My boyfriend is an alcoholic. Iv'e tried talking to him but he doesn't even acknowledge it. What should I do? He needs to drink just to fall asleep every night.
2007-03-10 14:53:20 · 12 answers · asked by anonymous 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Find a new boyfriend
2007-03-10 15:10:51 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ Callie ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only person who can ave him is himself. If he does not even acknowledge it then he is far in denial. Besides, he's your boyfriend and you and him should be able to talk and address all probems but if he doesn't admit that he has one, it means that he does not care enough about you or the relationship to even acknowledge that he needs to change. the best thing that you can do is leave him. Maybe it will be a wake up call for him and if not, ultimately, it is his battle to fight.
Good Luck.
2007-03-10 23:32:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not foolish at all. If you are truly willing to help him, dont only talk. Take action. You love him. Get to the point and talk to him about it. He is not living healthy. How serious is this relationship? Ask him why cant he sleep. Is somethin botherin him? There is a lack of communication and understanding each other. Take drastic action! Say no to alcohol. It kills in the long run. Tell him how much you care and you dont want to see him die of it and harm himself already.
2007-03-10 23:14:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is an alcoholic and doesn't want to get help, I would run as fast as I could in the opposite direction or you will live a life of h--!!!!! You can't save him--until he acknowledges he has a problem and wants to be saved, only he can do it-- then you can be there to help him.
Good Luck!!
2007-03-10 23:05:44 · answer #4 · answered by "Hooks" 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alcoholics, once they discover alcohol, make it the center of their lives. Usually there is not room for anything or anyone else.
To understand what is going on, and what you need to know and feel, go to an "Al-Anon" meeting. This is the companion group to "Alcoholics Anonymous", for relatives and loved ones of Alcoholics.
(from the pamphlet "Detachment"):
"In Al-Anon we learn-
not to suffer because of the actions or reactions of other people
not to allow ourselves to be used or abused by others in interest of another's recovery
not to do for others what they can do for themselves
not to manipulate situations so others will eat, go to bed, pay bills, not drink, or behave as we see fit
not to cover up for another's mistakes or misdeeds
not to create a crisis
not to prevent a crisis if it isin the natural course of events.."
2007-03-10 23:08:14 · answer #5 · answered by papyrusbtl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to get a professional help. I don’t really think you can do this on your on. I mean you can be by his side and support him, but you can’t be the girl friend and the doctor. Alcohol is such a bad thing, even your bf knows how bad it is for his body, but he really can’t control himself. I have a relative who is alcoholic, and whenever we try to tell him how bad it is for him the more he used to drink. Now thanks god he doesn’t drink any more because his doctor told him if take a sip of alcohol he will die. All you have to do is try your very best to help him. Good luck!
2007-03-10 23:04:06 · answer #6 · answered by Lady-bug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a word, yes. Romance and life interventions do not mix. He needs to be ready to love you if you have romance that can grow as you want it to. He is not ready for that. Let him know that you MIGHT be able to reconnect with him once he has straightened out his life. He is choosing alcohol over you. I know it is hard; his life means a lot to you. Your integrity and self-respect are worth preserving too.
2007-03-11 00:01:30 · answer #7 · answered by Bob T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look ur not taking a very wise decision according to me
it is my suggestion that u stay away from alcoholics
once a person is into it he becomes addicted
so according to me stay away from him
alcoholics dont even have a stable nature sometimes they r very good to u
but somtimes they r absolutedly crazy and even take out somone else's grudge on you!!!
2007-03-10 23:44:41 · answer #8 · answered by Harkirath Singh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't acknowledge it, you shouldn't either and find a man that cares enough about you to take care of himself. Men do nothing they don't have to do.
2007-03-10 23:00:37 · answer #9 · answered by shocker83_fear_me23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? probab. to young top have to deal with hos problems - you cant help someone that doesnt want help. either leave and live your life or stay and waste your life waiting for him to change. good luck
2007-03-10 23:04:42 · answer #10 · answered by RPW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋