I have been really good friends with this girl for about 13 years now, we always hung out and had a good time until the past year or so. She started to get into a lot of drugs and has become really inconsiderate and disrespectful to a lot of people around her who are just trying to be nice. I really can't handle it anymore. She always needs me to do something for her or pay for something and I always do. Then if I try to call her to see how she is she acts like she's annoyed to talk with me and puts me down. Should I keep trying to make this friendship work or should I just forget it, even after we've been friends for so long? I really don't want to hurt her feelings. Please help!
Thanks.
2007-03-10 14:34:49 · 6 answers · asked by ♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think you already know the answer but are too nice for tough love. She's not showing you the same respect you're showing her. I think you need to separate yourself from her until she gets some help and straightens up. From the sound of it, you may even be enabling her a bit by paying for things and letting her think the way she treats you is acceptable. She's putting you down because she needs to build herself up. Don't let her and don't worry about her feelings in this case. She's obviously not worried about yours.
You might try attending some AL-ANON or ALA-TEEN meetings and see if they can offer any suggestions. In case you don't know, those are the support groups for families and friends of alcoholics. Though she's into drugs, the support needs are the same. I think they could offer you solid help.
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/
2007-03-10 14:47:05 · answer #1 · answered by Just Me Alone 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should organise a time to sit down with her and have a talk. She might have problems with her life and not want to talk about. Ask yourself how this friendship has been working for 13 years. I know you are very fustrated with her right now but I think you should find out why she isn't behaving like you're her friend. Remember that friends are always there for each other in good and bad times. Please give her a chance and sometimes you have to hurt her feelings to save your friendship.
2007-03-10 22:45:50 · answer #2 · answered by claresapphire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,
let's say that you've abandon her for something she really needs?
she's into drugs and you let her be with it? She needs counselling, therapy and sort of it-yeah, maybe she dumped it, or make it worsen if you try to persuade her on it-but those are not the reasons..you try...
that should do it..
you care about her, you take her somewhere she might thank you one day after..
addiction heals..with the right steps of cure..
and never leave her-she needs you, not financially but soully..
2007-03-10 23:49:06 · answer #3 · answered by middle of mind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People grow up & grow apart. She chose a different road than you did. Thankfully you know better than to do the things she's doing. I know it hurts, but you should just let her go. It doesn't sound like she's interested in being friends with you anymore.
2007-03-10 22:52:02 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you bee Friend this long have to talked to her maybe she need you said something to her she she doing drugs taking not her drugs maybe if you thank she might need helped quit paid anyting for her might helped
2007-03-10 23:07:23 · answer #5 · answered by piglet91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u shud let time do this own thing
if she realy cares abt ur friendship she'll be back
2007-03-10 23:24:38 · answer #6 · answered by antish_r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋