here´s the thing, i´m pretty confused with my sexual orientation. i´m 16 years old and i sometimes gaze at male bodies and keep fantasies about them, but i think girls are super hot and have fantacies with them too. i don´t know wtf is going on with me... i need help, please!!
2007-03-10 11:46:11 · 32 answers · asked by S. Moncrieff 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
you're bisexual.
2007-03-10 11:50:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You could be Bi or Bi-Curious. There are a lot of quesitons to be answered to find your true sexuality and until you get into a relationship with someone you migh not be completely accurate.
You have just described your mind has thoughts for both so there is a chance your bisexual.
The questions to find out mainly are would you ever go out with a guy or have current feelings for one? Would you have sexual contact with a guy? Stuff mainly like that, write out what you would and would not do and if you feel comfortable display the results and I'm sure someone with experience can give you an exact answer. ;) Goodluck mate, I'm 14 and been there very confusing indeed.
2007-03-14 03:06:15 · answer #2 · answered by FuturisticKid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are bi sexual to me, I'm gay and I thought about girls for a little bit when i was your age I think it is just your mind thinking sexually about every option and deciding which one it likes the best / grosses it out the most. Just take things slowly if your doing anything with anybody, but enjoy your solo fanatasies and let your mind decide what it likes best. You are still you at the end of it all and love is possible with either sex, so just enjoy and go with the flow and if your confused don;t worry we all are at first as we don;t relly know what and how we do it until we do!
2007-03-11 06:23:42 · answer #3 · answered by walk like a panther 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the moment you dont know and by the sound of it you have had very little practical experiance.
Only you can tell weather its a boy or a girl that really pushes your buttons. Im afraid the only one who can sort this out is you.
If you make the right moves and make the right choice for you, then you will know.
It seems to me that the only way you are ever going to find out is to have experiances or intimate contact with boys & girls.
Reading between the lines I think you are more a boys>boy & your masculinity is under attack in so much that unbeknown to you, your natural defence is also to find girls attractive.
Hey but dont worry everything that you are experiancing now is normal for you, you are not allone most boys go through it. Go to www.boysunderattack.com thats my advice.
Take care Davidxxx
2007-03-11 05:05:43 · answer #4 · answered by wowdavid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure that this can feel confusing for you. You are 16 years of age, it is completely normal for young men to fantasize about other men, even sexually. This doesn't mean that your a homosexual or a bisexual. This is a normal stage of Psycosexual development. Many men go through the stage of fantasizing about other men and may even have encounters with men around their own age, but this doesn't mean that they are any sexual orientation. So, try not to let it bother you, as you may not be a homosexual, you are just going through the normal stages of development. As you go on through life, more than likely around your 20s or so, you will know what is right to yourself and you will pursue it as you know how to.
2007-03-10 12:32:32 · answer #5 · answered by Mickey Von Luttrell 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're obviously bisexual, if you feel attraction to both men and women. If you don't find both sexually attractive, then you're not. But, you can find a girl or guy attractive and not be bi, it just depends on how deep your feelings are for people. Just go with how you feel and you will figure it out, don't worry about it too much, there are a lot of people who feel the same way as you, you are not alone.
2007-03-10 13:27:09 · answer #6 · answered by Wonderer89 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
jeez, give the lad a break.
it is quite natural for young men to feel attraction to other males, just as it is for females to feel attracted to other females.
do not worry about it mate, it could be a phase and it will pass, leaving you with a much clearer head.
all these people telling you that you MUST be bi are totally wrong.
you will be the only person who can find this out and it will take its own course, please do not listen to bad advice, a mistake now will leave you in an even more confused state.
do nothing until you are certain, and remember whichever way it turns out for you, your family will always be there for you.
good luck
2007-03-11 17:53:23 · answer #7 · answered by safcian 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is natural for a young man to admire more mature male bodies, it does not have to be homosexual to love, emulate or want to follow other men.
If you have been in a service and been led by really good leaders, with mates you would lay your life down for, you are on a different planet.
A real woman, who will be the other half of your life is someone to search for.
Give yourself time, enjoy all of life.
2007-03-14 09:35:54 · answer #8 · answered by jimgdad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what your fantasies are. You could simply be admiring them, with fantasies along the lines of "oh, I wish I could be like them,". Alternatively, if you have sexual desires, then you are bicurious at this stage. Don't let this worry you. Approximately 38% of males have had a same sex experience/desire at some point in their life. Its regular behaviour and fantasies which confirm your orientation.
Acting out on these feelings will confirm your orientation.
If you are sexually and romantically attracted to guys only, then you are homosexual.
If you are sexually and romantically attracted to girls only, then you are heterosexual.
If you are sexually and/or romantically attracted to guys and girls, and recognise the significance, then you are bisexual.
2007-03-13 06:25:52 · answer #9 · answered by nemesis 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey, You are Bi sexual and there is absolutly nothing wrong with that. I live in manchester and we have a huge GAY village. We don't live in a world anymore that say's that we should all be the same and 'normal'. Hell maybe no one else will admit it but we have all had fantasies about the same sex at one point in time. Good luck to you and I hope you find happiness with whatever gender suits you. XXX
2007-03-10 12:42:13 · answer #10 · answered by Sassyjay 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are at the age when anything & everything to do with sex raises curiosity. Don't worry, any uncertainty would sort itself out. You will know soon enough. Just enjoy your friendship with both boys & girls. Whatever your sexual orientation, friends are always precious, whatever their gender.
2007-03-12 03:20:38 · answer #11 · answered by MoiMoii 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋