My close friend declared his love for me about a month ago, we rarely get to see each other so we used to talk on messenger almost everyday and call once in a while...(thats how he got to know me) - whenever we call, we always seemed to end up chatting for about 2 hours
But now his internet has cut off, so the only way i get to chat to him is on the phone, and somehow i feel as though if i talk to him on the phone for 2 hours it would lead him on, and i dont want to do that - i can talk to him on msn for hours on end but i dont feel like im leading him on, but when its on the phone, it feels different...(bare in mind, i dont call him everyday, i only call him maybe about once a week - i used to talk to him everyday, but now i dont so i've resorted to calling)
There's no chance of him and me being together, and ive told him that directly many times, he says that he respects my decision but i think he still has hope...
Whats the right thing to do?
2007-03-10 10:31:25 · 7 answers · asked by Miss Terious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you can only control your feelings. not his. he will tolerate what he wants to. if you continue to talk to him because he is your friend and your feelings dont change. maybe his wont either. whether you think he has hope or not ..is your assumption. not necessarily what he thinks. peace
2007-03-10 10:37:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you want to continue the friendship and that's good. It can be difficult though, you don't want to change your behaviour, but at the same time you don't want to lead him on.
As long as you've been clear about where you stand, it should be okay. And I mean clear, many of us guys aren't very good at subtlety!
That said, is there any particular reason why you guys couldn't be together? You seem to have a great bond with him. It's not always the case, but sometimes the 'dream guy' is the one which has been right in front of you in the face all the time.
2007-03-10 10:56:42 · answer #2 · answered by Jones2010 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him the truth face to face i have made the mistake and regrete every moment of it when i was at college a guy i knew and liked as a friend told me he liked me i didnt know how to react so i put it outta my head until bout a week before we were leaving college i wrote a letter and explaned every thing i gave it to him on the last day and never heard anything from him again this was a year ago but he is still not answerin my calls or texts i wish i had done it all differently i can only give you thye advice to think carefully about how you tell him
2007-03-10 12:29:01 · answer #3 · answered by weirdo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do whatever YOU feel comfortable with.
If you are not that interested with him to pursue a relationship then don't. It would not hurt to date him though (not at the expense of your integrity however).
Maybe it is that he is too close to consider him as anything other than a friend. If you are happy with that - then let it stay like that.
Make sure you call your own shots.
2007-03-14 08:28:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what makes you feel comfortable .. if your not telling him you want to be with him over the phone and the both of you have a understanding then there shouldnt be any problems with leading him on. good luck!
2007-03-10 10:38:05 · answer #5 · answered by hopefloats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are doing all the right things, but perhaps you could gently start talking about finding a boyfriend and see how that works with him. Take care Heather
2007-03-10 10:35:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The length ofv time or frequency of calls does not have anything to do with leading him on. What you say to him is what matters.
Just tell it like it is with him!
2007-03-10 10:43:16 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ T O N I ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋