My friend is only 15 and having unprotected sex with guys way older than her. For the past few months I've been taking her to get pregnancy test after pregnancy test. I spent a while telling her about babies and how she should use protection only for her to call me a few days after requesting another pregnancy test. I think she's either afraid to ask the guys to strap up or she just doesn't want too but she's a soph. in high skool and i'mma Senior just tryna be a good role model and tell her right from wrong...its not working...I even asked her to go to the clinic and get condoms or get the pills and she acted as if she didnt know what a condom was and told me she was on the shot once but it hurt too bad.....what am I to do, i dont want her to end like some of the girls I've seen get pregnant and struggle thru school????
2007-03-10 10:24:23 · 11 answers · asked by chocolateflavadgurl 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It sounds to me like you are being a good friend and role model to her. My suggestion is to go to your school guidance counselor and try and get her to talk with them, they have more experience dealing with things like this and may be able to help her realize what she is doing to herself in ways you can't. Don't put to much pressure on yourself, there is only so much you can do and it sounds like you have been doing everything you can to help her.
2007-03-10 11:06:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's got the money to buy a pregnancy test, she's got the money to buy condoms. Take her to the store, and MAKE her buy them. If she's too embarrassed to buy condoms, then she's too immature to be having sex.
If she's having sex with guys 18 and older, that's statutory rape. Anyone who touches her has the potential of being labeled a sex offender for the rest of his life. He'll have to register with local law enforcement wherever he goes, his picture will be on the Internet, and he won't be able to work in certain areas or at certain jobs. If you know the guys, that's always something you could mention.
I'd also recommend that you speak with the school guidance counselor about this. She needs serious help, and if she doesn't get it she's going to get pregnant and bring a baby into this world who doesn't deserve to have a mother who is so immature that she can't even ask a guy who is about to put a part of his body into her's to put on a condom. Get her help now. You're a good friend, but sometimes you have to get tough to get your point across.
2007-03-10 10:33:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i honestly didn't read through the other answers here besides the first one, i'm sure there's a lot of great tips here, and maybe you should try some combination of all of them. I'd just like to add that you could go to a clinic to get some free condoms (or maybe your school nurse/sex ed teacher has them for free) and give them to her? Just one more suggestion.
The real reason why I wanted to answer though is that I hope that you aren't taking too much pressure and putting it on yourself. You are being a good friend by helping her, but if she doesn't want REAL HELP (the kind you're trying to give and she's not taking) then please don't kill yourself over it...sounds like you've got a good head on your shoulders and you're taking care of business in your own life. Keep that up! Keep helping your "friend" if you want to, but keep taking care of yourself, your school work, etc. too. This girl may say thanks everytime you help her get a test, but if she really appreciated you she'd listen to you.
Just rereading your question I have to wonder--is there any chance she's TRYING to get pregnant? (Maybe she won't admit it, but maybe she sees getting one of these older guys to get her pregnant is a great way to get out of school and have them take care of her for the rest of her life....she's sorely mistaken if that's what she thinks, but she's young, who knows what kind of idea she might have in her head!) Just thinking...
Good luck.
2007-03-10 10:59:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you've been an excellent role model, and you have done almost everything possible. You might try the shock value approach. Show her a video of a live birth or some really horrible cases of STDs. Worked for me.
2007-03-10 10:30:02 · answer #4 · answered by DizziDazi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you've been very mature about it and i think you have been an excellent role model. but as for your friend she's NOT gonna listen to you, people are gonna do what they want to do until its too late. let her find out for her self and once she does get pregnant or gets an std she gonna say "i should have listened" also refuse to take her to doctors for anymore pregnancy tests. tell her youre not gonna be a part of her stupid decision.
2007-03-14 08:14:16 · answer #5 · answered by moore_256 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you keep talking to her. she is to young to be a mom .and remember if she get pregnant that kid won't want to be tied down whereis the money going to come from to raise that baby and what if it is a special needsbaby then what and it's not fair for the parents to take care of that baby. they are still taking care of u enjoy life theres time for babies later .i know i was 17 when i had my daughter it was hard .my parents made me take care of her but they were there if needed. i was just another hole in a guys belt. please be careful
2007-03-10 10:41:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you have done good so far the next step is to tell her you will not be taking her to get tests anymore bc you have asked her many times to be responsible and its just not cool to throw her life away or get aids or sumthing like that so tell her shes on her own
2007-03-10 10:46:21 · answer #7 · answered by momma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe take her to see some girls her age that have babies. They can tell her how hard it is and encourage her to use protection.
2007-03-10 10:33:58 · answer #8 · answered by Kat H 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She will have to find out for herself. You've been providing her with al the help and resources she needs
2007-03-10 10:32:05 · answer #9 · answered by Mah10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in the same situation me and this girl are closer than sisters, but after she startd doin that i told her wat ppl thought of girls who do that, adn wen she wanted me to go wit her to get a pregancy test i didnt go i told her i didnt support wat she was doing i quit hangin wit her in public places..wen she asked why i told her i felt bad 4 her but if she wasnt willing to help herself then i didnt want to be around wen ppl started talking about her and picking at her. it was either me or the risk of pregnancy and/a serious std.....make her choose i think she will make the rite choice
2007-03-10 10:33:43 · answer #10 · answered by rawr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋