as a father is it normal to feel left out, Being that i cant breast feed my child?

Answer 1

yeah, it's totally normal. To bond with your child, give your wife/whomever a chance to have some alone time. As soon as the baby is done eating, tell her to go have an hour-two to herself where she can do whatever she wants. Then hold the baby, read, sing, dance with him/her, talk, just bond. That gives you a chance to bond and gives you some MAJOR MAJOR brownie points with your wife/girlfriend/whatever! :)

Answer 2

Stand your ground.
Don't let anyone push you away from your baby — not your mother-in-law, your mate, or your boss. It's easy for a new father to feel excluded from taking care of a baby, or that he can do nothing right. "Dads may well do things differently from moms," says Bishop, "and that's okay. If it's a problem, go into another room and try things your way." And make sure you spend time alone with your baby, especially in the first month. "You'll have problems," , "but the key thing is you'll get through it, one way or another. And once you do, your anxiety level diminishes."

Veteran dads agree: A little bit of time alone with an infant makes you feel like a father. And it's the only way you'll reach the milestone of learning to comfort your crying baby yourself — rather than turning him over to someone else. "Dads tend to be very creative problem-solvers when given the chance," , "whether they're working out how to soothe a baby or to help him stay asleep during the critical transition from Dad's arms to the bassinet."

Trust your instincts.
You will become the expert on your own baby. "The most nervous dads are afraid to hold a baby," "We've found that if we put another guy's baby in their arms, they'll hold him very stiffly as they try to do it exactly right, but within five minutes, they relax and mold into the baby."

A few such encounters go a long way. Formerly nervous new dads tell expectant dads, You don't have any choice but to get in there and do it: Change the diapers, comfort the baby, trust your instincts, and in two days, you'll feel like a natural.

Answer 3

It is normal to feel left out..

If you read some childcare books..or what to expect in the first year..you will see it is very normal for fathers to feel left out. Babies are more attched to the moms right now, as all thye knew was the mom's secent..voice..everything before being born..now mom is breast feeding baby..and it is normal for baby. The baby does reconaize your voice tho..make sure you do all the cuddling..rocking..chagnig etc you can. But do not take it personally that baby will want mom now and then. Baby actaully sees mom as an extention of him/herself.
Be near by when you can when baby is being breast feed..talk soothly to her..
soon in time..you can have your own time with baby..go for walks..take her to the park..feed her from a bottle when time comes..

Answer 4

Its normal to feel left out but there are other things you can do too.. Like everything else, bathe the baby, change the baby an sing to the baby, hold the baby and play with your baby. I breast feed 2 , but my husband never felt left out cause he always wanted the baby when I was done............

Answer 5

I think it's normal, and I think you'll get over it very soon as long as you take on other baby-tending. Declare yourself prime minister of bathing, burping and reading Goodnight Moon five times in a row. You wife will think you're a hero, and in time, so will your baby. Congratulations! Now go to the bookstore and buy the world's best baby book: The Baby Book by William Sears. Dr. Sears does a great job explaining a father's role in raising a newborn.

Answer 6

Lots of fathers feel left out for that reason. You may want to ask your wife if she can pump some milk so that it can be given to the baby by bottle so that you may get in on feeding time with the baby. It is perfectly normal, your wife should feel honored that you have this feeling because there are some that just dont care about this subject.

Answer 7

this must be your first time as a daddy. i'm a mother who breast fed my baby. my husband didn't feel left out at all because parents have different roles in caring for a baby. all i can say is be supportive of the mama and help out as much as you can. that's the best thing you can do. your role as a dad comes when you need to discipline your child, play, and show an example of how you take responsibility for the family and provide and protect. you'll get it. you just have to live through it.

Answer 8

There are many things as a father we can't do for our children, that our wives do. That is why nature requires both a male and a female to produce offspring natureally. But, don't feel left out. Instead, reveal in the magnificense of the moment. Admire the mirical before your eyes. The grandure of the power bestode on us as mere motals, to produce a perfect clone of the two of us. This is the most fenominal moment you will ever experience. Enjoy all of it!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

My fiance felt the same way at first. I just kept reminding him that this short time will fly by fast, and soon, our daughter would be more excited to see him than me :) I'll be the "no" lady, and he'll be the "fun" person. lol.
Try holding your little one after each feeding, and let mommy take a shower, or make something to eat, or just stretch. Be supportive of her during this time, she is doing the BEST thing for your baby, and she needs your unwavering support. Keep her comfortable, the house somewhat clean, get her water and munchies, and just be there for her. You will have LOTS of time with your little one, don't worry! This is completely and wonderfully natural.

Answer 10

Yeah it's pretty normal. But to your credit, the fact that you feel left out tells me that you are a good parent/father. Keep up the good work.