It was the 2nd marriage for both of us. He is 42 Y.o. & he left me for a 25 yr old. I gave up alot to be with him. My house, independence, friends, & many other things. He is still w/his g'friend but he wants some action from me on the side. I'm still not over the divorce yet & can't understand what he is thinking! He said he would file for divorce, but he never did. I couldn't move on until I knew I was divorced so I filed and it was done in October. Why would he want to come back around but then tell everyone he hates me & never talks to me. Which he dosen't unless he wants something. I haven't seen his kids in almost a year & I miss them. My kids miss them. I gave back everything he gave to me & he gave it to his new g'friend. I found out my wedding ring was an old engagement ring that he had given his previous g'friend. Am I crazy or is he going to screw up his current g'friends life also? He's already cheated on her 4 times this year w/me.
2007-03-10 12:14:26 · 11 answers · asked by !Sweetie! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm not much older than his new girlfriend. I'll be 30 in April. One of the things that worries me is he knows that I get an inheritance when I turn 30 and he is a dentist that is going through bancruptcy. I guess him wanting to sleep w/me just confirms that he will never change & he will do the same with this girl!! How do I completely cut ties w/him. He has to pay me spousal support for 2 years. HE use to send the check to the lawyer but now he wants to drop it off each month. I even gave him envelopes w/stamps so he could mail them each month. I have tried to tell his girlfriend but she won't listen!! I'm also really good friends w/his other ex-wife. She's the only good thing that came out of the divorce!
2007-03-10 14:38:18 · update #1
eww first of all, you need to say no to this cheater/liar. i mean, stop giving in to him for sex. he could give you stds with all that sleeping around.
and secondly, whether your kids miss his kids or not, you must set the standard, the example for them. you need to have respect for yourself! and respect for marriage - don't settle for this mess of a relationship or dwell on all the crap that he's done to you, because your children are watching and they will think that it is "ok".
you made a mistake (marrying him) but you can pick up the pieces and be a strong woman. i wish you strength.
2007-03-10 13:47:36 · answer #1 · answered by annenymous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants new relationship sex a lot. You aren't stopping him. His others aren't stopping him.
Why in the hell would he stop what's working out well for him?
Learn your lesson that he's an ***, set yourself up to be self supporting financially (go to school if you haven't), and take things slower next time. Consider not looking for a HUSBAND and instead look for a life partner that will let you lead your life the way you need to but together.
2007-03-10 12:54:52 · answer #2 · answered by Deathbunny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-14 15:57:28 · answer #3 · answered by ricaurte 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe he wants his cake and eat it too. But since you've already said that he cheated on you, why do you want him back in your life? Is he going to remain faithful to his new girlfriend? I think you already have the answer to that. Also, just because he starts to come around and talk nice doesn't mean that you have to bed him. He gave you nothing but heartache and someone else ring?? MOVE ON!
2007-03-10 12:53:28 · answer #4 · answered by J C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you like, STUPID? who cares! MOVE ON! Tell him to get a life and never mind his kids! Let his 25 yr old girlfriend worry about them! Worry about your own kids ! Dont talk to him again & dont sleep with him again. You never know what disease his 25 yr old has........
2007-03-10 12:30:51 · answer #5 · answered by Mammamia3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stay away from him. All you are doing is causing yourself more grief. He isn't going to change. Move on and next time take it slower.
2007-03-10 12:18:52 · answer #6 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you really know the answer for yourself all along. Its just hard for you to decide coz you still have feelings for him, is it?
Well, dont go back to him or accept him. HE WILL JUST USE YOU FOR HIS FINANCIAL PROBLEM AND YOU KNOW IT.
Think of yourself and your children and their future.
2007-03-11 05:47:23 · answer #7 · answered by Nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are crazy.Get over him....And Yes he will mess up another woman's life. Why are you even giving him any thought? He is a big looser.
2007-03-10 12:57:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop worrying about him and his current harem, get on with your life and spend quality time with your children, they need you to pay attention to their lives.
2007-03-10 12:21:39 · answer #9 · answered by Nighthawk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to find himself another F^&*$# girl cuz were over
2007-03-10 12:29:09 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋