I'm bi and I always fall for the straight girls!!!! HELP!!!?

Question

I'm 14, half-way decent looking, and a pretty awesome personality. I live in an EXTREMELY conservative city (Cincinnati) and I don't know of any bis/lesbians.

I fall in lust ((yes lust)) for the exact opposite of me. Athletic, skinny as he11, preppish, etc. while I'm a bigger, musical...person.

How do I stop falling in lust with these girls who obviously dislike me?

Where can I find more bi/lesbians in Cincinnati?


I'm getting sick of being alone. =[

To anyone who wants to say "grow up and you'll be straight..."

I've been attracted to the same sex literally my entire life, having my first 'queer crush' in grade 2. If you're not going to help people with your answers, say nothing at all you biggot. And another thing! Be more respectful towards friends of diabetics.

I'm not looking to have sex with anyone. I used to be extremely Catholic, and I still believe in the chastity thing.

I'm looking for someone to relate with on a deeper level then my friends.

Answer 1

I'm almost entirely sure that the asker of this question is myself 10 years ago. It's VERY scary. I really appreciate this question. Very conservative town myself.

I ended up straight. Hope that this doesn't happen to you:) Try coffee shops? In high school I was always chasing after the seemingly "very straight" types.

College (though a long way off) will open the doors to some very girly "bi" girls that may return the feelings.

I was very heavy in high school and really had a thing for girly cheerleaders. This is so far away from me now. Now I'm athlectic, thin and prefer men (mostly) and have children. Anything can happen, but it's fantastic being able to "check-out" women with my hubby.

Hang in there. I hope that you find the girl for you.

Answer 2

It sounds really obvious but you can just set your myspace "browse" button to limit your searches to an area, age, and sexual orientation. I think you would probably find there are others your age in the area with the same dilemma.

I applaud you for being responsible enough to not try convincing your strait friends into trying something that they won't enjoy.

At 14 it will be a lot harder for you than it will be when you get older. I used to have a lot of gay/bi friends (because my roommate was gay) and the subculture is huge. I would say because you are young you should limit your relationships to other minors.

Also as you mature towards adulthood you should be aware that the gay scene has gotten very cliquish & that cliques suck when you are dating. If you are bi I would say the ideal thing would be to date girls who are bi and not lesbian.

Answer 3

I'm guessing you're a girl. I live in a pretty conservative town too, so conservative that I'm still closeted. When I'm looking for love I go to a local coffee shop. If there's a college near your town I'd find a casual hangout somewhere near there. Colleges usually attract a more diverse population. Hope things work out, because lonliness can suck.

Answer 4

If you are 14, you do not need to be dating. Read books, online fiction, join a martial arts academy or girls club, anything but getting sexually involved with others at this age. You are too young. If you wait until you are older, it truly will be better.

Also, follow your head, not your crotch. The former will lead you to better companions.

EDITED TO ADD: Of course you are (sexual orientation)what you are, and that is not going to change. However, with the passage of time, you will become more mature and wiser (hopefully). Abstinence is really in order *at least* until you are an adult.

Answer 5

Grow up and find a man"boy" who you can like grow as a person before you make a life decision about your sexuality, Join a youth group to help you with this problem.