One of my closest friends is this dude i've know for years, but last year we got to be close friends and were still pretty close. Everyone says that we act like were a couple, but we're not! we dont like each other in a romantic sense, we LOVE each other like friends.. but not romantically... that would feel like brother/sister dating and thats just sick! His girlfriend is now the person pretty much ruling his life and getting him to do things i don't approve of.. so i dont like her at all! I hate that she takes all of his time and attention.. i know it sounds selfish,but its not! we have best friends and we only get to talk on the internet and at break... but now she's got him spending 24/7 with him! And its not just me, he's neglecting his best friend and skipping school to hang out with her!!!
is it wrong for me to feel this way?
2007-03-10 15:19:43 · 15 answers · asked by janna w 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i just want to point out a few things. ok, were not best friends, were just close.. i mean.. we trust each other with stuff we can't trust others with.. idk..were like.. not best friends but he's my person and im his person... i can't explain it.
ok, his best friend and all out other friends... seriously dislike her.. like i do.. because she's rude to us... well... everyone really, and he just can't see it.. idk what he see's in her.. i think its the she's the opposite of him.. he's the sweetest, nicest, silliest boy in the world and she's like... rude, mean, and indifferent to everyone around her.
2007-03-10 15:37:59 · update #1
I think you are just watching out for a good friend/. Just let him make his own mistakes.
2007-03-10 15:22:35 · answer #1 · answered by Grandma of six 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am tired of hearing stories like this. Mainly because every girl I care about does this to me. Then when the guy moves on to someone else, because the girl won't go out with him. She gets all jealous and decides to make a deal out of it. I think your jealous, why? Because I have dealt with this several times from the guys prospective, and it just plain hurts. Does he care about you more than a friend? If he does, then very possibly, quite possibly, he has moved on. This doesn't mean he don't care about you, in fact it means the opposite. It means he cares about you so much that it hurts him to see you to the point that he decided to move on, because he KNOWS he can't be with you. If he doesn't like you more than a friend, then this means that he might just be stuck on the girl, I doubt he seriously means to neglect you, in fact, if you get him away from her long enough, and tell him what you said in your post, I would say he will listen to you. And you will see a quick change, especially if hes your best friend :- ). Good luck though.
2007-03-10 23:44:21 · answer #2 · answered by ampenergy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not wrong in feeling the way you do. In fact, it's perfectly normal for true friends to watch each other backs. Perhaps its best for your friend in question to learn the hard lesson on his own. I know that sounds very hard but from personal experience I have learned not to intervene in my friend's life. I wish your friend the very best.
2007-03-10 23:27:06 · answer #3 · answered by Maria Gallercia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that you feel this way ... But my suggestion is that if you really love your friend you have to understand that he now has a romantic life and he need to spend time with this girl cause she is his girl..... But what you can do is try to become friends with this girl that way you can hang out every few days with your Friend. There is no way you can put your self between them just be smart and try to like that girl..... Now if you like him you now what I mean you have to talk to him and let him now what you feel..... it happened to me
2007-03-10 23:30:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, its not wrong to feel that way . but gurl believe me no man and woman can stay as a friend forever. maybe you are concern about him cause dating such a jerk like that gurl
but if you ask me i can smell something fishy going on around here i think you maybe a little bit jealous just a little tiny little bit . hope you are not angry . last word from me thats his life just let him maybe he love that gurl if you are in love you did not care about anything else just the love
2007-03-11 00:05:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not wrong. It is a natural reaction for someone looking out for their friend. His girlfriend is probably just jealous that you two are such good friends. If it really bothers you, talk to him about it. I doubt that he'd be willing to just blow off a really great friendship just because of one jealous girl.
2007-03-10 23:25:55 · answer #6 · answered by kdd_angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats cute
its not wrong to want to spend time with ur friend just tell him that u think that u dont hang out as much and u think u should sometime in a non-gay way
2007-03-10 23:25:09 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been in a situation like urs. its annoying isn't it? I mean, i had to confront my good guy friend that this girl was controlling his life but he wouldn't listen and we got into a fight! But, then he finally figured out what she was doing and broke up with her. My point is, you should confront him about this, even if it makes him mad....
2007-03-10 23:57:55 · answer #8 · answered by Kris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you need to know your limits. Being a best friend is not rulling your best friends life. but being there when he really needs you.
I understand that you love him and want the best for him, tell him its not right to skip school to see your girl.
but its not right for you to be so jealous about her, because he (romanticly) loves this girls. there is nothing you can do about it.
dont be possesive with your friend.
2007-03-10 23:25:31 · answer #9 · answered by chik_nice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No... it's ok
that things are just bestfriend need to do.. but being with his girlfiend 24/7? that is the one that is not right.
2007-03-10 23:25:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋