Bad teachers!?

Question

A school child has been having problems with the teacher complaing about him wanting to use the lavatory.

Everytime he tells the teacher he is gonna go to the lavatory, he is told off and denied to right to go.
I have told him to ignore the teacher and go anyway.
This never worked, the teachers started causing much more disruption and virbal abuse.

He has had this problem again and agian and again.
The more he fought back, the worse the teachers got about it.

He eventually went the tiolet without the teachers permission and got violently yelled at.

On Thursday he had the same problem and had decided to save it until later.
He was in the assembelly in the afternoon.
He got up and went the front the hall infront of 500 children, pulled down his under-pants and pissed on the floor; yelling "I want to use the F**ing lavatory!!!" and ran away bursting into tears.

What do I do now?

Answer 1

Have you talked to the teacher? Sometimes what you hear from students, and what the teacher hears in the classroom are night and day! Call school and schedule a conference with the teacher. Go in with a good attitude, not defensive, and ask what seems to be happening. Tell them what you are hearing at home, and ask if that is what is REALLY happening in the classroom.

If that doesn't solve the problem, schedule a conference with the principal to address the situation.

The Key to Successfully handling this situation - start with the teacher and do not assume that what you have heard from your child is accurate. I have had a student ask to go to the bathroom every 5-6 mintues in my class, simply because they wanted to get into the hallway and see what was going on. The teacher in your situtation was absolutely incorrect in dealing with your child - I am NOT defending them - but please be aware that there may be more to the story than what you have been told!

Answer 2

You submitted this question twice under two different headings. Reading through it, I get the impression you are not telling us the whole story or you are not getting the whole story from the child.

Every time he tells the teacher he needs to use the bathroom, he is denied the right to go? I doubt this highly. My guess is he requests to use the restroom at times when it is inappropriate, such as during instruction or 15 minutes after returning from a recess or lunch break. His purpose is not to use the bathroom, but to avoid or disrupt instruction; it is a power play. It is very telling that on Thursday he encountered the same problem and "decided to save it until later". Amazing that he could choose to do this at that time, but was unable to do it at other times!! His purpose is attention and power. Why did he wait to do this in front of 500 students? The language and bursting into tears was pure theatre. Now, many people will say, "Poor Tommy, he is treated so badly by his teacher. She won't even let him go to the bathroom!"

This child has problems way beyond bladder control and you need to get him to someone who can help. You are not helping.

Answer 3

i understand your frustation about the situation, especially if this school child is yours. however, if there is no medical record of your son having bladder control problem, the teacher has the authority to deny your son's request during class times. keep in mind that there are available times your son can use the "lavatory" - before the bell rings for the starting of the school day, recess/break, and lunch. as many students do, instead of taking care of necessary businesses during these times, most lounge around and wait until class is in session. if they do use the restrooms during these specific times, most of the students who ask to be dismissed often want to stray away from class activities. accepting offers to use the restroom almost always lead to a domino effect. now, if your son has a bladder problem, let his teacher know. and ofcourse if he doesn't have a problem, whether or not he uses the restroom during outside class times, his teacher should make exceptions... just not often.
to find out what's really happening, ask the teacher without letting them know what your son has said. schedule a conference when your mind is at ease, but don't wait too long. usually, in this case the teacher should have already informed you about your child's actions (a phone call or letter).

Answer 4

I am student teaching and I have difficulty with children wanting to use the restroom constantly. Some children come up to me in the middle of instruction and ask to use the restroom. They are gone for most of the instruction and when they return they dont know what the rest of the class is doing. Some students ask to go the restroom right after I provide them specific instruction. I have students who ask to use the restroom over 5 times a day. It does get frustrating and I do have to scold them for asking so many times. Even though I ask a student if they really have to go they may just tell me that they do...

Some schools regarding using the restroom. You may want to look at the rules regarding restroom use at that particular school. You maybe want to talk to the teacher to see if they are really yelling at the student. Sometimes I use a firm voice with a student and they start crying, even though I was not yelling and I was trying to repremand them.

Talk to the principal after talking to the teacher. It isnt fair for the teacher for you to just see the principal. From my experience the story that a child tells others is not really what happens. A child told his parents that the notice was never put in his bag, however I placed the notice into the backpack and zipped it up. Who is lying in that situation....

Answer 5

There are many facts in this issue. One is to ask if the student in this case has a medical problem & if so a medical certificate should be given to the director so he can inform the teaching staff. If so this situation can be of danger to the student. No matter the age if it is true let your doctor know what is going on and from there star taking notes of what is going on. What is in black and white stays in black and white these are true facts of defence. Then I would have charges brought forward to the childrens aid and have the police notified as this is child abuse. I could name a lot of charges to write, it is to much to discribe. I can assure this a true case from what I have read. How is the child, is he mischevious, is he on medications? I no this can give light to this problem because I had to deal with some of this kind of abuse as a teacher to High school students. No matter the age it can be abuse if it is a valid point and damn good reasons. Yelling at a child for one is verbal abuse??????Good luck. If I can be of assistance I will be back on site to see how it is going on with this problem.

Answer 6

if this is your child and there is some reason he cant remember to go to the toilet during class breaks, or some other condition which requires him to go to the toilet more often then you need to speak to the teacher and explain that he is not simply trying to avoid work but really has to go and insist that they let him. by the way his behaviour in assembly was completely inappropriate.