I'm trying to push my friend to go to church with me, but she keeps making excuses for not going. I know she doesn't want to go, but I just want her to see what it's like. Is that a bad thing? I know she talks behind my back because of it, but I still don't know how to get her to go. Can someone please help me?
2007-03-10 14:26:56 · 6 answers · asked by anew_star@sbcglobal.net 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Inviting your friend to go to church is ok, but you shouldn't force her if she really doesn't want to. This applies to anything else.
Regarding her talking behind your back because of this incident, you might want to try and talk to her about it. Ask her her opinions about going to church and the reasons why she won't go. Also, explain to her that you only want her to see what church is like, and isn't forcing her to believe in what you do.
Good luck =)
2007-03-10 15:27:58 · answer #1 · answered by Shan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should leave her alone. If she wants to go, she'll go. If she doesn't want to go, she shouldn't be forced. Everyone is entitled to their own beliefs and no one should force their religion on anyone regardless of "good intentions." It's nice of you to invite her but stop pressuring her or you're going to alienate her and lose a friend. Just tell her you know she really doesn't want to go with you right now but should she change her mind someday, the offer is always open. Then say that you hope she'll come one day just to see what it's like and spend some time together doing something that's important to you. Make sure you tell her there's no pressure involved and you're not trying to convert her.
2007-03-10 22:39:27 · answer #2 · answered by Just Me Alone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmm..
yeahh its really hard to try to convince someone to go to churchh..i knoe cause i have friends that dont go to church && family members that dont go to church. BUT
the ONE thing that you really SHOULDNT do is PUSH her to go to church. cause heyy you never knoe how she really feels bout church. u knoee? so i think you should just talk to her bout church and the things you learn, (if she needs it that is) and just like set a GoOd example for her. and one day just ask her to come to church with you. and if she says "no" then just be like okayy and move on. Then ask her another weeek. if she says no and makes an excuse. just move on dont push her. ORRRR you can invite her to a special church event or something...that can be easier too. yeahhh i hope things work out though. itll take alot of time for some people and not as much for others but yepp.
2007-03-11 01:05:25 · answer #3 · answered by =] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend really does not want to go you should stop pushing her because it will not make the situation any better. In the mean time you should pray for her and let her know how you feel.
2007-03-10 22:47:46 · answer #4 · answered by Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
telling her that its good to go to church is alright but pushing her to do it?that's another story,obviously she doesn't want to go, so lay off! one of the things a friend is you should know how not to impose your likes & dislikes unless its asked, that's what you call respecting other's wishes, you know it irks her, why keep on pushing her to go? let it go and find other things you both enjoy doing or you could go on with this wanting her to go and find yourself an enemy, either way, its your choice, good luck
2007-03-10 22:52:43 · answer #5 · answered by BlueAngel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think that it is wonderful that you want your friend to go with you to church. However, you can only invite her and let her make her own choice.
2007-03-10 22:37:49 · answer #6 · answered by Maybe I am a smartass..so what 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋