Depressed about growing up!!!?

Question

I'm so depressed about growing up. I am 12, going to be 13 in a little over a month. I feel like I just want to be a little kid again, and it feels like my life is passing me by. Now I have so many problems that I didn't have when I was littler. It makes me so sad every time I see pictures from when I was younger, because I was so much happier back then. I cry all the time, because I don't want to be a teenager or grow up, but no one can do anything about it. What can I do so I'm not so depressed and sad?

I have talked to my mom about it, but I can't always go to her every time I feel sad, I feel like I'm bugging her.

I just keep thinking, "When I'm 13 I'll only have 5 years left until I'll have to move away and get a job and pay bills.... And time goes by so fast that 5 years will seem like nothing at all!"

Answer 1

At your age you should not be feeling this way, please talk to your parents or a teacher. There is a school Psychologist, they will help you.

Answer 2

Listen. I'm 16, and I know you're afraind of growing up. Hell, I have one more year of High School and then it's off to college. I'm terrified of what the world has in store for me. My advice to you is to enjoy every aspect of life while you can. Sieze the day, Make it yours. Life only happens once, and then it's gone. All you have to do is decide what to do with the time that is given to you. You shouldn't cry. Try to keep the happy memories alive. You have so much to live for. High School, Marriage, Children, you need to look foward to all of that, an show the world that you are strong enough to make it out there. I'm depressed too, but it's for more personal reasons. Don't wast valuable time acting like a little kid. You'll end up developing a mental disorder, and then your whole life will be ruined. I don't mean to scare you, but there is no other way than to tell the truth.

Answer 3

Well, here's the facts. You need to accept that you are growing up. I also had the same problem when I was your age (I'm 15 now). It is hard to grasp the feeling of getting older and accepting it also. Getting older isn't all that bad though. People used to not listen to me or anything, but now, they listen to every word I say because I matured and I became wiser and more knowlegable. You will eventually like getting older. You may seem like you aren't happy right now, but I'm sure that you can do something to change that. Go for a ride on a bike or go for a walk and ponder it all out. Do something physical. That will make you feel a whole lot better. Also, if you want to, talk to your parents or a teacher or anybody about it. You have a whole life ahead of you. Maybe sixty five heck seventy years to go. Go out there and make something out of it. I hope this helped.

Answer 4

Omigosh. I felt exactly the same way at your age. I didn't want to grow up or age. I wanted the freedom and lack of responsibility of being a kid. I missed the freedoms I had had, or perceived I had had.

There is a grieving that goes on when changes happen, since inherent in change is loss. So you need to allow yourself to grieve the loss of childhood. What I do when I need to grieve is write the headings of the stages of grieving developed by Dr. Marion Kubler-Ross:

Disbelief
Denial
Anger
Bargaining/Depression
Acceptance.

Then I write what each stage means to me in the particular instance. Don't be surprised if you get angry a lot. This can be misplaced anger.
You need to validate your feelings.
BUT
once you have written them all down, you may want to read them to someone you trust, or perhaps ask your Mom to find a counsellor for you to talk to and perhaps read your writings to.

You are likely a very sensitive person. I am that. Sensitivity as most feelings, has positive as well as negative points.

Being sensitive allows us to appreciate beauty, nature, a sunset, music, a good movie, a wonderful speech. So sensitivity is good. The down side is that we can be too sensitive and feel things so deeply that we suffer.

Balance is what we need. And that is hard to attain. But worthwhile to strive for.

Good for you for writing your question and for understanding what you are going through.

From the vantage of my current age (which is 'lofty') can tell you that you will be ok. That you will enjoy certain aspects of 'growing up' and will learn from the other aspects. "It's all good."

Answer 5

growing up can be depressing at 1st but ull get over it. it is just a pharse ull eventullly relize that being a teen is fun! u get to do way more stuff than eva be4! its a blast! give urself sumtime. and maybe sumthin big has changed in ur life that u didnt post that is making u feel this way. think bout it maybe a family memeber lived or was together when u were younger. but ull grow out of it so for now a day withhout laughing is a wasted day so remember that. have fun u only get to live once! ENJOY! and if u dont now u will very soon

Answer 6

I undergo in options getting unhappy and mawkish at the same time as i replaced into about 17. i'm 26 now, and wager what? that is way extra useful than i presumed. you've a lot extra freedom as an individual. And that is no longer the 1950's anymore. you at the on the spot are not envisioned to graduate from extreme college, get married, and start up having toddlers right now. i'm very a lot a to blame individual -- i'm a veteran and an finished-time college pupil with an finished-time job. yet... I nevertheless devour infant cereal on occasion, and that i nevertheless watch the occasional caricature or infant's movie. that is exciting having the finest of both worlds.

Answer 7

Hey, so I'm about 6 years older than you, so it hasn't been that long since I was your age, so I know what you're going through. I was kind of the same way. I didn't really feel like I wanted to grow up, and felt like everything was happening really fast. And in a way, it all does happen pretty fast. But know this: Growing up really isn't that bad. For example, life seriously does get better after middle school. I think there's a reason middle school takes the least years to complete (well, in most states). Not many people look back on middle school with very fond memories. High school really is better than middle school, and college is even better than high school. It may seem like you won't have as much fun as you grow up, but that isn't true. You're not going to all of a sudden feel more mature or anything. You don't have to change how you think/act. It's just part of life, and it's really not a bad part of it, trust me. And remember, happiness is all in your attitude. There are people who are happy despite tons and tons of problems. And there are rich and famous people that are completely depressed. It's all how you look at what's going on in your life.
So trust me, growing up isn't all that bad. You'll have fun. Sometimes change is a good thing, even when you don't expect it to be. But if you're really not feeling happy, or are still really worried about this, talk to someone! There are many people who care about you, and you're not bothering them or taking up their time by asking for help! So don't feel like you're bugging your mom by wanting her to listen to you. I'm sure she's happy to be there for you. And there are always counselors, friends, etc. to talk to. You don't have to figure this out alone!
Edit: So I saw your added details, and as someone who just moved out and started paying bills and the things you're worried about, trust me it's nothing to fear. Responsibility is actually a good thing. And there are people to help you if you struggle with the change. But 5 years is a pretty long time to prepare. Don't worry about it. :)

Answer 8

I understand how you feel. You're helpless. No one can stop time. ''Time waits for no man'' You're still young tho! You're about to begin life as a teenager! Believe me, its an interesting adventure. You'll be closer to your friends, meet all sorts of WEIRD guys, go to lots more parties, etc etc etc!

Even though you keep getting older each year, it dosnt mean you have to stop being a kid. Yes, you'll have alot more responsibilities, your parents would expect more out of you, but there's a kid in every one of us. Dont change yourself just to click with the environment. The kid in us, brings out so much of humour. It makes us more lovable then we already are. Especially for us, girls :D

Cheer up my dear!

Treasure thoes old memories,
They're always gonna stay with you.

Make room for new memories,
Knowing, they'll only get better!

Dont take things for granted. Your mom would never feel like your bugging her! Im sure you can talk to her about anything & be prepared for good answers! :) You're going through a new phrase in life, Im sure you'd have much to question.

Take care & hang in there!
It'll be fine! :)

Answer 9

life starts at twenty-something. you will have more responsibility than you have now but you will have more freedom as well.

here's a tip: since you know you're getting older, plan it out! since you don't want to feel like today you're 12 and tomorrow you're 20 make a life plan of positive things.

for example: by 15, you want to get your first job. by 16, you want to have a learner's permit. by 17, you want to go away to college. by 18 you want to have a full-fledged driver's license....

there are plenty of things to look forward to. don't be sad about getting older. growing up is like starting a new school, you're scared at first but you'll get used to it and with good friends, and lots to do, you'll really start to love it.

Answer 10

kid i'm 40 and i say enjoy your youth while u can

12 is still young. u start over hill at 30, lol

Dont cry. Find ways to enjoy. Lots fun u can have now u wont have latter.

P.S You are still a kid.

Answer 11

Have you told a parent or guardian this? I would request a therapist if I were you. Or at least go to the library and find books about teens on this subject. Most libraries have many books on this topic for your age.