my life is just not going the way i wanted,my wife is soooooo nice but when she gets angry she start saying some very bad things.the thing is i can't live with her any more and i want divorce but i want her to ask for it.is there any suggestion
2007-03-10 12:59:00 · 15 answers · asked by filaha1984 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
BETTER YOU BOTH MEET ANY COUNCILLOR I THINK YOUR PROBLEM WILL BE SOLVED WITHOUT DIVORCE
2007-03-10 15:01:45 · answer #1 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to change your ways and attitude for the good of your family.
You say your wife is so nice and that tells there is no need of separation but understanding between the two.
In general anger of a person has a valid reason but the intensity of violence verbal and physical are not justified under any circumstances.We need to sympathise with the perso who is caught with the devil of anger w/o control.
Between the two,you have a grievence and you must seek redressal if any by seeking a divorce and should expect your wife to ask for it. One day if it happens ,will you take it easy and be ready to face it?
Divorce is a million dollar and double edged sword and you have to handle it with care.
Suggestions.
1) Try to adjust and live with her.Tolerate her anger.
Do not provoke her any longer.
2) If not, cosult a marriage counsellor ,relatives,friends and well wishers and still not reaching a solution ,ask for a divorce.
Wish you good luck for a happy living with controlled/limited anger from either side or for a unhappy divorce for a happy or unhappy solution at far.
2007-03-12 18:54:55 · answer #2 · answered by NQS 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk with your wife and let her know how you feel when she says "very bad things" to you. Remember, your relationship started out with love, try to bring it back. Never verbally attack her as a person, let her know the THINGS that she does that make you unhappy or upset, and do it in a calm way. If this does not help and you are really willing to not give up on the relationship, try counseling.
If you are not willing to try for whatever reasons, then that is another issue.
2007-03-10 13:07:53 · answer #3 · answered by SouthernAnswer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not happy in the marriage, you need to tell your wife this. If, after you've told her how you feel about her temper tantrums, you don't see a positive change in the relationship, you need to stop playing games and tell her you want a divorce. Some women use anger to control their husbands. Because of their own insecurities, they keep their men on guilt trips and make their lives miserable. If you have a wife like this, she's not going to stop the behavior until you stop allowing it.
2007-03-10 13:29:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wife and husband problem arises because of the following
1.money 2.relationship 3.previous activities of the partners
It is better to sit and discuss with a good docto): your problem is not a problem at all: Women are all very soft at the same time very sensitive: Even educated ladies are not thinking and acting properly: Their main problem starts with ego.
2007-03-10 14:30:08 · answer #5 · answered by ar.samy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think , to go for a divorce for small reasons is not a good convention . Marriage is so important relationship and you should try to withstand the pressures and stayin the game .
2007-03-10 13:49:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be trying to force her into a corner to do the work that you aren't willing to do. Sometimes, no matter how difficult it is, we need to be grown ups and do things that are hard. Get yourself together, and make a comitment to work thing out, or split up, but don't expect someone else to do your dirty work for you.
2007-03-10 14:57:03 · answer #7 · answered by Erika G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
grow up! No one's life ever goes the way they wanted it! Spontenaity is the spice of life....where are your testicles, man? You want out, say so, don;t try to put it all on her. And how do you know she isn't trying to make YOU take the reins and ask for a divorce?!!!
2007-03-10 13:36:25 · answer #8 · answered by j05gemini 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wel l you could start treating her realy badly and staying out all night. calling and talking to other women when she is around . flirting with the waitress at the restaurant. tell her you are in love with her mother and that you hate her cat/dog/hamster whatever.
if all that fails you could try growing a backbone and telling her the truth.
2007-03-10 13:38:07 · answer #9 · answered by simplyme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her the truth that you feel very unhappy and upset when she is mad because of the kind of things she said , and tell her dat if she continue dat you will leave her and find the one dat will respect you
2007-03-10 13:18:58 · answer #10 · answered by Memuna K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you have to do is ask a lawyer to draft the papers. noone has to give permission or ask for a divorce,
2007-03-10 13:28:31 · answer #11 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋