I took a million tests and they al said i was depressed. I dont want to tell my mom becauses she has enough stress with the divorce. Life has been really bad and now i have a chance to fufill my dream of being in a band but i cant belt out a song like i use to! I love singing and i know how to do it because ithey all herd me belt out "Lithium" by Evanescence. I can sing. but if i dont turn off the shyness im going to be kicked out of the band. I'm starting to heal but today its all comming back. I need help. How can i be ok again? SHould i tell the band everything thats happened to me so they can understand? I'm really confused and right now im thinking about it too much and crying my brains out. Please someone tell me how to get rid of this. (im not suicideal. I love to be alive thank you very much)
2007-03-10 12:49:19 · 10 answers · asked by Em . 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Music
Sry, thats a toughy... Depression sux, i've been there... But since your a singer, I suggest that you try to put your emotions into your music... I believe in order to be a band you have to trust one another, so if they don't know how you feel they will never be able to understand whats going on with you... As for being shy, there is only one way to get over it... thats just letting it go, which isn't easy... but itll hold u back until your able to let you be you no matter where your at or who ever is around you... then maybe one day youll be giving someone else your outlook on the same question... Goodluck and I hope it all works out, but don't give up just because you're scared...
2007-03-10 13:02:18 · answer #1 · answered by Dreamer of life 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep yourself busy. I would suggest working out, The Band, and being there for your Mom.
Working out will help release the tension, the exercises, and activity will help your body produce Endorphins to help you not stress. It doesn't have to be anything complicated, and can be as simple as taking a walk. Keep you looking fit, and more confident.
The band is a great idea to keep yourself busy as well. Use the emotion you feel to write a song about what is happening. Emotion and tough times make great material for a song.
Usually in the band one person is semi in charge/ manager type. Talk to them a little bit about the problem as well therefore letting them be your spokesperson to the rest of the band regarding it. Remember its part of a team.
Take some voice lessons !!
2007-03-10 22:03:25 · answer #2 · answered by Big Al 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man ,I must be pretty strong,ive been through an incredible amount and I carry on..Do things you like to do and quit worrying about what you cant control.Im in debt up to ten grand...I should be panicked,crying.But,no big deal....I can get through it.Think posotive,hang around with good friends,and make light of sticky situations.Keep your head up high and realise life is a gift. Do the good things in life,whetever they are and avoid negative people/influences.I have other problems id rather not discuss but I carry on.....and im happy.....and I dont use drugs. Smile and realise how important friends are. I hope things get better for you I really do!
2007-03-10 20:58:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your band members. If they don't care they aren't your band members. See a therapist at a mental health center and medication will help. funny tho, once I got on lithium I felt so much more like myself. Good luck
2007-03-10 20:54:17 · answer #4 · answered by dtwladyhawk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like bright light at home and loud music but that may not be you. You might go for a full medical exam and check out solutions at www.webmd.com Good luck.
2007-03-10 21:55:01 · answer #5 · answered by zeroartmac 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If being in a band is what would make you happy, by all means, join the band!
And then, fake it until you make it.
2007-03-10 20:53:14 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like everyone else said, do things that make ya happy, stay in the band.. but try seeing a counselor, i know someone just like you who started seeing a counselor. it's helped alot. they can prescribe medicide or just talk to you. believe me, it helps a bunch :)
2007-03-10 21:02:41 · answer #7 · answered by tested&true 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm positive you can find someone in your school to talk to.
Maybe a teacher, counselor, social worker?
Take care.
2007-03-10 20:57:21 · answer #8 · answered by Answer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the book "The Secrets" and change your thoughts.
They are just thoughts. You can choose new ones!
2007-03-10 20:56:53 · answer #9 · answered by ontheroadagainwithoutyou 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something that keeps you happy and stay busy!!
2007-03-10 20:51:46 · answer #10 · answered by wicked7 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋