I had a big crush with this girl who used to work during the holidays up to mid January. Since she left i have this shooting feeling in my chest everytime i walk into that place ( a retailing store). i might seem childlish but I cannot stop of thinking about her, every place, every department ( we worked together during inventory time all around the store) and even some of the music that they play in the store reminds me to her. Is like being in a torture chamber for like five hours. Please dont make fun of me, maybe some of you have been in the same situation. I try to keep my mind busy focusing on my job but that works only for a short period of time. I dont think another girl like her will come and make me feel the same way since Macy's hires old women mostly.I've been thinking i should start searching for another job because unless i get out of there i wont be able to forget her and move on. Please help it hurts so bad.
2007-03-10 11:19:51 · 8 answers · asked by Kat fish 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I tried to contacter but she doesnt reply my emails. Its obvious that i need to forget about her and move on, but i cnat while i still there, everything in that store reminds me to her, i tried so hard to dont think that way but i just cant take it anymore. Sometimes i feel like just walking out and crying this feeling out loud.
2007-03-10 11:36:18 · update #1
I would suggest looking for a new job since this one seems to bring baf memories. You do realize you have to move on without her? The right thing to do is tell yourself she isn't worth it and make yourself believe it. Sometimes we get caught into a rought loving someone who will not return that love. One thing for sure you can't make her love you. Also maybe you came on a little to strong, that scares women and girls. Next time you start to like someone play it cool.
2007-03-10 12:21:31 · answer #1 · answered by dollynjanie 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you've been working there for several years and have established a really nice income, then I would try a bit harder to get over her. Focus your efforts towards a promotion.
If you haven't been working there long and don't plan on making it a career, then by all means find a different job. There's no sense in getting that panicked feeling every time you work. I used to get that feeling too- but it was just because I didn't like working there. :) I suppose it's a bit different when it's over a girl.
Don't feel silly. It's perfectly natural to associate places and songs with people you care about. Anyone who says differently either hasn't been in love or is just in denial.
Best wishes!
2007-03-10 13:16:45 · answer #2 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you need the job, you'd be insane to drop it just because you feel that way. Think about it logically. If you really want to switch jobs, then get another job FIRST, THEN switch. But if you're getting benefits and whatever else at Macy's, then why would you give that all up?
As for this huge crush, if you aren't going to ever see her again, then give up, and just deal with it. The real world really sucks, and things don't always go your way. It sounds harsh typing it, but it's true. You're just going to have to cry it out, and maybe try switching to a different department.
This will probably just blow over in a while anyway, it just takes time.
2007-03-10 11:26:25 · answer #3 · answered by Fabulously Broke in the City 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up try other ways of contacting her until you find out if she has a bf or just want friends. At least you tried. If anything at least you have a friend. 2nd do you like your job, maybe you should try something new. YOu have nothing to lose at 25. I'm sure you could fine something. Just set you mind and send your resume out there, spend time at barnes and noble to read up on interview tips. Go to bookstores, starbucks, college campus to find quality girlfriend material. On your virgin at 25 question save your virginity for the one you care and love. Even if the relationship doesn't last forever at least the sex was meaningful. Don't use escorts!!! if you have time please answer my questions, need advice.
2007-03-10 15:02:41 · answer #4 · answered by Confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly, you'll likely experience a good deal of thoughts - alleviation, overjoy, be apologetic about and uncertainty. They dont continuously come suitable away . . . once you get your next activity, and its happier and bigger profitable - then you definately will finally end up feeling like you only got here out of a cacoon and also you are able to ask your self why you in no way left before. i wish you had yet another plan in ideas before you probably did the massive go out :)
2016-12-01 19:35:10 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't quit your job until you have another job. Better yet, why not try contacting the girl and asking her out? She may be having the same feelings you are at this exact same moment.
Good luck!
2007-03-10 11:28:33 · answer #6 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever thought of contacting her? Give yourself a chance...what do you have to loose? She is not working with you...that's better...the situation is not complicated...don't be a chicken call her...maybe she likes you too, if not...at least you tried...:)
:)
2007-03-10 11:25:48 · answer #7 · answered by Aquamarine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you find the girl! Why did you let her slip away!
Live for the moment that's all you got!
2007-03-10 11:25:36 · answer #8 · answered by Ivan S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋