I told my husband that there was nothing more than merely a letter which was a little spicy and i wrote it because i felt very lonely and down.I cut it off now. My marriage was a little shaky with my husband and my parents each hating other so much that both seem to have made me the target. My parents ask me to divorce him and he asks me to never contact my parents. As my husband is broke I can't divorce him now and I don't see why I should cut my relation with my parents as they only want him to find a job, quit drinking(he is not an alchoholic) and take care of our family. My husband and l love our kids very much, so I never intend to do anything agaist them. This friend to who i wrote the loveletter admired me 14 years back in college and he is happily married. I don't know why I wrote the letter but I really liked him at that time. Now my husband says he would pay me in my 'own currency' by starting an affair with whoever.Should we take divorce so that no more of this happens?
2007-03-10 14:58:03 · 9 answers · asked by venus 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
your marriage sounds like a joke anyways, you do something so therefore he has to? give me a break. that is so pathetic, why do either of you have to one up the other? get into counsellings, you need it. (btw if he's threatening an affair....... it means one's all ready started) get a grip
2007-03-10 15:04:49 · answer #1 · answered by nanabooboo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well! you did it yourself. You can say its merely a letter. But how does he know you are not actually having an affair. He will NEVER trust you again. I wouldnt either. By the way, why would anyone "threaten" to have an affair. If he really wanted to, he would go ahead, have the affair and then say it was payback. So I dont think he's going to do that. But still, in my opinion its a dead marriage now.
2007-03-11 00:09:40 · answer #2 · answered by man_on_the_moon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get to a marriage counslar NOW!!!
Divorce isent the way, but neither was that spicy love letter to your other man.
I suggest you never contact nim again, tell parents your old enough to make the desicions in your life , and as long as you do nothing to shame them, your family, yourself, then but out!
Find out what prompted the love letter to begin with and work on that first.
Hope that helps you.
2007-03-10 23:05:55 · answer #3 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too many things influencing one another. And somehow you chose to throw in another monkey wrench as it was not messy enough.
If your husband acts on what he threatens, it means he is that kind anyway. The whole thing is finished. Start it all over again and act like a grown up, instead of so heavily dependent on others to make your life -- this is really the crux of your problem anyway, you cannot stand on your own feet.
2007-03-10 23:10:26 · answer #4 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. you should not have written the letter 2.you should have told your husband your feelings and 3 dont listen to your parents cause when you got married, you cut the apron string your husband should not have told you that he was going to have an affair. that is just wrong
2007-03-10 23:24:06 · answer #5 · answered by bobby wwhatever 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both love your kids very much, so never intend to do anything against them, get into marriage counseling Monday. And ask your parents to butt out.
2007-03-10 23:17:46 · answer #6 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him oh please! He doesn't even have a job and money to feed himself, how does he think he's going to impress any other woman? Unless of course he finds one that's a loser like him. He's not man enough to take care of his family. Why keep him around?
2007-03-10 23:10:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't let your husband make you stay away from your parent's and drinking can cause him to become a alcoholic if he drink's a lot
2007-03-10 23:28:17 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not working, he is drinking, he wants you to stay away from your parents, I think you would be running away from this bird.
2007-03-10 23:06:39 · answer #9 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋