hi im a 13 year old boy and uhm me and this girl is my same age and were very good frends with benefits and we both want to have sex (protected) of course but i dont know if i shoudld please help....
2007-03-10 14:14:05 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
For my money....it's too early for sex...protected or otherwise....things can happen...condoms can break/leak and " bingo" your a Dad at 13.....please think about what you are doing and take it easy. There is plenty of time for sex later. Good luck.
2007-03-10 14:18:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not thinking w/ the right head,ok? listen to me.....@ 13 you are not ready for the responsibility that goes into a sexual relationship...even if you use protection...it's not 100% safe,you can still cause a pregnancy...or contact an std,it's happened so many times..after it's done,there's no going back. Not to mention the emotional side of things, which is the most unexplainable reason to just say no... you just can't imagine how things change after you've started a sexual relationship. Think about these things... worse case scenario for a minute: pregnant girlfriend... =....working 13 year old boyfriend...what about school, carreers,futures,especially a life brought into this world w/ no adults as parents.....then aids & countless other stds,..what do you think ya'lls parents would feel & do about this??? If you become a father @ 13, you can't even legally drive to the grocery store to get milk for your baby. You'll miss proms, fun on the weekends w/ your friends,you'll have to get a job........you don't wanna........your time will come soon enough....so wait
2007-03-10 14:28:10 · answer #2 · answered by weezie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 13. How would you feel if your "protection" didn't work and by 14 you had to go find a job to support a baby? If you care at all about this girl, do you care what other people will say about her? Here's an idea, wait about 5 years, then if you still want to have sex, go right ahead in the mean time, spend your childhood being a child.
2007-03-10 14:25:28 · answer #3 · answered by penelopejanepitstop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude,
I'm 13 too (but I'm a girl), and I've been in a situation like this. You need to do what feels right, because sex can lead to things you can't take back (like a baby). Are you 100% sure you want to do it? And is the girl? You need to make sure that you and her are on the same page and that she 100% wants to. You also have to think about it from her point of view: you can just do it and feel happy, but a girl has to worry about pregnancy and STDs. If you are both on the same page and really want to, you should just do what feels right, and remember that you might regret what happens...
Just be careful, of your choices, and of your girl's feelings, too.
Hope I could help.
2007-03-14 13:47:13 · answer #4 · answered by born2run106 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh man...i'm scared for my kids i'm 22 and have one child i hope to god they arent as stupid as you and try to have sex at 13...wait until your brain is bigger then your d*ck then decide if your ready to have sex...your too young you don't know what your doing, the condom can easily slip off while having sex and youi wouldnt even realize it until BAM she's pregnant!!! and then your little a** will have to take care of another little a** and you'll have this girl constantly yelling at you to help her pay for the diapers and the baby food and clothes and a crib and your parents will be on your butt all day long yelling at you to grow up now because your a dad and telling you, "GET A JOB"!!! "no you can't keep taking money from us to pay for your mistakes"!!!! "look the baby is crying take care of it"!!! all because you thought hmmm i wanna have sex at 13 and i dont care about the consequences of what could happen if i do it. when you can support yourself, then you can start having sex, but right now your not even old enough to get a job.
2007-03-10 14:28:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh god no!!! do u know that it's illegal until 18 y/o even if both concern it, but make ur decition, it's your life, but remind that she could demand you by violation, and u will go 2 jail, not her, also leaving the legal problems behind u could get a baby, would u want 2 be father, c'mon wait a little bitter, like 5 years, find other way
2007-03-11 08:14:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't!!!! 13 is really young!!!! Your "girlfriend" will be called terrible names and do you really want to be a father now? And also ewww for actually want to!!! I am 13 and I don't. I have morals. Where would you get a condom anyway? Have you even kissed her? With benefits is a lame term. Don't do anything with her if you don't really have romantic feelings for her!!!!!
2007-03-10 15:05:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course NOT!! do not do it, ur too young. If she wants you only for sex, chances are she is sleeping around with a whole lot of other boys and you never know what she may have.
2007-03-10 14:19:47 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok this is coming from a 13 year old girl...ARE YOU NUTS???? You are in puppy love. Wait a little longer. It will be worth it. If you really care about her than you won't. That will show her you care about her and not only your own needs.
2007-03-10 14:19:56 · answer #9 · answered by Liz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not my place to be judgemental but 13 is kind of young to have sex. find an alternative or just wait alittle, it will probably make it better when you are old enough and realy ready
2007-03-10 14:17:21 · answer #10 · answered by Dillon C (who else) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋