but sometimes i get shy or i dont know how to start,can someone give me some really gooddddddddd advice on how i can take the lead of having sex and pleasing my husand without being shy and being totally confedent to have fun(the both of us)....thnx...best answer gets 10 points and a 100 bucks......lol
2007-03-10 15:32:48 · 16 answers · asked by esmarelda 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok here how you can start find a night that you and your hubby are going to be free all night and start with a good dinner and a nice warm shower ask him to join with in the show you take the lead and start washing his body make sure you but a lot of work on his fav. parts and as your rinse him off you ask him to clean you from head to toe as he is clean you and your fav spots take his head and ask him to lick you in your fav spot . after you have gotten his mind in to what you wont ask him to stop and make him wait finish your show an the as you get out of the shower grab his fav part and pull him to the bed room. and find some old socks and tie his hands and feet to the bed . after doing that take your last sock and blind fold him . then with your hands touch his chest and kiss his body from head to toe and spend lots of time on his fav. spots . then after do this for a spell jump on top of him and do your thing. i hop this helps good luck ..
2007-03-10 16:09:49 · answer #1 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play roles, it's OK for a husband and wife to fulfill fantasies as long as nobody gets hurt or don't involve a third party.
Let your imagination run or ask your husband for ideas, he'll be more than happy to make suggestions, if you feel good about then and the sex is great then you're in your way out of shyness.
2007-03-10 23:42:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about taking small steps. Don't feel like you have to turn into a dominatrix overnight. Think about one night when he comes home, grab him by the pants and give him a hot kiss. See how he reacts. His reaction should give you confidence. Couple days later, as he's passing, grab him somewhere good and just give him the eye. It should knock him out! Little by little, as your confidence grows, you'll be able to do much more. Men don't understand that it's they're appreciation of what we do that builds confidence.
2007-03-11 00:51:37 · answer #3 · answered by Ade 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try the following;
(1) Role play, fantasy
(2) have a drink (to get over the inhibition; but not too frequently)
(3) get a book on postitions and start trying out as many as you can
2007-03-11 00:13:39 · answer #4 · answered by Sean 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tie him up with your silk stockings and leave him there while you take your sweet time showering and making yourself irresistible....
By the time you return to him he'll be putty in your hands....
this is when I'd do my strip tease just cause I love to prolong the agony.....the very softest touches across his hot flesh are going to have him climbing the walls....
he'll be begging for your touch.....
now you're in total control......
now you can have your way with him.
(keep the $100 girl.... lol..... go buy some porn star high heels, and Victoria Secrets lingeree)
2007-03-12 16:51:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem, just try telling him you are nervous, and maybe he will "help" you along, and he will show you what he wants, then after a few times you'll know, and can experiment with different stuff, I am in the same boat, just too shy to ask, so you can't be all that shy!
2007-03-10 23:38:49 · answer #6 · answered by Melody F 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hug him from behind and let your hands wander.
Flash him from a distance and scoot off to the bedroom.
Let your hands replace your bra and watch how much he enjoys that.
It does take an extra dose of confidence and playfulness, but you can do it, even if it feels difficult.
2007-03-10 23:45:18 · answer #7 · answered by Bob T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to feel sexy and love your body first, take a bath/shower, lotion up, perfume, look at your self in the mirror make sure everything is right. Go in there lay him down and just do whatever comes to mind, just stay relaxed and enjoy yourself, b/c he is.
2007-03-10 23:42:32 · answer #8 · answered by bethany j 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being the aggressor is nice but being the " aggressee " is nice to. In my opinion you should not be the only one in your relationship to take on that role. Hubby needs to step up to the plate and take a turn now and again.
2007-03-10 23:38:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think you should tell him to take the lead.
But I'm never the one to start and control things such as that, so I wouldn't know how to switch sides.
My main suggestion to you is to start with oral play, get him incredibly feisty, and let it run from there.
2007-03-10 23:38:28 · answer #10 · answered by megahot megababe 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋