When I read some of the stuff in the Marriage,divorce and relationship section on this site, it's quite shocking. Do you feel the same? Soooo many people bash marriage and demonize it. Trying to make it look as horribel as possible! Everyone's so concerned about having easy way's out. Having everything and everone be more "convient" for them, "What can I get." Is it shocking to anyone else that we've gone down this path? And I ask this as a 20 yr guy never had a girlfriend. And still not having dabled in the sexual aspact of life. And quite frankly reading the stuff in this site makes me wanna a recluse person and just celibate. I'm no one convience!! And yes I know people have free will and all of that. We have choices I know! "Do what you want." But you gotta admitt it's kind of eye opening. And please don't say it's just "evolution." I need more then that. After marriage is gone what's next? Cause something alway is. Thoughts?
2007-03-10 14:58:00 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't get too down because of everything you read on this site-- there are some weirdos out there and some just wanting two points.Marriage can be a wonderful thing, but if it don't work divorce can be also. Who knows, after you divorce you might meet THE RIGHT ONE-- the one that was made just for you and live happily ever after. It happens !!!
2007-03-10 15:20:22 · answer #1 · answered by "Hooks" 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okey kid here it is, Marriage is a stugle from insanity to craziness and back again!
Not everyone now a days thinks more then 5 minutes ahead of the current moment Because life has become "TO EASY" and cheap.
Money, Sex, and Stupity are the order of the day!
This co-parent attitude that I'm not happy NOW so I'll get a divorce and try my luck else were and it that don't work I'll go back to husband or wife!
No one sees 10 years down the road, anymore or what they could accomplish together if they tried!
Instead both sexes think of them selfs first and the children are just going to have to go along for the ride because It's my life and there only here for 18 years!!! TO EVERYONE WHO THINKS THIS WAY YOUR ALL FULL OF B U L L S H I T!
Never mind that the children have security issue and will have them for the rest of there live!
No it's me,me,me ,me, and me, well if you asked me it's high time that breeding Licenses were issued so children would be first in serious parents live and not the selfish ones !
Look at that Florida case about that guy who was convicted in the Danial Petersons case for example! The parents were out to a bare came home with two other couples and went to basement in garage got high and then had a swap party , while there little girl was being raped and then stuffed in plastic bag and buried alive!
more then one person is responsible for that child's death but only one man going to get lethal injection, is that fair? Hell I'll gladly line them all up to inject everyone of those freaks, just show my the arm!
Come on people Marriage is about irresponsible not debauchery and anyone who takes there kids for advantage like the peterson's are just as responsible for what happens to the kids and should pay the same prise.
Is this thing freedom or is it time to get real in our lives and marriages!
Hope that answers your question, or makes you ask even more!
2007-03-10 15:33:00 · answer #2 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is sad to me to read a lot of the questions on this site. It seems that people are questioning why even get married anymore and I don't blame them after reading some of these scenarios. So many relationships are lacking trust and commitment. Let me say that I for one am all for marriage. I am very happily married and we are best friends, partners, confidantes & lovers. It's a great thing when you marry the right person and learn how to communicate and compromise. Don't give up on relationships. It's up to you and if you want a good relationship you can have one. You get what you put into it so we both try to give 100% everyday. Some days one gives a little more than the other but it all works out for the good of the relationship.
2007-03-10 15:36:34 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with what you are saying.Many people on here are married or living with someone and want to have the freedoms of a single person with no attachments.If you read these questions you will find a lot of people have very low standards and not very many morals.What is shocking to me is how so many people can say leave or get a divorce and never suggest talking it out.Over all I think that there are more people in favor of doing what ever feels good and forget about who it hurts on here than others with a more grounded attitude.It's ashamed that so many people have stooped to this level.
2007-03-10 15:40:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very difficult question to ask, much less answer. Marriage is wonderful, if you've met the right woman, or if the woman has met the right man. It is horrible otherwise. Imagine being trapped in a jail cell with someone who has threatened to shank you - you wouldn't look forward to that would you. Either way, when you marry you are not just committing to that person, you are also committing to God that you will be that person's partner for life. That you will strive to overcome the bad times and enjoy the good times together.
Truthfully, I had looked forward to my marriage, but my wife has left and has made no efforts to talk through our differences. It went to the extent of her filing false claims of abuse against her and the children. At this point I could sit here and pine away for her for the rest of my life, but she has answered all of my questions by her actions.
My point is this: marriage is a wonderful thing for so many reasons that people typically overlook. You get to share all of your life experiences with someone who knows you and loves you. You get to have wild and crazy sex with someone who hopefully won't demean you because of your sick foot fetish. You don't have to worry about catching AIDS or some other STD that will otherwise limit your "sexual options". The most important though, is that God approves of marriage as the only solution to the above issues.
2007-03-18 15:47:03 · answer #5 · answered by Desmond Clarkson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just ended a 19 yr marriage last summer. I am only 39yrs young. The ending was NOT my choice. Rather then wanting to work on the marriage he decided he rather have a mistress and was hoping that I would still be his wife. No way. Anyways this has NOT soured me on marriage at all. I hope to find a great guy sometime in the future and get married again. Being married is a great! You are still very young and have lots of life to experience. Just relax and enjoy all you can. Best of luck and many blessings to you
2007-03-10 20:39:11 · answer #6 · answered by mysweetluvie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree. Personally I would like to see more interest in solving problems. Too often the questions are about easy ways out and if not, many times the answers are.
How often do we see answers like "move on... " or "find someone else, this obviously isn't working." ?? What about trying everything possible to make it work?
Of course I understand that sometimes relationships just end, but I think that in most situations if two people loved each other enough to get married, they should love each other enough to get through a rough patch.
2007-03-17 21:34:44 · answer #7 · answered by why 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of good marriage. It just takes a lot of love and trust. I agree it is to easy to get a divorce. That why there too many it only takes 30 days. A few years ago you had to wait 6 months.
2007-03-16 06:38:09 · answer #8 · answered by LDJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wholly share your opinion and fears. But guess the kind of people who bash marriage. Very likely they have failed and cant understand how anyone can make marriage work. Guess where the happily married ones are; hardly ever on their computers. And they are not a minority as these section makes it appear. High ups to the few who keep at marriage being nice and workable.
Dont get misdirected by these mariage losers. More people are married, stable and enjoying it. I have been for 10yrs.
2007-03-18 11:59:42 · answer #9 · answered by Elder 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good question... gonna get lots of different answers on this one, I'm sure.
Don't just read the questions - read the answers, too. You'll see that there are still plenty (but not enough) of us that still respect marriage, encourage others to keep their vows, and to work hard to save their marriages. Just thumbs down the ones you don't agree with... There are still a lot of us fighting for it, so it's not gone yet.
Don't give up on marriage - a happy, healthy marriage is a wonderful thing. Just make sure you find the right woman!!!
2007-03-10 15:14:35 · answer #10 · answered by ~StepfordWife~ 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋