I have a boyfriend who hides things in the house and i find them and there was agruements about that those things and i dont know how bring them up cause he always say its all my fault about everything cause i have low self esteem and etc. Plus he leaves every night and dont get home to who knows when plus he just says hes only going to his cousins and the bar. I have no clue what to do. please help
2007-03-10 11:47:41 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
jealous and insecure???
dump him and move on... and get yourself a rel life lover or cyber-lover to help with the esteem problems..
2007-03-10 11:50:54 · answer #1 · answered by Forlorn Hope - returned 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem here is not clear to understand what the situation is all about. It leaves on to think your boyfriend is not faithful and hiding inappropriate things in the house that is no right which brings on the arguments. Try going with him when he leaves and tell him to stop bringing or hiding those things in the house and see if this will solve your problems, if not you are already free and not married which leaves you open to make some other decisions.
2007-03-10 20:01:49 · answer #2 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd dump him. It doesn't sound like it's worth fighting for (or over) if he's not willing to admit fault or change. If you have low self esteem and he knows it and you know he knows it and you allow him to take advantage of that- well then there's an upper hand in the relationship. And relationships in which one person has power over the other person NEVER work out. It's time you find someone who is willing to raise you up instead of tear you down. Best wishes!
2007-03-10 21:11:14 · answer #3 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him bully you and turn things around to try & make it your fault. You have a right to say what's bothering you and if this guy cares about you at all he will be willing to listen to you. He should care about your feelings. If he doesn't, why are you with him? You said you have low self esteem. Well, he isn't helping it any. He is taking advantage of that fact. Love and respect yourself enough to expect someone to treat you with dignity and respect. You deserve that. If he loves you, he shouldn't be out every night without you. This doesn't sound like a good relationship and I think it's only making you feel worse about yourself. I think it's time to let this one go for your sake. Find someone who will be kind and considerate of you.
2007-03-10 20:50:24 · answer #4 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its wise that you talk to him and find out why he does these things. After all, can't you guys go out together? Why does he go out to the bar by himself?
I personally would not trust this type of behavior and just move on. But in all fairness, you will get the answers you need if you talk to him. You will know if he is lying to you or not. You will feel it in your gut.
If my boyfriend was hiding things from me, there would be no way i'd carry on a relationship with him. Ask yourself, is that the kind of man that you want to marry? One who is in a bar at all hours of the night? Is that the kind of man you want in your life? One who is constantly hiding things and then blaming you for being so insecure.. That is a form of abuse you know, its a mild form, but still abuse none the less. Don't fall for it. Stay strong, and either talk to him or move on...
2007-03-10 19:58:35 · answer #5 · answered by Deu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is he hiding and why does it bother you? It would bother me too if my husband was gone at all hours. Talk to him, if he doesn't want to change, leave him. Maybe he's the reason you have a low self esteem.
2007-03-10 19:52:15 · answer #6 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to move on. There is no reason for you to take the blame for everything. That will make you feel bad about yourself. You don't need that. There are more men out there for you to date. The same way you caught his eye you will catch another mans eye. Don't stay in this relationship please move on and make yourself happy.
2007-03-10 19:55:11 · answer #7 · answered by reddchilds 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just like knowing right from wrong,like you do,shifting his guilt over,to you,allows him to feel dominant when -ever and how-ever he feels and places you in a undesirable role.If he's pretending ,your who he loves,he's given you one too many promises.
2007-03-11 00:42:42 · answer #8 · answered by dan_614@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a squid. Leave & move on.
2007-03-10 20:02:04 · answer #9 · answered by packingal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get off your *** and leave signs are obviously everywhere **** doesnt add up for you trust your instict and go because your insticts are right
2007-03-10 19:52:24 · answer #10 · answered by qball2161 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋