Have you ever confronted a white girl?

Question

I'm a black 14 year old girl, someone who recently confronted a white imp who has the same classes as I do. Yes, she's white, so it is a black VS white thing. Note that I am NOT racist.

For an unknown reason this girl has something against me. Of course I am her boyfriend's BEST friend, and I assume this causes an inconvenience for her. Unfortunately, I've been friends with this guy before he ever met her, so she needs to inhale such obligation. But that's not the problem; she was supposed to come 1st in English literature, but I dominated her at her own game. Since I was awarded BEST Female Cheer-Leader last summer for our Highschool Basketball Team, the little hypocrite decided to become a sycophant. Her boyfriend knows most of my arcanum, and he unconsciously revealed few essentials to her about me, which she scandalized right after I was awarded BEST Math Student Of the Year. No kidding, she's the ONLY female I've ever seen so enlightened. My question is: Does she hate me?

Answer 1

there are so many issues here. most of them are personal issues that you possess.

1. you have a chip on your shoulder. you are used to being the best, and you flaunt it. i think your arrogance is what is setting this girl's jealousy off. you can be proud of your intellect without being over-zealous and in-your-face about it.

2. let's assume that this girl is jealous. let it ride. rise above pettiness and keep your head in the school books. you have too much talent to waste on playing silly mind games with this girl.

3. your vocabulary is extensive, but you need to take it down a notch. it seems like you are trying hard to impress us out here in YAHOO land. take it from me - i've been in your shoes, being the only smart black girl for miles around in my school at a younger age. the reason why i've stated that you are trying to hard is because some of your 10 dollar words are improperly used in your posting. yes you are smart, but have some humility. make sure you know what you are talking about, or you're going to look like a high-falutin know it all who actually knows very little.

4. nothing you have told us reveals that the girl "hates" you beacuse of racial differnces. as i said earlier, you have a chip on your shoulder. you might want to think about how YOU feel being at the top, being presumably surrounded by white students. i'm sure it gets lonely without seeing other black students who are just as bright as you are.

5. a boyfriend's best friend should be his girlfriend or one of his other guy friends. ask yourself: why aren't YOU his girl? what kind of friend is he, revealing information to others about you? believe me...it wasn't "unconscious." don't coddle this so called best friend. i think you might be a little jealous of the other girl as well.

6. you are smart enough to leave this nonsense behind. it's not even worth it. work on getting those scholarships for college in a couple of years. like i said: you are too bright for all of this useless drama. let it go.

and no, she doesn't hate you.

Answer 2

You use a lot of big words for a 14 year old...I doubt many of the other students have any idea what you are talking about when you say sycophant and arcanum, but I guess that is why you got all of these awards. It sounds like you are always trying to compete with her and beat her at everything (are you jealous?). Perhaps you two just have a bit of a rivalry, which is perfectly normal for two females to have at that age.

Answer 3

After reading every word of your question, I cannot for the life of me, figure out why you brought race into it. *shakes head*

"Yes, she's white, so it is a black VS white thing. Note that I am NOT racist." - with this unnecessary statement you just gave us a reason to believe you are racist.

You may have known this boy longer than her, but he chose the other as his girlfriend not you. That makes her his best friend in his mind.

And you need not use words like sycophant & arcanum to try to impress anyone. But if you do it again, use them in the correct context.

Answer 4

Apparently you brought RACE into the matter for NO reason. Girl she aint hatin because you are black she is jealous of you because you are whipping her butt at the "best" contest thing AND you are friends with her boyfriend. She is just a normal teenager and she may have a low self esteem and think her /bf is in love with you. It doesnt seem to me to be a white vs. black thing at all so why did you bring that up, most of our answers would have been the same regardless of race. You may just want to try and talk to the girl rationally, explain to her that you two are just friends and then in a mature voice ask her what her problem is with you.

Answer 5

The fact that you bring race up when it is not part of the conflict says that race is an issue in your mind. I think you should address that internally before approaching this with anyone. I think you know the problem is territorial in nature, you are both fighting over the same guy. Even though you may not be interested in him romantically, he is your best friend so you want him to spend time with you. She is probably not going to be cool with this. You and your friend should discuss appropriate friend boundaries and then hopefully he will have a similar talk with his girlfriend. I think you should stay out of that part though.

Good luck.

Answer 6

It seems like you're trying to "outdo" her. You know the reason why she has something against you. Everything she tries to come out #1, you beat her at it. Boys are physical at your age; girls tend to fight with words and gossip.
It doesn't sound like the boyfriend's much of a friend if he has loose lips. The girl's insanely jealous of you. This will continue to go back and forth, and will continue to escalate. I'd choose other friends. You're bright and already know that. That will put an end to the matter.

Answer 7

Well basically the thing is that she's jealous of you. You over pass her acedemically and ur her bf best friend. How do you want her to feel?Ofocurse she has a reason to "hate" you. But I don't think she really hates you. Shes just nervous and scared. You guys are just rivals. Just try to keep it cool with her, and talk to her straight forward.

Answer 8

It seems like you already know she dislikes you. You also seem to dislike her by the way you were talking. I would say that you two just agree to not like each other and call it a day. I'm sure that she is a little bit nervous that your her boyfriends best friend. She is probably insecure about her relationship with him.

Answer 9

I doubt she hates you; that's a very strong word, but you do seem to have a very high opinion of yourself, verging on a superiority complex. You need to work on your vocabulary too; it is laudable that you try to use difficult words, but you need to use them in the correct context rather than throwing them into sentences where they do not belong. Your problem is your hubris rather than this girl and her imaginary hatred.

Answer 10

I'm a 14 year old hispanic girl. well, part spanish part white and i have a ton of white friends. And yeah, she probably does hate you. You're beating her at everything. Go you! But i can tell you she's probably throwing darts at your year book pic rite now.