How do you help someone through sexual abuse?

Question

My best mate has been sexually abused by a family member all of her high school life. Her head is so mixed up that she leaves the house at night to walk alone and get away. Unfortuneately for her this one night ended up with her being raped. How can i help her through this? she has finally left home but is a complete mess. She just keeps everything to herself. please help me find a way to get through to her so i can help

Answer 1

she isnt going to get over it in one day it might take several years for her to get over this. As a friend just be there she needs someone she can count on and trust. I dont care if its a stranger or someone close but she needs to go to the police and report this and put the s.o.b. behind bars. If she was my daughter I would hope she would come to me and tell me you better believe he would be in jail. It will take her some time to trust anyone but see if you can convince her to see a therapist. She isnt crazy but it will help her get through such a tragic event. Just be there keep her safe dont turn your back on her she needs you. In time she will be more open to talk but for now she is trying to cope w/ what happened. I hope she in time heals and he is where he belongs and she can slowly trust again. I dont know her but let her know that I am thinking about her and as much as it hurts and throughout all her feelings right now to not do anything that would cause her to ruin her life I am sure she is having some thoughts right now its not her fault. I know someone who has gone through this exact same thing it happened to her when she was in jr high now than she is grown married w/ a family her parents still dont know and she went through hell and tried to just wanted to end her life she to was a mess but she is w/ a great caring guy who knows she found the strength to tell him and its helped he has saved her from doing something stupid she is so happy now and in time your friesnd will be happy too god bless her and I hope she heals.

Answer 2

MYTH FACT

Rape = Sex People commit rape for power, control & domination.
Rapists are sex-starved perverts. Most rapists are married, or have a regular, consenting sex partner.
I could never be raped. Unfortunately, every one is vulnerable to rape.
Strangers commit rape. Nationally, 82% of rape victims know the person who raped them. According to the San Antonio Police Department in 1,750 cases committed from 1999 through 2001, 92% of the victims knew their perpetrators.
Rape happens in bad neighborhoods, down dark alleys. Most rapes happen in the home of the victim, the rapist, or a friend.
Some women ask to be raped by the way they dress. Rapists choose their victims based on availability, not on the way they look.
If a woman gets drunk and leads a guy, then she “asked” to be raped. A person who is drinking or using drugs CANNOT consent to sex under any circumstance. The other individual is expected to know consent cannot be given.
Men can’t control themselves. If he’s turned on and can’t stop, it’s her fault. Every one can control his or her actions. Raping someone is an action. Each person is responsible for his her own actions.
Women OFTEN lie about being raped to get back at a guy or to get revenge. False reports of rape are very rare. It is difficult to lie about rape because of the medical exam, the investigation, and most importantly, the shame involved.
You can pick out a rapist by the way he looks. Rapists can be young, old, rich, poor, good-looking, ugly, male, female, smart or stupid. You CANNOT pick a rapist out of a crowd.
Men cannot be raped. Approximately 111,000 adult men are raped in America every year.
Rape is “just sex she didn’t want.” Rape is about violence. Sex is being used as a weapon against someone’s will.
All women really want to be raped. NO ONE wants to be raped. Women do not like rape.
“No” sometimes means “Yes” or “try harder.” No ALWAYS means no.
If someone never says, “No,” it can’t be called rape. The law says consent MUST be a verbal agreement. The person has to say “yes.”
Rape victims are “damaged goods,” or no longer virgins. Being raped does not fundamentally change the character, the values, the strengths, or the positive attributes of the victim. It is a bad thing that happened TO them, not because of them.
Child Abuse Hotline/Dept of Social Services 1-800-342-3720
View their 800 numbers page
National Child Abuse Hotline [phone]
Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline/Voices for Children
1-800-4ACHILD or 1-800-422-4453
TDD: 1-800-2A-CHILD.
Provides multilingual crisis intervention and proffesional counseling on child abuse. Gives referrals to local social service groups offering counseling on child abuse. Has literature on child abuse in English and Spanish.
Operates 24 hours.

Answer 3

help by staying by her side while she nakes appointments to get counseling and to a doc for deppression.
just be there for her even if it's just lunch or a movie or even a board game she just needs someone who will love her for being her.

Answer 4

go to therapy...