So, my ex bf emailed me out of the blue after 7 years apart. We have been emailing back and forth for the past couple of months, he has told me he thinks it is good we have been in contact, but that he really wasn't expecting that we would emailing each other as much as we have been. I am single and would love to re-kindle our relationship, we did not end on bad terms 7 years ago, I believe the timing was just bad for both of us. I still miss and love him dearly. HOWEVER, I gave him my number and said if he ever felt like chatting in person, he could give me a call. He said he would like to but since he doesn't know my situation he does not want to cross the line and get anyone hurt. So I responded on my end that there is no one to hurt if he calls. Then he responds that it is not on my end that problems could arise if he calls. I guess I'm really confused on what to do here, should I just ask him point blank if he is married or what? Why did he contact me if he is not single? Help!
2007-03-10 13:02:04 · 12 answers · asked by Sunny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To me the last question is the best answer you could have given yourself. Sounds to me like he has gotten himself into a miserable relationship and now wants to make a move on you again. And the girl he is with now just reminds him how much he misses you. But he is obviously not able to be away from her so he is either scared of her or he is married to her. I would just let him go. I know you had something good with him but it may not be that good this time. If he would do this to her imagine what he would do to you. Let him go.
2007-03-10 13:10:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is obviously UNAVAILABLE whether this be that he's married, came out of the closet, in a committed relationship or just emotionally out there. Tell him it has been nice chatting with him and wean off the Email exchange. (Don't answer right away, make them short, etc). If his situation changes he'll let you know quickly. If not, you haven't invested much and you'll be hurt less then if you continue this game with him.
Good luck, I know these things are hard to deal with.
2007-03-10 13:07:54 · answer #2 · answered by Robin B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its obvious he's either married or in a serious enough relationship. You guys didnt work 7 years ago...not gonna work now. You are in the giggly stage of just meeting (or re-meeting) someone. If there is someone else back off now. You'll create less hurt.
2007-03-10 13:07:34 · answer #3 · answered by csiders30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is not married he is definitely involved with someone. you might want to think harder on your past relationship. was it realy just bad timing or was there something more? there is a reason that you are ex's. i would advise walking away from this for now. perhaps in the future things wont be so confusing. i wish you all the best
2007-03-10 13:19:51 · answer #4 · answered by simplyme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes , ask if he is in a committed relationship , or what the story is , although he sounds like a nice guy , you dont want to be the "other woman" , yes it may work , but it may also branch over a few tears and heartache's as well , and you to could get together , and this guy could relise that he loves both of you .. or he could be in a situation that he cant for other reasons.. because face it , when they put you inprison , they do give you one call dont they..
2007-03-10 13:08:43 · answer #5 · answered by DSV 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Many girls break up with their significant others, is because they need time to figure things out. Don't take it personally, if you want her back, you have to show her you can help her. If you love her then you'll let her go, that's it. Not everybody who you date in high school you end up staying with, the chances are extremely unlikely. So if she doesn't want to, then you need to let her go.
2014-10-22 15:41:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you should ask him if he is in a relationship or not... and hopefully he will be honest with you..... that way if he is single you guys can get re acquainted if not then you REALLY need to find out what game is his playing at.... for him to contact you after so long maybe something is lacking in hes like and he feel that you can fill that gap.... really, just ask him.. that way your confusion will stop and you wont be getting your hopes up for no reason.... good luck!
2007-03-10 13:10:54 · answer #7 · answered by just_jemma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Point blank. He's probably with someone. Do not cause a bunch of drama you don't want.
2007-03-10 13:05:55 · answer #8 · answered by indieforcutie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd let him know you're interested in finding someone who's available. I would also let him know you don't want any DRAMA in your life. The best to you...
2007-03-10 13:37:26 · answer #9 · answered by bahjij6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he does have someone on his end. Maybe you should end this before you get hurt. Come right out and ask him....you really need to know!
2007-03-10 13:06:25 · answer #10 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋