2007-03-10 14:21:17 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He doesn't seem to like none of my family either.
2007-03-10 14:32:33 · update #1
She seems fine and content. How do I make her see this isn't healthy?
2007-03-10 14:35:57 · update #2
Annie, parental instincts tell me to deal with him in the same underhanded way.
2007-03-10 14:40:51 · update #3
Your daughter has to make the decision that she's not going to deal with this unhealthy relationship or marriage. If you interfere, she's not going to be happy about that, so, give her the benefit of doubt once you've shown her where things are not right. Say your prayers for God to help her and let time take it's course.
2007-03-10 16:10:02 · answer #1 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All you can do is let her know you're there if she ever needs you. Be careful of pushing too hard or too far... you don't want to push her away and make her feel like she can't turn to you. Make sure she realizes that if she ever needs to leave, she has somewhere to go - but be subtle about it. You don't want to outright accuse him of abuse, this may make her protective of him. If she seems happy, let it be for now, just keep your eyes open and your instinct on. You're not going to be able to convince her unless she's ready to be convinced.
Also, if they feel that you don't approve of him, or don't like him, she may just be choosing her husband over her family - which is not necessarily a bad thing. Try including him more, and see if that helps the situation.
2007-03-10 14:57:53 · answer #2 · answered by ~StepfordWife~ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, you're not going to like my answer...
No one's going to be able to help her until SHE realizes what he's doing. I think ( I hope) that eventually she will get tired of it. I am sorry to say that isolation is usually a sign of abuse like the other answerers said...
2007-03-10 14:36:45 · answer #3 · answered by Annie M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, Your daughter's situation is similar like mine. Probably her husband is either too possesive about or or insecure about her meeting her family (whose influence he may think will affect their marraige). Try to include him in all the family gatherings. Talk to him nicely and let him feel as and when possible that he is equally important to you all as your daughter. Your daughter may not speak up this with you, but I am sure she might be feeling lonely herself but she is mature enough to make her husband feel good (to save her marraige) if it requries her to give up meeting with her family. She will bless you for making him feel better with you all as this will let her more opportunities to meet you all without having to offend him. After all, you are HER family and its ONLY YOU who can understand her and help her. Isnt it? Try to make it all look very casual. Best wishes for your daughter!
2007-03-10 15:59:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you mean he neglects her?
Let her know that you are a mother and you know when something is wrong. I bet you just want to throw your son-in-law out a window. I know I would if someone did that to my daughter.
2007-03-10 14:28:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
get in touch with a shelter for abused women they should be able to give you some literature.......this is a sign of abuse
2007-03-10 14:27:18 · answer #6 · answered by ladybug 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try to get your daughter to go to a domestic violence shelter if you can take her where she will be safe he might be physically abusive too or will be
2007-03-10 14:32:01 · answer #7 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There really is nothing that you can do if she refuses to see it herself. All you can do is hope she will eventually come to her senses and hope it's not too late.
2007-03-10 15:33:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Mind your own business.
2007-03-10 15:15:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋