I'm writing a book about the experiences mothers have in the first 6 weeks.?

Question

i feel new mothers need to know about the hard times as well as the good times with being a new mother.if you want to tell me your story about breast feeding ,sleeping, traumatic births or PND ect. please do so as i feel new mothers need to know they're not alone

Answer 1

I think one of the biggest things I wasn't prepared for with my first child was the lack of that immediate bond. Nobody told me this was normal and I thought I was a freak and there was something horribly wrong with me. The lack of sleep was something else I was totally unprepared for. Breast feeding is another topic, my adive to new mothers is to keep their options open. I hated it, but I had so much guilt about it that I kept trying and just grew resentful. If I had had more of an open mind about it before, i wouldn't have tried to force it so long and lost those several weeks being miserable with my newborn - i think that works both ways, don't set your heart on it and don't discount it without trying.

Answer 2

my experience was pretty tough, The whole nine months I swore to never have another child. I had severe morning sickness for 7 weeks pregnant til the night before I gave birth. about 5 months I noticed my baby did not move much and I became concerned, thats when my doctor suggested some NST (non stress test) they said she was called non-reactive meaning not enough heart acceleration so I was scheduled for every month NST"S and ultrasounds, its wasnt so bad because I got to see the baby grow. During 7 month thats when they said they were concerned about my amniotic fluid levels they went up and down for the next two months. In the end I was induced 2 weeks later. The labor was not that bad. I did have an epidural and had an episotomy. I healed in fairly good time. But NO ONE told me that an epidural could give you a spinal headache, the pain was unbarable. I thought I was going through postpardom depression. I wanted to cry and I could barely see straight after being admitted to the hospital 3 times they finally said i needed a blood patch which was a painful procedure where they took blood from your arm and placed it in your spine.. one hour later i was good as new.. In the end I still had a beautiful baby girl. And i would never trade that for the world.

Answer 3

I had pre-eclampsia with my son and was in and out of the hospital before being admitted for 10 days. It was a very scary and nerve wracking situation. I gained so much water weight that it could fail my kidneys and I could go into seizures. They had to pad my hospital bed just in case. When I was in the high-risk pregnancy wing, I realized that many other women were going through similar traumatic experiences and it really made me feel much better and that I wasn't alone. I was still very worried. My son was born 3 weeks early by c-section and was 5lbs 2oz. He was healthy, but my disorder stunted his growth in utero. I always wanted to breastfeed and know it's the best thing for a baby. I tried so hard to breastfeed him, although everyone said he was too little and he wouldn't latch on. I took classes and tried constantly. It was the most aggravating thing. I pumped milk and tried and tried. Eventually as he got bigger he latched on more and more, but unfortunately by that time, all my milk had dried up. The most difficult thing is coming home with the baby and yourself recovering from major surgery and being in so much pain and trying to take care of a newborn was very difficult and frustrating. Thank God I had my family and my husband to help me. When you go to sleep with a newborn, the minute he starts to cry you wake up, it's a maternal thing I think. I was worried I wouldn't hear him and wouldn't wake up. Waking up and struggling to breastfeed him for an hour and then pumping for another hour and then feeding him finally was extremely hard. Things got easier. And I am so blessed. He is such a sweet good little baby. I think mother's need to know that no matter how scary this can be, there are so many other people doing the same thing and getting through it. My Mom always told me "If having children was as bad as everyone thinks it is, no one would be having kids." I also think this is an excellent topic for a book.

Answer 4

Hi, I think your book should be successful. It's certainly a unique subject on which to write. I have 2 children, both born thru c-sections. The first time, we went through childbirth prep classes but I never really got to use much of those breathing techniques due to an emergency c-section. Having gone 2 weeks beyond my due date, I was hospitalized, then induced. I never dilated beyond 2 or 3 centimeters and finally an ultra-sound was performed and it showed my baby boy to be really big (he was born 25 inches long and 12. 6 pounds!!). So, you can imagine the experience wasn't quite what I might have anticipated.

I miscarried my 2nd pregnancy in the 5th month and pretty much had a semi-nervous breakdown. My 3rd pregnancy was very much like the first. But instead of being induced (again I was 2 wks. overdue), a c-section was scheduled and my daughter was born weighing 11.7 pounds, and 21 inches long.

Hope those experiences prove useful to you in writing your book!

Answer 5

the first 6 weeks my daughter was here was hard for me....i had an awesome pregnancy and birthing experience, but i had to have an episiotomy and had a hard time recovering from it....i had a 3rd degree episiotomy (which is one of the worst) and stitches all over the place...im only 5ft tall and my daughter came out at a surprising 7lbs 8oz and BARELY fit...needless to say from all the hard pushing i had what many women get along with giving birth...hemmoroids...and on top of the stitches, it was painful. my husband went immediately back to work so it was just me and my little girl at home....it was hard to walk a more then a slow pace, i could barely sit down, and getting in and out of bed was more painful than giving birth was!!!! on top of that, my daughter got a cold after the 1st week she was born...let me tell you how stressful that was....she had only been in this world for 7 days and she already was feeling like crap...she cried alot, slept alot, and had me suctioning her nose every 20-30 minutes...i felt so helpless because i couldnt do anything for her but kep her nose clear....it was finally completely gone by week 3, but the 2 weeks the cold worked its course was stressful...when she got out of her doing nothing but sleeping phase, i would have to fight to get her to sleep...she has a thing for sleeping durung the day and not going to bed until 3 or 4 in the morning...there were nights where i just wanted to pull my hair out because i hated staying up until 4 in the morning trying to get her to sleep and then having to wake up 2 hours later to feed her again!!!

she is now 10 weeks old and gets to sleep at a decent time...she also sleeps for 5-7 hours at a time before i have to feed her at nite....i am just starting to feel better physically and motherhood is now all i thought it would be...im so happy!!!!

Answer 6

My first 6 weeks with my daughter were wonderful. I was jealous of anyone who held her, because when I held her, I would just marvel at how miraculous she is! I wasn't prepared for the "baby blues" which made me cry at EVERYTHING! My daughter had jaundice, and had to be placed in a "bili blanket" and I cried, commercials made me cry, my daughter being in a lower percentile for her weight made me cry....and I had hot an cold flashes. It was like I was still pregnant, but now I had to get over my hormones, and care for baby.

Every little thing my daughter did, I thought it was spectacular. And every day is sweet.

Answer 7

The constant crying about drove me nuts! I tried to stick to the doctor's feeding schedule, but if I had it to do over, I'd feed the baby every time it started crying -- and also if there was nothing else apparently wrong.

Answer 8

wow, that is a very intersting topic. Good Choice....


Good Luck with your book 8)

Answer 9

Good idea! IPersonally I had no idea how hard it would be and I tell my friends the honest and brutal truth!

Answer 10

Do you have an email address? Kind of a long story, lol.