2007-03-10 10:51:17 · 14 answers · asked by candy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I can tell you from personal experience. I slept with enough guys, growing up, being sexually active at age 12...been through it all, trust me. Nver thought it would matter about all this sex iv'e had. Them i grew up....just recently in fact....im 34....i met the man, i was born to be with. The absolute love of my life......i always thought i was in love, till this man came along....he is like no other.........I dream about him being my "only one"...ive told him how i felt...now to be really able to tell your husband...that u love more then life itsself.....that he is your only one....and it be true, and he knows it....its the best feeling in the world. It make you have this bond...that noone else shares with either of you. And your children will love and respect you that much more, and have this story to tell to there children as well. Trust me, its worth the wait.....i wish so much that i had....and ii live with the greif the rest of my life now.
2007-03-10 11:03:54 · answer #1 · answered by combodeal2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know in this time and age young girls don't think it's important to stay a virgin. However, I'm glad I waited until I got married and share my love with only one person. We've been married 25 years this April.
Some of my friends shared that they didn't wait and they regretted it everyday since. I notice they all had problems with trust and many other issues just because of that. I have to say that I entered my life with my husband with a clean heart and no baggage trailing behind me. I feel that because I waited I found more happiness with myself and with my marriage.
I can't tell you what to do, that is a decision you have to make and one you will have to live with. So I hope that you will really think about it very carefully and make the right decision for you...not for your boyfriend or friends.
Good luck honey, and I hope your life will be filled with happiness and joy.
2007-03-10 19:20:50 · answer #2 · answered by Txgirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is very important I was a virgin until I was 23 years old, and I have been married to the same man for 26 years, I am so proud of myself for waiting for the right man. Do not let yourself be passed around like an old pair of shoes; you have two choices to make one is for the boys to respect you, or two they can treat you like a tramp, with no respect the decision is yours.
2007-03-10 19:47:48 · answer #3 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a girl thats 35 and so not a virgin... You don't want to look back on your sexual life and think "Why did I waste my body that way." It actually kept me from getting emotionally close to guys at all. It's really easy just to focus on the physical, and never really get to know the guy your with at all. And, I happen to enjoy the sex much more now that I'm with someone I intend to spend the rest of my life with. It has an emotional aspect that keeps growing with time. It's just totally different, and way cooler.
2007-03-10 19:05:04 · answer #4 · answered by Pahd 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes keeping your virginity can be hard if its someone you love,but at fifteen years old your so young you have your hole life in your eyes dont take that risk so early,if you do end up having a relationship with that person theres ways you can talk and hug wear you can express your feelings without intercourse but of course when you fall for someone those feelings will always be there but keep them mental only ,I know its hard but you wont feel cheap at least and feel like crap if you handle it that way!!
2007-03-10 19:46:10 · answer #5 · answered by Miruule f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One important thing is that you are too young to worry about sex when you have a lot of growing still to do. Focus on school and what you want out of life......think about it. The average life expectancy for a woman is 70+. You have 60+ years for sex. Also, another importance is so you don't catch a disease or get pregnant. Yeah, I know, condoms and birth control.......well, they don't always work and you don't want to be a statistic. Wait and if your boyfriend doesn't want to, then let him go because he doesn't respect you. Good luck!
2007-03-10 19:35:42 · answer #6 · answered by itsjustme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Such a good question! Your husband of the future, the man you choose to marry, will very much appreciate that his girl conducted her life in such a way that she carried no emotional or physical baggage into the marriage. Women who have slept around alot, women with std's, women who have been abused or emotionally hurt from previous lovers are not very good choices for wives because they have developed habits that are hard to break and make building a family just a little more tricky. Good luck!
2007-03-10 18:57:50 · answer #7 · answered by Paul 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it's considered pious. society, culture and religious beliefs consider it a good thing. so would your future hubby. doesnt mean he's going to treat you good or bad in the long run.
you keep your virginity because of how you feel about it, by your upbringing, by your parents, friends, beliefs, etc.
Choose a mate who is good to you for all reasons...not just because you are virgin. make all your emotions and needs as sacred as well. peace
2007-03-10 19:07:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because you can only give it away once. If you wait, you can't regret not waiting.
There are some good arguments to be made for teen anstinence...not being fully prepared psychologically, for example.
Sex isn't just a physical act (especially for girls). You give away a piece of yourself, emotionally, and it's a decision not to be taken lightly.
Stay strong!
2007-03-10 19:00:02 · answer #9 · answered by sylvyahr 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
im 15 too, yet would you want to say to your husband when you are married that you had lost your virginity already?
that could be a bummer for him, so being a virgin is something you should be proud of.
2007-03-10 19:07:42 · answer #10 · answered by D3V!N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋