2007-03-10 14:36:33 · 37 answers · asked by fightin60 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leave him alone, HE'S MARRIED! Would you want someone going after your husband, and tearing your family apart?
2007-03-10 14:39:24 · answer #1 · answered by Speedy 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He's no friend to you, and if you stay in this situation long enough you'll see what I mean.
She'll find out about you one day, and as someone else said, he'll drop you like a bad habit. Worse yet for you, you may not get any notice it's coming -- all of a sudden he'll just disappear -- no call, no note, no email explaining it all -- nothing. He'll be on lockdown at home, and behaving like a living doll lest wifey take everything he owns and throw his sorry butt in the street.
Meanwhile, you'll be left to agonize over what went wrong, and what are you going to do? It's not like you can go over to his house and talk things out.
So, I'll give you the explanation that you won't be getting from him: what's wrong is you were foolish enough to believe his BS and self-deceiving enough to think you'd be the one exception to the iron-clad rule: you get involved with a married man, and you're going to suffer, and eventually he will dump you.
Extramarital affairs are taboo for a reason: they are a nasty mess for everyone involved, and at least one person invariably gets seriously hurt.
He'll have wifey to turn to, and they'll kiss and make up and work it all out. You? You'll have nobody, and it's not as if many people are going to give you sympathy. As you can see from the outpouring of "love" here, society places the lion's share of blame on the woman, not the married man, who should have stayed faithful to his vows to begin with no matter WHO tempted him.
2007-03-11 14:29:07 · answer #2 · answered by sparticle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help? You didn't see this coming when you started a relationship with a married man? It is just wrong and he will probably never leave his wife. If he does, will you trust him? After all he cheated with you behind his wifes back. It could happen again. If you want to save yourself a lot of hurt and heartache, stop the relationship and find a single guy.
2007-03-10 16:08:14 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are he will NEVER leave his wife. Why should he. He has the best of both worlds with no accountability!! He is married.....find someone who is not. If the relationship goes sour he can stay where he is with little regard to how you would feel! Married men rarely leave their wives and when they do the relationship they go into usually does not last!!
2007-03-10 14:49:34 · answer #4 · answered by AnaBoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all the key in what you just asked is the word "married". Your best friend has a wife and even if he has told you otherwise he has chosen to be married to someone other than you. This should be a wake up call....if he doesn't leave his wife than it should be over between the two of you.
2007-03-10 14:41:48 · answer #5 · answered by Sara M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The problem most of us have in relationships today is one person is not our everything. With TV throwing so much trash at us so quickly, our values are being redefined in subliminal ways.
50 to 75% of us may be in the same situation. We must bear in mind THE GRASS IS NOT ALWAYS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE FENCE. You could divorce remarry and be back in the same situation in no time flat.
It's not easy! Better do some praying, before you go straying...and somebody ends up getting shot.
Some lovers walk away with no problem, others are ready to kill...and nobody likes to be played for a fool.
LOL
2007-03-10 14:59:49 · answer #6 · answered by xman77 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's using you. That grew to become into very sparkling while he ran back to his spouse while she got here upon that text cloth. To be blunt i'm specific that the sizzle has long gone out of his marriage and he in basic terms enjoys getting that sizzle with you. you'll be able to desire to tell him which you have too lots self appreciate to maintain on being his 2nd decision. do no longer ask him to circulate away his spouse because of the fact whether he did do it (which hardly ever happens) he will continually resent you for forcing him to do it. If his marriage is that undesirable then he needs to variety it out himself because of the fact it particularly is his very own concern. you'll be able to desire to be sturdy considering the fact which you deserve better than being someones secret. tell him that that is over - if he sends you flora then provide them away to a chum of yours, if he writes you a poem then throw it away without examining it. If he does not back off then threaten to tell somebody approximately what he's doing because of the fact the terror of having caught will make him end. he's enjoying the two you and and his spouse and he will proceed to realize this if the two one among you in user-friendly terms shop on letting him do it. Please get out of it nevertheless. I genuinely have seen first hand what this occasion can do to human beings. My pal has been having an affair for extremely just about ten years now and his spouse sits at domicile depressing because of the fact she knows her husband is cheating, his lady pal nevertheless thinks he will sooner or later go away his spouse and the only individual who's ever particularly happy is him because of the fact he could have his cake and consume it too!
2016-09-30 12:21:29 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you prefer more-
your friendship with your best friend;
or the relationship with a cheating man?
Unfortunately, your friend is the only victim in this, and you as her best friend should be the one to support her in the pain and suffering she will endure from a cheating spouse.
If he says he can't leave his wife, its obvious that he understands the eternal commitment he has made with your best friend, and even fun sex with you cannot change that.
I'm sorry to be so blunt, but the truth hurts, and you should get out while you can!
2007-03-10 14:41:59 · answer #8 · answered by Julie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's married hands off!
One question if he were to leave his wife for you would you want to be the women waiting at home for him while he messes around with another you?
2007-03-10 14:53:34 · answer #9 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would he want to leave his wife? He's in a great spot, he's got a wife, home, stability and a floozy on the side - all his needs are being met, so there's no need to change it. By the way, you ought to be ashamed of yourself for banging somebody's husband.
2007-03-10 14:51:21 · answer #10 · answered by Vanessa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's a lot more to this picture than what you let on. Its not wrong to love someone or be loved by them.
But cheating involves someone else without their knowledge or consent.
Best judgment, discretion and the will to sacrifice what you want for the better good is probably the best answer.
2007-03-10 14:42:08 · answer #11 · answered by krollohare2 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋