school hated..?

Question

i am 13 years old and i am gay... half fo my school hates me and the other half wont talk to me... i even walked into the bathrooms the other day and "all gay people (RACHEL) *me* should go to hell" was written on 5 out 6 bathroom doors... i just dont no what i can do to tell they that i am just like them but gay... can anyone tell me what i should do plllzzz ~.~

Answer 1

YOU ABSOLUTELY have to live and prosper in spite of all the is hatred. The only way to win against people who wish that bad things will happen to you is be the best person you can possibly be. I also went through what you went through at that age but it began to happen in like the 4th grade. I still see some of the people whose words of hate used to CRUSH me every time they see me. And most of them are miserable fools whose life is going nowhere and never will. Don't let it effect you ignore them as much as you possibly can. Don't let them get to you because when you do you will fall into depression like i did and that is not a fun place to be. If you have your parents and they are there for you talk to them about it. I had to deal with my daily dose of gay bashing all alone because i was not even out of the closet yet so there was no one that i could run to for support. Tell your teachers and the principal, demand that something is done so that this does not happen again. Again don't let it effect you, but if it starts to get violent then you have no choice but to seek your education somewhere else. GOOD LUCK AND KEEP YOUR HEAD UP!!

Answer 2

Oh, hun, I'm sorry you're having such a tough time. If I could revert back to 13 I'd go to your school, be your best friend and protect you from those creeps. Kids can be very mean and the teenage years are rough for everyone, esp. gay teens. Do your parents know that you're gay? Can you talk to them about this? Is there a trusted teacher or guidance counselor you can go to? Today many places have support groups for gay teens. I think that would be very helpful for you. You can meet new friends and talk to people that are going through the same things. If things get really bad maybe you should talk to your parents or some adult at the school about maybe getting transferred to a different school.

Answer 3

Rachel if they don't want to be your friend then you don't need them in your life, alot of those people you go to school with will just be a distant memory 15 years from now. I don't know if you're out to family members or friends but I think you do need support. You need someone who you can just vent to about your frustratings, things that are happening with you. I had a hard time too in HS back when i was your age and the negative things stuck with me into my adulthood because I didn't come out of the closet and tell anyone. I didnt' come out until I was 23 and when I did i finally vented to someone about all the negative things I went through during HS. I wanted people to like me too but the truth is not everyone is going to like you just because you are gay. That's the cold part about being gay but Hey thats there lost.

Answer 4

There are things you can do besides switching schools. First, I would go to a counselor and talk to them and maybe set up appointments (maybe weekly). Also I think that you should go to your principal about those people writing things on the bathroom. That's a form of harassment and no one should have to put up with that. If there have been other instances, verbal or otherwise, report those too. If you want you can have your counselor go with you when you go to the principal. Just keep your head up, a lot of young people who go through harassment end up very depressed and we wouldn't want you to have to go through that too. I don't know if your school has this but a lot of High Schools have GSA (gay-straight alliance) this can be really helpful for you to meet friends and find a place where you can be yourself. I'm guessing since your 13 you're in Junior High or Middle School, which tends not to have this program but maybe you can try to start one up for your school. Or maybe the High School or your principal will let you go to your High School's program. Good luck, my wishes go out to you.

Answer 5

it's not easy being out in a public school. the best thing to do is talk to a councilor or teacher about having a gay activist or someone from a gay organization (AIDS Foundation, Oasis, PFLAG, GLSEN) come to your school and talk to classes about homosexuality. We did this in middle school, except it was about teen mothers. They would talk about what they went through and afterwords, they passed out slips of paper and every student had to write an anonomous paper. we gave the questions to them and they randomly read and answered each of them.

This will be a great way for students and staff to see that gays are just like everyone else. chances are, some of the students who dont talk to you isn't because they hate you, but because they dont know how to act around you. they hear people talking bad about you and they see things written in the bathroom about gays going to hell. They may fear that if they talk to you, then others will turn against them as well. so my suggestion is to have a quest speaker come to your school and educate everyone on the issue.

Good Luck

Answer 6

at 13, the last thing you should be doing is broadcasting your sexual orientation to everyone. that is great that you are gay. but sadly, the world of teenagers aren't all open and accepting of it. the fact that you tell everyone you are gay may be sending the wrong message to everyone.

you could file a complaint to the principal of the school about the hate vandalism on the bathroom and let him know that it disturbs you to know that the school is full of hatred.

try to make a few close friends and stick to them. once people realize you are a great person and you are capable of being a great friend, maybe more others will be less hateful towards you.

Answer 7

You are me when I was 12, I swear.


Ignore them, learn to laugh about it! The fact that they're more concerned about what you do that they completely miss the fact that they're going against "God" more than you are is really amusing if you let it be.


As for the bathroom thing, write something smart@ssy in response. If anyone gives you **** about it, literally laugh in their face. It will piss them off and it'll give you serious empowerment.


Trust me, I go to an all-girls catholic highschool and I'm the queerest thing that ever walked into that school. They talk about me "in secret" and I think it's kind of funny, but if you ever need advice/support or just a friend to talk to who knows what you're going through without being 20! (i'm 14 btw), you can e-mail me.

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Answer 8

Other than switching schools I am afraid there is nothing you can do. Why are you worried about jerks like that.I remember junior high and I know you want friends.But since you already have that reputation there not much you can do.What I would do if I were you is just keep to yourself and ignore that stuff.I know easier said than done.If you quit drawing attention to yourself someone gay might seek you out and then you will have a friend.I know this has got to be hard.But you are just gonna have to be hard also.I would just ignore them and act like it doesn't bother you and after a while they will get bored and stop. Good luck!

Answer 9

I am so sorry that your school is like that, trust me, not every place is. You can try joining a local LGBT group, or forming one at your school, to find the support and acceptance you deserve. You could also speak with the school authorities, I cannot promise they will be completely understanding but it is their responsibility to make sure the school atmosphere is appropriate and that all students feel safe, they may also introduce a section on homosexuality into their Life Ed. classes if they haven't done so already.

Answer 10

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