He never looks at me the same, and he is buried in his work which makes me feel like he is married to that instead of me. I am at the point of depression and he thinks that I need to get over it...........
2007-03-10 10:32:09 · 20 answers · asked by rm8905 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is a common problem with many women. First I suggest stop questioning yourself. You r beautiful, and always remember that. The moment you stop thinking about yourself like that, the world will do the same. Secondly, have you been doing things differently or maybe stop doing things due to lack of time. I mean, do you still groom yourself. If you do, then take time to take it one step ahead. Go get a haircut, put on some music, make some really sexy food and have a candlelight dinner with some wine. That should surely do the trick. Or if you want to take thing further, take some strip dance lessons and surprise your husband. Trust me it sounds extreme, but it works. The key is to appeal to the guy in the most rural fashion. Hope you succeed...but remember you are beautiful only if you feel so. So dont lose confidence in yourself at all!
2007-03-10 11:41:51 · answer #1 · answered by Lucky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you two need to set some time aside for each other. When was the last time you had a date with him? Even if it's just a few hours to spend completely enjoying each other, it makes a difference.
I recently read about the various stages that a relationship goes through, based on hormone changes and being together for an amount of time. After about two years, you need to take an active role in keeping it spicy. Do something unpredictable, talk sexy to him, try a little massge oil in bed. If you take him by surprise, you'll keep him wondering what's next. Good luck :)
2007-03-10 10:42:09 · answer #2 · answered by Beach Bum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried just looking beautiful for you. I am in kinda of the same boat. I feel like my husband looks through me rather then at me, and in a recent chat with a friend she asked me that question. Why do we need to look beautiful for just our family (husband) mainly. Let look good for ourselves. So I took her advice to heart and looked inside. I bought a journal and started to write down everyday that I am beautiful. I am starting to feel it. I walk around with a lot more confidence and find that I relay don't care if my husband doesn't notice. Your husband shouldn't be telling you to get over it either, He obviously is not getting the severity of the problem. You should tell him this. He needs to learn that its just not a feeling its the emotion behind it and when we get ignored it hurts and starts to effect our self conscious.
2007-03-10 10:41:18 · answer #3 · answered by kris10sh 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need major grief therapy NOW, not a divorce. Accept his help, recognize that he is grieving, too, and ask him to help you get counseling. You both made this child, and you will both grieve this child's death. Isolation is a part of grief, but is not an excuse to permanently end the one relationship that can be your rock as you go through this. My heart goes out to you. Call a crisis line now, and dammit, where was the freaking grief counseling at the hospital? Your OB should have a list of places you can call, or check with your insurance case manager.
2016-03-28 23:24:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it happens to everyone at some point of time in a relationship.its normal. with responsibility, kids its not the same way like how it was in the initial yrs of marriage. good that he is working so hard.i feel that you should be attractive for yourself first .have good friends ,take up a hobby and enjoy yourself. when u r happy and enjoying ur husband will notice immediately.go out watch movies and just have a good time. '' Happiness is a choice that requires effort at times.''
2007-03-10 11:43:42 · answer #5 · answered by tina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with kris10sh. I too am going through the same thing and am on anti-depression medication for this. Only my husband is not buried in work. I don't think he just "gets" it. I am now doing things for ME. Make yourself happy...get your nails done, start going for walks, do things YOU want to do. And if you happen to find someone who cares for you in the meantime...GOOD FOR YOU! Why stay unhappy? Me? I am just waiting to get bills paid then I am gone. Good luck
2007-03-10 10:54:40 · answer #6 · answered by ladygwen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know what makes a woman really sexy? Confidence. So try to be more confident about yourself, both inside and out. You are beautiful as long as you believe you are beautiful. For exterior, invest some money for new clothes, go get nice hair cut, nail care and make-up. For inside, read good books, watch good movies, meet good friends...keep yourself busy for what you normally enjoy. A woman who knows how to enjoy her own life is very sexy and attractive to everyone, no need to mention, to your husband, too. Good luck.
2007-03-10 14:12:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you feel so badly about your self. Maybe you need to plan a surprise trip for just the two of you. A long weekend looked in a hotel room!! Some time to rekindle.
2007-03-10 13:03:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor husband...buried in work. I suggest you get a copy of "The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands" so you know how you can change his attitude!
2007-03-10 10:49:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont let his opinion influence how you feel about yourself. Make a list of things you have always wanted todo/accomplish and start doing them. If your life is full your confidence and self esteem will behigh and it wont matterwhat he thinks. He wont know what hit him. The he'll be singing a different tune.
2007-03-10 10:38:35 · answer #10 · answered by Sunshiine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋