. it's not for him you forgive him it's for you..
2007-03-10 23:58:16 · answer #6 · answered by prettybrowneyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only reason he wants your husband to adopt your kids, is so he can get out of child support. The next time he wants the kids tell him no. You may want to consult an atty. about his visitation , see if you can make it supervised.
2007-03-11 00:02:23 · answer #7 · answered by walker9842 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyway, your ex. has the love for your kids, break his heart if any problem happen and you don't let your ex see your kids again, try to forgive him and make everything softer
2007-03-11 00:04:51 · answer #8 · answered by Neighbour 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either he is a good father or he is not. If he is, better bear him. If not, why go on maintaining the relationship for sucking maintenance out of him.
2007-03-11 01:23:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋