If a person speaks his mind civilizedly and moderately to point out something that is wrong, why do others take offense on this and take avenge for themselves behind the scene?
For me, I like to hear what is wrong with me so I can reflect on it, and change for the better. If I am ridiculed, I take it light-heartedly. I don't understand why people can't be straight-forward with what is bothering them. I believe open communication is very very important ingredient to a good rapport.
2007-03-10 14:22:45 · 12 answers · asked by oscar c 5 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
The anomaly of behavior that sees you treated so differently despite your frankness in putting the point through to them. --- I am tended to believe that message a means of communication of some sort, need to be concise and honest, away from the insidious that would perceive by others as an offence, in a way, condemning their integrity which no person can stand idle and not doing anything but retaliation.
I guess putting a message through is an art when done in cleverness can muster the countless of supports or admirers for one’s benefit in the future. On the other hand, I am in contention the presence of narrow-minded person that cannot be appeased in whatever means that normally would encourage the heave of appreciation instead. I am all for frankness. Again, be discreet when the situation does not conform to your good taste or virtue. Having patience is the solution, and maybe a twist of good fortune, those gossipers will appreciate your virtue someday.
2007-03-10 16:56:14 · answer #1 · answered by cheng 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
At the same time , even tho is a virtue , it is a virtue that you have to be careful , because not all honesty divulging is good for the health , have you heard of the phrase " Silence is golden " well it is true , some times the well meant words can never be retrieve and damage, it can last the entire life , so this virtue is not with out it's perils , go with thoughtfulness and a better virtue is " Patience " that will let you see if you should or not divulge in the Honesty part. Also each person have a different way to take criticism , some like your self indulge in being able to absorb statements of you by others , yet many others are not able to accept your honesty , so be thoughtful of them.
2007-03-10 22:54:21 · answer #2 · answered by young old man 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Though I am an honest person myself I'd have to say Honesty is a curse in a Dishonest world.
You actually handicap yourself being honest in a world of lies. It DOES make you trustworthy to individuals because they know where you stand & can make a decision easier by your input but being honest at all costs COSTS you more than not.
You know how honest I was the other day?
I was at the self-checkout at a Kroger's supermarket & saw a $20 bill laying down in the bag area.
•When no one is around and money is found on the ground, the rule is to take the money because any person can claim it was theirs when it really wasn't and the actual loser of the money will not be able to recognize his/her loss in time much less the location where it was lost. Somebody will end up taking it anyway when they find it so it's best to keep it for yourself.
•However when I see someone drop money in the actual act you are THEN required to bring that to the person's attention & return his/her money back to him/her. You KNOW the source of the money & you realize human error; you recognize this can happen to you as well because you're just as human.
That's the code I operate on.
Since there was a clerk overseeing the self-checkout lines I brought to her attention the $20 bill. She said one of the other employees must have carelessly dropped it while checking out some items (employees shop too) & that she'll return this to him.
Right then & there & even as I was in the process of pointing the bill out I knew I made a mistake. How can a clerk recognize someone else's money? How do I know her story was valid?
My honesty cost me in that gray area situation.
I don't believe in karma really. Good deeds often yield good results socially but it is not a guarantee. Bad people DO prosper sorry to inform you. And they don't necessarily get punished for their bad deeds.
So really my honesty was stupidity.
I told the lady as I was regretfully handing over the $20 bill that most people wouldn't have done what I did.
Full honesty loses you friends & family too. If you tell the absolute truth about a person TO that person, that person may not want your company anymore. That doesn't mean you should lie but that sometimes silence is the best option. Getting true honesty out of people is a difficult task because many are trained to be civil & not talk bad about another to their face. On the other hand usually those who give full honesty often forget tact & it comes off as cruel. Only few people can handle honest feedback.
Open communication IS important but good luck attaining this in this world of lies & liars-both benign & malicious.
2007-03-10 23:25:38 · answer #3 · answered by johnlucas31320 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people realise that every individual has his or her own map of the world. So perceives the world through ones own eyes and ones own filters. What another might perceive as wrong about another person, could be still right for this person.
So as long as you are honest with the understanding that you are only honest about your own "truth" how you perceive it, then this might in some cases be beneficial for the other person to hear what your opinion is. But how said not always. What is your goal in being honest? To help somebody to grow? What if this person does not want to grow, or has some other goal at present? Honesty without love is no virtue.
And with love I mean you must when using "honesty" also look on the other person with "love". Then it is a blessing.
2007-03-10 22:44:34 · answer #4 · answered by I love you too! 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi Kyala C,
I disagree with those who say, it is OK to lie in order to preserve a person's self-image... If a person asks for your opinion about something and your response may offend them, there are ways to respond truthfully.. without turning it into a personal attack...
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You don't do anyone a favor by misleading them, whether it's about their personal appearance, or your personal politics. It is not a kind less to lie, no matter the intention...
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Honesty is a character element, we choose it, rather than being born with it... By choosing it consistently we raise the moral standard of behavior for ourselves and those we interact with... Therefore, my answer is, honesty is the best policy... At some point if a person is a "real paragon of virtue", it may be possible to say "honesty is the ONLY policy".....
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When it comes to honesty then, the proper principle can be stated like this: "You must always be honest when trying to obtain values.. from other people".......
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Thanks, for the question!:)
My regards!
Take care!
2007-03-10 23:48:24 · answer #5 · answered by Kimberly 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
In a corporative working environment, it is mandatory. Without knowing exactly what problems exist, corrective action will not take place or will be mis-guided. Honesty is always the best policy. Hiding things is a dis-service to both you and your employer.
2007-03-10 22:33:37 · answer #6 · answered by Sophist 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People don't tell you the bad things because when they meet you they don't want to upset you. And everybody isn't the same so to one person it may be irritating if they were told something wrong about it especially if they are uncomfortable about it.
2007-03-10 22:33:05 · answer #7 · answered by caswellalex 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, honesty is a virtue.
2007-03-10 22:30:08 · answer #8 · answered by Bethany 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better to be politically correct and wrong, than blunt and offensive.
Welcome to the modern age where peoples feelings determine what you are allowed to say.
2007-03-10 22:42:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds good to me. i try to do that as well. i try to tell the truth even if i think what i say isn't going to be the answer the person was looking for.
2007-03-11 00:48:43 · answer #10 · answered by ~*~AmethystMoonBeams~*~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋