why not tell your husband that you fantasize about being with another man. If it would hurt his feelings to know this, then isn't it wrong?
2007-03-10 14:16:23 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
So..It sounds like fantasizing is almsot like having an emotional affair.
2007-03-10 14:28:41 · update #1
Yes i agree with you here that this is wrong if you cannot tell your husband and if it hurts him that you do then you should not be doing this ladies and vice versa the man should not fantasize about other women either as this is very hurtful too the wife and just not the right thing to do.... Great point made here! Yes fantasizing is the same thing as wanting to have sex with that person in your mind and heart and if this is so it is commiting the act already in your mind and heart which is the same thing as doing so and can someday lead to the real thing as you may want the fantasy to become reality.
2007-03-10 14:51:01 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't tell my husband, because it's completely unnecessary. There are so many different levels of fantasy... Do I notice good looking men occasionally? Yes, I do. Does my mind wander for a second or two? Sometimes. Why would I bother to tell him that? He doesn't tell me about every good looking woman he sees in the course of his day. But I don't think of other men when I'm with my husband... and if I'm by myself, fantasizing, it's him I'm thinking of.
Fantasizing is only harmful if it begins to overpower reality - if you let it become a focus of your life, if you find yourself wishing your husband were more like the fantasy man. If that were the case, I'd look at what the problems were in my marriage, and why I felt the need to replace reality with fantasy.
2007-03-10 14:47:26 · answer #2 · answered by ~StepfordWife~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I talk about these sorts of things all the time. We have a very open line of communication. No shame or embarrassment in this house. Although we are faithful to each other, we are not so naive to believe that we could never have sexual impulses for someone else. It is what we do with those impulses that is important. We use that sexual energy with each other, and enjoy the spark/excitement that fantasies bring into our lives.
I do NOT believe fantasizing is cheating. You can't cheat all by yourself or by having sex with your spouse. Especially when your spouse is in on the fantasy and an active participant.
2007-03-10 14:59:33 · answer #3 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont feel that fantasizing is having an emotional affair. and i dont feel fantasizing is morally wrong. if i can get the escape i need in my mind it will save me from eventually doing it in reality. my thoughts are my own private time and the only one i have to answer to about it is my God. And if that's the worst they got on me on judgement day then I'll be a happy girl.
2007-03-10 14:37:15 · answer #4 · answered by j05gemini 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
FYI -
Regarding fantasy, Helen Fisher ("The First Sex," Ballantine Books, Feb. 2000) says that 71 percent of men and 72 percent of women fantasize while having sex with a partner. Men fantasize about conquest and domination, women about submission and surrender.
Dr. Joyce Brothers says, "It might relieve some of your guilt to know that many happily married individuals who have no thought or intention of ever betraying their spouse have sexual fantasies about someone other than their spouse."
2007-03-11 01:17:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally it don't matter if it's husband or wife, if your fantasizing about being with someone other than your spouse is wrong and it is adultery, even if only in your thoughts.
2007-03-10 14:29:33 · answer #6 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can honestly say I dont fantasize about other men. I see attractive men but I love my husband for who he is and does for me and our family. I dont need to pretend he is someone else to make me happy.
2007-03-10 15:07:10 · answer #7 · answered by hotmoma1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it truly is alright to masturbate. Any guy or boy previous sufficient to do it does. even if or not they admit it or no longer. and also you do not imagine about no longer something. it truly is unfaithful. You do imagine of something. even if it truly is a woman at school or yet another boy or regardless of the truth that. there is no longer something to experience embarrassment about. sex is a classic organic issue. only be careful. you're literally not too youthful for sex yet you're too youthful to get a woman pregnant. undesirable theory. be careful. there is ailment available to boot as those who will take income of your adolescents and inexperience. only be careful. do not enable absolutely everyone talk you into doing something you do not favor to do.
2016-12-01 19:43:24 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt tell him because its just understood. I understand he thinks about other girls and he knows i think about other men. We dont have to discuss it cuz it dosnt really make us feel good
2007-03-10 14:21:00 · answer #9 · answered by lovebug512 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO becuase Its none of his BUSINESS what I think about in my own private time!!
2007-03-10 14:24:51 · answer #10 · answered by jamie c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋