My boyfriend of 4 yrs is very into his video games and he would rather be working or doin something other than spending time with me. I think its very important to spend time with him considering im almost 7 months pregnant. I always tell him when i feel the baby kicking to put his hand there and he never wants to, could this be signs that hes not goin to be involved with helping me raise our son. please help me
2007-03-10 13:54:22 · 5 answers · asked by Juliace & Cheyenne's Mommy 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i had somewhat the same problem and my daughter is one now but when she was little he didn't want to do anything but hang out and do what he wanted while i was up doing everything getting up by myself feed her by myself diapers by myself but i told him i need help if i wanted to do this alone i would be by myself so help me he still just helps a little but when babies are small a lot of men are scared to hold them and change them because they think they are going to hurt them but by doing this all by myself i feel like me and my daughter have a special bond when she needs something she knows that mommy is coming you have maternal instincts you will be just fine even if you do have to do it alone !!! good luck and enjoy these times while you are pregnant because the are beautiful!!
2007-03-10 14:08:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it's hard for men to "connect" with the baby while you're pregnant. It's just not real to them because it's not in their body. He should get more excited in the next month or two... take him to an ultrasound appointment if that helps. If he can see a visual image that might make it more real for him.
If he's still not interested when the baby arrives, you're not going to change that and you're not going to change him. If that's the case, you and the baby are better off without him. But I hope that isn't the case.
2007-03-10 22:11:43 · answer #2 · answered by Luann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know, my husband can be the same way. always doing something without me like video games, internet, blahblah. i raised my 2 babies without his help but he has slowly grown to get more involved by playing with them. he expects a lot from me like go to work, take care of the baby while i'm pregnant and makes me carry my own weight. some men are less sensitive to pregnant women's feelings but once that baby comes out, he'll want to play with it. don't worry. that's the way he is. i think you should be concerned on how he takes care of of the family financially and as the man of the house.
2007-03-10 22:01:38 · answer #3 · answered by isochronous7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No point in worrying. You are going to be the stable parent no matter what, right? You can't make him be around. If he is - what a bonus. If not, well, don't set yourself up to expect much. Immature men are not known for their fathering skills or dedication, or responsibility.
2007-03-10 21:59:06 · answer #4 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he needs to realize that once this baby comes, the video games stop. Parenting is TWO PEOPLE, not just one. if he wants to make it just you, then leave him.
If your already that pregnant, and he is showing no interest, then something is up.
2007-03-10 22:04:56 · answer #5 · answered by Skyleigh's Mom :)™ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋