ummmmmm..... i know it is wrong but i'm thirteen and i had sex my first time.... i was raped by my 16 year old boyfriend.. how do i tell my mom? i already went to the doctor i know for a fact i am pregnant i am so scared
2007-03-10 12:18:43 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Honey, I am so sorry for what has happened to you! You say you've already been to the doctor-GOOD FOR YOU! You need to sit your parents down for a talk soon-AS IN TONIGHT! The sooner you tell them, the more options you have. When you sit them down, tell them that you have something to say and ask them to please not interrupt until you are finished. Tell them exactly what you said here-that you were raped by your boyfriend. THEN...
Give them some alone time. They will be very suprized and will need time to digest this. This is something that's happening to them as well as to you. They probably still think of you as their baby girl, and always will. Don't be suprised if they are angry at first.
Oh yeah, and, bring the boyfriend to court. I know that's going to be hard, but it is something you must do. He needs to pay, and you need justice.
Good luck!
2007-03-10 12:28:44 · answer #1 · answered by thereligiousrightisneither 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Honey,
First of all why is your boyfriend sixteen? In some countries he is considered to be an adult at that age, and therefore has raped you. I know it hurts, but he might have only dated you because you're young and vulnerable.
So the doctor told you for a fact you are pregnant? You should get a second opinion before anything else. Get a test and see if it agrees.
If the test says that you are, infact pregnant, you need to tell your parents immediately. I'm not gonna lie to you--they're going to be mad, they're going to be upset--but they're the ones that will get you through this.
Your mom will probably take you to a clinic, and get you checkups and everything. So the health issue is sorted--just stay away from 'warning foods' when you are pregnant at such a young age (bleu cheese, Splenda(tm), alcohol, smoke, drugs ect.)
Worried what to do with the baby: adoption (probably the best for you and your baby)...abortion (I strongly advise against this)...or being a mother (though I warn you will lose the experience of being a kid)? Go to your school nurse, in the bathroom there are normally tags with helplines you can call. Or go to a Family Planning Clinic and discuss your options there.
Aww...I really wish you all the best! Good luck for you and your family! :-)
P.S. Stay strong! You can get through this, girl!
2007-03-10 13:27:24 · answer #2 · answered by Pieces Of Rainbowzz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're looking for a way to break the ice without having to say a word ...
Youths---Let Your Parents Help You Guard Your Heart!
- Why Obey Your Parents?
- Attraction to the Opposite Sex
- The Persuasive Power of Your Peers
- Worthy of Honor
http://watchtower.org/library/w/2004/10/15/article_01.htm
What's Wrong With Premarital Sex?
- What Fornication Includes
- Serious Threats
- Learning Self-Control
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2004/7/22a/article_01.htm
Teen Pregnancy :
- Mothers Too Soon
- A Global Tragedy
- Facing the Challenges of Teen Motherhood
- Help and Protection for Young Ones
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2004/10/8/article_01.htm
... you could print out (with source & copyright info intact) one or more of these articles, hand it to her, & take it from there.
I suggest reading at least the one you're going to hand her, first, though.
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(In case a link becomes modified, this can be used.) http://watchtower.org/search/search_e.htm
2007-03-10 20:05:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh honey. I just wanna give you a big hug right now. You need to go and tell your momma though. I know you may be scared and worried about what she'll say but you need to talk to her. If you keep it all bottled up it is going to harm you and your relationship with your mom cuz' she feel like you couldn't trust her well enough. Especially if you got raped. I would personaly go with you to the police station if I could. If you tell your mom, she will help you all the way. Just tell her honestly. and in the order you told us, raped and then pregnant. Its okay if you cry girl, I know its tough. tell your mom straight foward. "Mom, I need to talk to you privatly." then go into a seperate room and tell her everything. that is the best advice I can give you honey. Tell her and go to the police. Imagine me givin you a hug right now sugar. God bless you. you are a strong girl, don't listen to what other people say. You are a strong girl and you can do it.
Take care sweetie
K.K.
2007-03-10 14:28:12 · answer #4 · answered by Kurious_Kat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go tell your mom now! Especially because that son of a ***** raped you, she will understand you're her baby girl. And just remember whether or not your mom understands, and even if that son of a ***** threatens you (believe me he's not going to do anything), that you did nothing wrong, even if you went to a place alone with him, and even if you said it was okay at first, as soon as you changed your mind, as soon as you said no, or tried to push him off you, he was raping you. You need to tell your mom, especially so that boy can be put off in jail, so that you'll be completely safe. And if you already know you're pregnant, that means a couple of weeks have passed already, please don't wait any longer, you need to tell your mom now.
2007-03-12 21:43:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty, I would tell your mother as soon as you can. She is your mom and she could help you. You think she probably won't understand, but who knows she might. You are her little girl and she went through pregnancy too. Tell your mom. If you were raped did you let the police know? you should because that needs to be stopped, It is wrong and it destroys a lot of peoples lives. Let your mom and the police know! They could all help you. I will pray for you and your little one inside you. I will also pray for your situation! God Bless
2007-03-10 12:27:57 · answer #6 · answered by all4godsteam 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
wow ok im 18 now and had sex for the first time when i was 14, willingly. i went to my mother and told her, she was upset but did understand. considering the fact that you were raped ur mother will deff. understand, tell ur mom first what happened then tell her ur preg. if you want to keep the baby you need to go to a doctor and make sure everything is ok.
2007-03-10 12:37:02 · answer #7 · answered by Juliace & Cheyenne's Mommy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should look for help from your parents. They will help you out with it no matter how bad it is. Tell them the truth. Remember they alway love you since the day you born. They are the ones that you can trust. So have a good talk with them. To me you are still very young to be a mum.
Good luck.
2007-03-10 16:37:24 · answer #8 · answered by frozenyumiko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave that S.O.B. and file a police report. Then you need to tell your mother that you were raped and figure out if you want to keep the baby or put it up for adoption.
2007-03-11 00:57:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your mom, tell her you are on the computer. Using this question and answer program. Ask her how she would answer this question, then let her know the question came from you. Good luck!!
2007-03-10 12:41:49 · answer #10 · answered by need help 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋